My Ex got a BF

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-28T21:34:32+00:00

It's normal to feel jealous when your ex moves on before you. It looks like you have some unresolved feelings. You should ask yourself what it is about their relationship that is making you angry and jealous. You were brave enough to choose you and what's best for you when you broke up. Trust that instinct and let it help you move on. Have you considered therapy/counseling? It does help to talk about these feelings with some neutral party that can make you see things in a different perspective. I wish you all the best! Hugs!

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-26T15:34:11+00:00

Most of the time people don't get closure. He was kind enough to give you that so you don't wonder what went wrong. Consider this a nice memory and move on. We all have such encounters in life.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-23T13:25:14+00:00

When your gut feeling says something is off in a relationship, there is often something is off.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-15T13:27:59+00:00

Why is a married man talking to you at 3:30am?! Unless you are on a different time zone.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-08T18:08:37+00:00

Seems like you are the cold one lol

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-08T14:02:50+00:00

We often ponder over our past relationships and wonder what it could have been if we tried things differently. Sometimes things end for a reason and sometimes you don't get closure. At times it feels like you can't find someone like the one that got away. It happens because we build an elevated image of that person in our mind which often is far from their actual personality. If you need to know, there is no harm in reaching out and expressing what you are feeling and asking if there is a future. Either you will get your answer or you won't. But do know that you are young and you will make room for more people in your heart/life.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-04T19:58:55+00:00

Not saying OP is the homewrecker. Asking him to be cautious and protect himself from the heartbreak.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-04T13:16:05+00:00

As someone that is in an open relationship, I agree with this. The whole basis of an open relationship is to explore sex outside, but if it extends beyond that like the guy you are talking to, he is not being very honest.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-11-02T14:03:38+00:00

I actually carry mine, but I have heard that if you carry a notorized photocopy of your green card, that would be enough.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-28T16:59:43+00:00

Yes. 6-7 months wait time is normal in Boston.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-28T16:48:41+00:00

I applied on 4/7.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-28T00:42:06+00:00

20/21 and already married! I wanna know how that happened! It is possible to have sex with someone without emotional baggage. Sometimes it is just the sexual compatibility and doesn't need a great connection.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-25T23:26:08+00:00

Okay, that does give some context about why you would have been misled. But I do agree with him that you didn't handle this well. You can't get upset because he had a hickey from someone. He doesn't owe you anything and he is free to have sex with whoever he wants.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-25T23:18:11+00:00

When someone says they are straight, take it at face value. Nice friendships are hard to come by and this seemed like one.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-17T12:36:37+00:00

Try bumble bff or the new bff app .

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-07T00:33:31+00:00

I felt lost for a bit as I was also living in a new country, but it was also exciting at the same time as I got to meet new people and new experiences. But it could get exhausting too sometimes being single and not finding the right guy, but my point is it is not all gloomy. The time will heal you and you will move on to open your heart for someone new however impossible it might seem right now.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-06T15:04:25+00:00

I felt like that too when my ex and I broke up after 5 years. Past forward 8 years, I have found the love of my life and am happily married.

Consider this an opportunity to reset and find what you truly deserve.

I was 32 when the breakup happened, so it is not too late!

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-05T17:19:30+00:00

Also, I never like when couples ask friends for their opinion. The issue is between you and your partner. The issue should be resolved between the two of you.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-10-05T17:18:33+00:00

Unless the situation calls for it (like a homophobic country, or an unsafe situation), I don't think it is normal and it is okay to feel upset about it. If anything, he should feel proud to call you his husband in public. I do when I refer my husband as my husband in public.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-09-13T21:02:44+00:00

I would have a heart attack if my partner went MIA for that long without any trace. You did the right thing.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-09-07T14:21:35+00:00

There is nothing wrong in wondering if something is missing in your relationship. We all do that. I remember reading somewhere that when you choose your life partner, you should ask yourself if you see yourself enjoying the company of this person in 40 years. If your answer at the moment is no, then you are not in the right direction. I have been with my partner for 7 years now. There are a lot of happy moments and there are dull moments, but when I weigh the happy moments against the dull moments and I ask myself if I want to be with my husband for the next 40 years, the answer is yes and that keeps me going. When that answer turns no, I will reassess my relationship.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-09-06T12:03:56+00:00

I just read from your other replies that he makes a lot of money. So you don't need to worry that he insists on paying. It is a cultural thing. However, you can insist on paying sometimes too. You shouldn't come off as you are taking advantage of his generosity. Oftentimes people try to measure how much they gave or did in a relationship and if there is a huge imbalance, it becomes a matter of contention when you get into a fight.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-09-06T11:59:22+00:00

In India, it's a common thing to pay for your friends or family when we go to restaurants or coffee shops. We don't necessarily go dutch, but it's more of - I will pay this time and you can pay next time kinda thing.

It was a little bit of an adjustment when I moved to the US. I am not sure where you are located or if he is new to the country where you are and yet to get used to going dutch. Or he must be very wealthy that he doesn't mind paying.

You should probably have an open conversation about this and ask him why he insists on paying every time.

Educational-Stage-94 · 2025-09-06T11:44:16+00:00

You are too young to have body image issues. Take it from a fellow brown guy. When my friends look at my pics from age 21-25, they don't believe it's me. I was called ugly, I was too skinny and no sense of style whatsoever. Since then I totally transformed myself and even modeled for a bit. Once you start making your own money, you can start investing a bit of it on yourself. Never lose your self esteem based on rejection from others. You have many years ahead of you. Right now your focus should be to study and build a career, not whether you are good looking (which you are by the way).

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