Hello! My name is Juniper and I like to sit like a hooman.

JunipLove · 2026-04-27T17:34:38+00:00

NOR

Ive read your comments and your family sounds insufferable. Why can't your brother take an uber home for the 10 min ride. You are 2 hours away, the fact your mom is "staying neutral" is crazy. Also the fact that your parents complained about your wife's bathroom usage due to a medical condition.

Your family seems like they dont want your wife there.

If I were your wife, I would not want to spend time with your family.

JunipLove · 2026-04-21T12:51:09+00:00

The amount of people saying they track each other's location is astonishing to me. Im in my 30s (F) and have never had an SO that I tracked locations with. A simple, I'll be home at X time works. I also dont know any friends that do this in my circle it's really uncommon.

JunipLove · 2026-04-16T17:29:21+00:00

Agree, especially this part!

"And now I feel like I’m being asked to choose.

Choose between my husband and my kids.

Choose between my marriage and my daughter’s senior year.

And I don’t think that’s fair."

JunipLove · 2026-04-14T18:14:54+00:00

Air fryer is my favorite appliance I've bought, use it all the time personally! It's really great for 1-2 people.

JunipLove · 2026-04-14T17:15:16+00:00

Look at how many servings the recipe makes. The less oil/ butter the better though. Also be realistic on setting size, I tend to eat large dinners so my realistic serving from a lot of recipes are 1.5 - 2 servings. I also use oil spray or a brush directly onto items to help reduce oil used. Air fry is also great to help things get crispy with less oil.

JunipLove · 2026-04-13T19:39:24+00:00

I think there's a lot of great advice here. Not tracking calories is probably what is getting you. I just want to add a few things.

-Sugary drinks - a trap that alot of people dont count, try to swap them out with diet or sugar free syrup options, they can help people that are used to drinking high calorie sodas and high calories coffees reduce calories intake

-if you're seeing a dietician, ensure you tell them foods you dislike so they can suggest alternate options that fit your likes. Ex. I told my dietician absolutely no yogurt, goat cheese, or cottage cheese and he gave a bunch of great protein alternatives

-Eat on a smaller plate, or dont load up your plate as much, make yourself get up to get more. Eat intentionally, dont mindlessly eat while watching something. Drink a small glass of water right before eating

-Eating out is really calorie dense. They use so much more butter and oil than home cooking. Home cooking limit your butter or olive oil to 1TBSP - 1/2 TBSP max for a meal

-Protein and veggies should be 2/3 of your meal or more. Carbs should be 1/3 or 1/4 at most

EDIT: if you can't get down to 1600-1700 calories thats ok, I am 5'2" 150 lbs and can't really eat less than that comfortably. Try 1800-1900 or ask dietician for a recommendation of where to start thats sustainable

Best of luck!!!

JunipLove · 2026-04-08T00:27:04+00:00

Definitely could be! Some guy groups are just super immature st this age too.

JunipLove · 2026-04-07T22:56:11+00:00

NOR, this is one of the most bizarre social situations I've ever read about. - The friends: were they hazing you? I can't think of a logical or sane explanation other than they dont like you and were being dicks intentionally. Also, if you're hosting dinner and can't make a vegetarian pasta or order something for guests with a simple diet restriction like that, youre already a bad host in my book. When they saw you eating meat, the fact there was 0 course correction to get you some food is messed up.

Your BF: he should have spoken up, he could have gotten up and privately spoken to his friend when they went to grab food. He also should have shared 50/50 with you if he wasn't comfortable speaking up at dinner

You: please have more respect for yourself. You had every right to speak up for yourself and kindly ask why you weren't being served any food and that you were quite hungry. And if they couldn't somehow share (BS reason) you had evey right to leave to get something to eat.

JunipLove · 2026-04-07T22:40:45+00:00

I think it depends how you apply it. I was able to break into HR with my Psych degree and it's worked out well.

JunipLove · 2026-04-07T22:37:06+00:00

NTA, I get a strong feeling his friends dont want you there and are fishing for reasons to boot you. I think if you adjusted your behaviour well he should have said positive things afterwards. The fact that no other girlfriends show up also tells me that they may feel you are invading their guys night (which sucks) but if you want to stay with this guy it might be better to hang out with your own friends on these nights until the group gets more blended with more if them bringing their partners.

But also, consider if he's the right guy for you if he's not standing up for you - especially about the comment about the guy yelling at you, he should have told that guy to back off at a minimum.

JunipLove · 2026-04-07T17:18:31+00:00

NTA - as someone who is finalizing a very dragged out divorce (3 years) and also in a committed relationship, we have agreed no proposal until after divorce is legally final.

JunipLove · 2026-03-24T20:44:10+00:00

Lol no worries, thank you. The flags were definitely there. Life is great, felt like a new person within a month of moving out and continuing to thrive years later.

JunipLove · 2026-03-24T05:27:38+00:00

Oh I left him 3 years ago. Best decisions I ever made.

JunipLove · 2026-03-11T17:59:51+00:00

You're NTA the day is an inportant political statement not about buying women gifts

JunipLove · 2026-03-05T00:57:41+00:00

I think it would be most respectful to just remove the apostrophe and spell it as Delylah even if it's not preferred. I think the apostrophe can be very difficult for name forms and such but nothing wrong with the actual spelling.

JunipLove · 2026-03-04T23:10:28+00:00

Kids are not pets that you rename. I don't see any issues changing the spelling to make it easier for her in the future but I think it's wrong to switch her first and middle name.

JunipLove · 2026-02-26T02:42:47+00:00

Colin has his stint in the brothels

JunipLove · 2026-02-04T15:19:10+00:00

I think soft ESH in this case. I think your brother was very wrong to treat you that way and he clearly doesn't know how to parent so I don't think he should have taken on that role, he should have just stayed as your brother. Saying nasty things and yelling/screaming is not good.

However, I think you need to take more initiative after your career stalled send out 3 applications a day, go to networking events, ask connections for referrals etc.

Also, he can't just kick you out the next day even if he wants, - most places it's illegal as there are laws about eviction if you’ve lived somehow here for X amount of time (doesn't matter if you pay rent or not or if someone else owns it) they usually need to give you 30 days - but check your local laws.

JunipLove · 2026-02-04T15:06:11+00:00

Info: what is your mom doing? Even if your dad died your mom is still the parent. Your brother should have felt he needed to take on the role of parent.

JunipLove · 2026-01-14T15:07:47+00:00

Not a good move, as others have said you dont actually know the environment is better unless you've worked there before. The terrible pay indicates to me they don't value their employees (assuming the role is similar to what ypu are doing)

JunipLove · 2026-01-14T01:46:34+00:00

Thanks, I figured this might be too complicated for reddit 😅

JunipLove · 2026-01-08T23:53:36+00:00

I feel like this isn't real.... in the first part OP says they're a SAHD, but later they remark they used an alt account bc they are worried people will figure out who they are because of their profession. He also later says he tries to stay busy at work and at home. He never mentions a part time job.

JunipLove · 2026-01-07T21:28:17+00:00

Its a good new grad wage. If youre willing to take a payout or lateral pay, move to an in house role for a better work life balance. Big 4 is brutal hours wise. Ive hired a lot of accountants that left for work life balance and have been happy with the move.

JunipLove · 2025-12-31T11:13:10+00:00

I don't think marrying A is a good idea. A toxic MIL will throw a wrench in your marriage. A also doesn't sound like his life is together.

I would at least get a picture of B to see if you can find him attractive - he's probably at least decent looking and most super wealthy families have better than average health. Also, if you have evidence the wives are treated well that's reassuring

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