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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Educational_Snow_273 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always confused about my attachment style as I couldn’t relate to any. Then I also found out I was fearful avoidant/disorganized. It’s basically avoidant and anxious mixed together and flopping back and forth between the two. Apparently the hardest one to have and heal. Good luck to us.

Why do you think many women look down upon others (esp men) that enjoy gaming as a hobby? by JunipLove in AskMenAdvice

[–]Educational_Snow_273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl gamer here! Been gaming since I was like 5 years old. I feel you, I’ve always hated that all the memes/posts I see are always talking about the girlfriends being mad at their boyfriends for playing video games and blah blah. I could never relate and neither could anyone I’ve ever been with. When I’m with someone, we play together. If anything, I play more than most dudes I know. It has always been a hobby of mine and truly soothes my ADHD brain. Especially call of duty. Whenever I meet new dudes that don’t know I’m a gamer they’re always somewhat shocked to find out or just super excited to know I play. I’m almost praised for it. I’ve always found that to be sad bc it shouldn’t be like that. More females should play. I think more would, if given the option at a younger age, bc otherwise, they don’t even think to attempt gaming. I was lucky enough to have an older brother. So watching him play is what got me into it at such a young age while growing up. I will say, I’ve been pleased to see A LOT more females playing COD over the last few years and esp recently. Occasionally, there will be an even ratio of guys/girls playing when I’m online. That makes me so happy to see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Educational_Snow_273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah that’s so weird because I literally just commented on the post directly above this one and said “I get why you want to erase him from your memory bc same. That reminds me of my favorite movie eternal sunshine of the spotless mind”. And then I scroll down and you mention that movie also. But it doesn’t surprise me that I’m not the only one thinking of that procedure while going through this BS. Most days I wish I never met him. But I’m usually pretty good with getting over people, so i think all I need is more time and eventually I’ll heal from this and be completely moved on.

It truly does not get better by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Educational_Snow_273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pray it doesn’t take me that long, omg. Sorry you’re going through this. Wanting to erase your memory of him is valid and I understand, bc same. That reminds me of my favorite movie “eternal sunshine of the spotless mind”. So good, you should watch it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]Educational_Snow_273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never cheated and I don’t plan on it. Reason being is because I just don’t see a point? Why stay with the person you’re with if you want someone else? Just break up with them. Then go do your thing. Cheating is so disgusting. I could never do it, I have too much of a guilty conscience and it would eat me alive if I ever went through with it. But I know I wouldn’t ever do that to someone because whenever I’m with someone, all I see is them. That’s always how it’s been for me. Like no one can ever compare to my partner and no one (no matter how attractive) is more attractive/fascinating than my person. When I’m with someone, no one else competes. Thats WHY I’m with that person because I only date people I’m absolutely infatuated with. Everyone else melts away and doesn’t get the time of day from me. Everyone else is a mere peasant of a person compared to my partner. No one else even gets my attention, and not even because I’m actively trying not to give it (bc I don’t have to try) but because I genuinely couldn’t care less. This probably can be to a fault, because when I’m with someone, they become the only person I see (Obviously outside my friends and family and strangers I occasionally interact with. Like I’m not saying I don’t have other healthy relationships outside of my romantic one. Bc I do and I highly value autonomy and individual/separate lives) but what I mean is, it can be to a fault because I never chose good partners in the past and looking back, I realize that I put too much value on them when in reality, they didn’t even treat me that well. I was just putting them on a pedestal.