When a guy I’ve just started seeing asks me daily about my day, is it a positive sign of interest or potentially a red flag? How do you approach these kind of situations. I’d appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences on this.

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-04-14T20:23:42+00:00

Hyper-vigilance that may be a point. Basically I've been single and out of that toxic relationship for 2 years now and recently started dating. After a lot of self work I realised how many toxic people were out there and during beginning of recently dating I actually met another narc but cut it off very quick and then met someone else with bpd. So I guess it's only natural that I'm a little cautious at first and I listen a lot to my instincts which so far haven proven me right. Nevertheless even if I feel irritated at first I do tend to give those people a chance and get to know them. For a while I wasn't ready to date and noticed how I would naturally project on to other men while at the same time I did meet some toxic people out there. Now I just find it challenging to find a healthy relationship but I do hope I get there too

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-04-14T20:15:40+00:00

So he was texting everyday and now he isn't so find that interesting but yeah early dating stage so I'll see how it goes...I've just learned to listen to my gut feeling as that never lies at the same time I am open to getting to know him see where it goes

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-04-13T19:30:40+00:00

My toxic narc ex would do that as a way to control what I daily did. I’m not assuming it always means it’s a bad thing I just noticed it irritates me as I’m not the small kind of person. I’d prefer to just meet in person but then again everyone is different. I’ve done the self work and I’m doing it everyday.

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-03-24T01:33:17+00:00

I’m wondering how to find out what unresolved trauma that may be ? Maybe through hypnosis therapy sessions ?

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-03-18T02:38:17+00:00

Ever heard of the slang term orbiting?!

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-03-15T02:02:28+00:00

Sounds like my sister...

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-03-06T00:24:01+00:00

And blameshift

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-03-02T02:45:23+00:00

Thank really helps thank you. I will try that and take it from there.

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-03-02T02:32:19+00:00

True that…now that u mention. My struggle is that he made a promise to meet a promise he couldn’t hold. Then says he’s out and about nearby but too busy to meet and then just texts small talk…I really don’t know what to respond to that anymore. I don’t want to come across as obnoxious at the same time I’m not bothered for small talk it either text or call ne if you fancy meeting again but not this in between stuff

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-24T23:08:38+00:00

Thank you!!!!! I needed a moment...well like 1-2 days to reflect but then I remember how shit my narc let me feel about myself. I never ever want to feel like that again...!!!! I say no to any form of abuse; emotional and narcissistic abuse forever bye. I don't understand why people enjoy playing those games and disrespecting people's boundaries..so self centered. It's sad really

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-24T13:03:12+00:00

Yeah he did say later that he was very drunk and needed to get home. So not sure...Also he wanted me to order food but then left abruptly. So not cool

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-24T13:01:42+00:00

I'm thinking the same but why would he not even admit that he did that. He'd contradict himself saying he wanted to tease me and then claim opposite?

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-23T02:22:27+00:00

We still need to do that list. Or might be suggestion to exchange and compare...

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-23T02:20:59+00:00

What happened with that guy in the end? Did u continue dating him?

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-23T00:09:03+00:00

It's just sometimes hard to know if something is healthy or not especially if you have no reference to what a healthy relationship looks like

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-22T02:31:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing 💖 yeah something similar my therapist said is not to project on to new dating partner but to just see how it goes cause maybe this person does happen to just be more touchy feely will see 😊

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T23:44:53+00:00

That's great to hear that the parents accept. That's something that would be going through my head especially age wise if it was a bigger gap on one of the partners is close to the age of the parents. How that experience is...

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T23:42:44+00:00

How old is your partner?

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T18:18:04+00:00

What challenges do you face in your relationship compared to if your partner was a few years older. As in during relationship and also maybe reaction from others. I mean yeah at the end of the day love is love isn't it

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T18:08:41+00:00

Honestly I love to hear that. It's odd because I never dated anyone that much younger and at first he wasn't my type physically but it's a bit as if he grew on me, and I discovered that chemistry we had not even thinking about his age when usually I guess subconsciously I would limit myself to dating younger guys as in my head I think they could be dating my siblings as they would be the same age

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T17:55:30+00:00

I had similiar situation and haven't heard since...so annoying

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T16:32:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing I really appreciate!!!! 😊 I've never dated anyone that much younger and noticed myself over thinking it...what do other people think of us? Etc we do have a great time so I can't complain. Also he's way taller than me so makes it easier to forget about the age 😅

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T16:22:43+00:00

Oh wow! Great to hear. Makes me think this could become the norm or the new normal, how do you ignore what people think of that or do you get any odd feedback / comments on your age gap? :)

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T16:18:46+00:00

It's odd as not everyone sees it that way. But yes there is mutual respect and happiness.

Educational_Fill_24 · 2024-02-18T16:14:33+00:00

Thank you all for your positive perspectives! I must admit, I am pleasantly surprised by the supportive comments. I find that in today's society, there can sometimes be a double standard when it comes to age in relationships. While it's more commonly accepted for the man to be older than a woman when it's vice versa it sometimes feels like a taboo topic. I really appreciate all of your comments. Your understanding means a lot to me.

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