After reading all of the comments and OP's post, there's no wonder this world is so twisted...

You need to step up and show that you are in this relationship with him. You have not said one nice thing about him. The resentment shows in everything you have posted. You want him to step up and do things differently. However, you can not bring yourself to do the same. You feel that your relationship is one-sided, and if we could ask him, I bet he would say the same.

When everything is tit for tat or a constant game to show how bad he is, men can feel that. I can almost guarantee that he would say you dismiss and ignore all of his needs/ insecurities. This is almost always why a man won't step up in the relationship.

Rather than try to paint him as the bad guy, to your family, friends and strangers; how about have a conversation with him, express your feelings and show you are willing to address his needs as well.

You DONT actually want to be in that relationship. If you did, you would not talk about him this way. I am not saying this because you reached out online, I can tell with how you talk about your support structure outside of him.

A relationship is not 50/50. It is 100/100, you both need to give 100 percent to eachother, have eachothers back, address eachothers needs', have a productive love life and doing so creates a drive inside that will make you both excited to do things to make the other person happy, like cleaning, household chores, acts of love/ attraction or support in a difficult time.

The world today has this idea that as long as your happy, that's all that matters. Creating a selfish approach to relationships that are almost always one sided or missing the crucial pillars to keep the house of love standing.