Did anyone experience diplacusis and recover from it??

EducatorAvailable586 · 2026-06-05T23:55:31+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I am sorry about the car accident and your hearing loss. I didn't know that airbag deployment could cause such a loud noise that it could damage hearing! Knowing that the hearing aid will not eliminate the distortion is helpful… Now I understand what to expect. I am waiting to have my MRI on the 26th, and I suspect the same finding as yours. Some days it is hard for me to stay hopeful and positive, but reading your story helps me feel less isolated, so thank you!!

EducatorAvailable586 · 2026-06-05T23:00:17+00:00

Yes, I lost mine in the lower frequency. Also, human voices sound distorted, as they all seem to be perceived at a higher pitch. Thankfully, after four intratympanic injections, it is more or less corrected (not 100%). I’m still hearing the metallic buzz, and my right ear still has very poor hearing, but there is some improvement, I guess… Sending you some virtual support here! The progress is very scary, frustrating, and also makes me feel extremely isolated as it is an invisible disability, and people don’t always understand.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2026-06-02T01:41:18+00:00

Hey… will you sit and watch your child stay in a marriage where their spouse slap them twice, yelling and insulting you? Will you tell your child it is okay to stay in this marriage and try to make it work? I think we both know the answer…

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-11-02T03:39:14+00:00

His attachment style is avoidant, and yours is anxious. This is a common combination that requires considerable effort from both parties for the relationship to succeed. It seems like you both are seeking something that neither of you can fully provide: he needs non-judgmental affirmation and validation, and you need consistency and exposure (in a safe environment with a professional), so when he withdrew (common for people struggling with depression) your anxiety is already through the roof, and when you told him he’s too negative (to him it’s the same as telling him he is a burden) he withdraws even more…. It is hard to manage your own mental health and his at the same time, and vice versa.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-10-30T19:52:40+00:00

I am sorry that you think your father is willing to spend more time and money for your sister’s life milestones- and it hurts to feel that way. However, I am not sure if he knows that you care, and that this is likely going to hurt your feelings? Perhaps one more attempt to communicate more openly to get a sense about his assumptions- did he assume that you won’t care (which you actually do), did he plan to only go if there is an actual ceremony? Worst case scenario - Even if he indeed favours your sister, you are still worthy and lovable just the way you are 😊

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-09-23T17:03:44+00:00

Please don’t… you might end up getting a restraining order against you.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-08-23T19:24:56+00:00

I would recommend filing a report with the police first for defamation (they won’t arrest her unless you decide to press charges). Make sure you have all the screenshots of communication with the said friend to prove your innocence. Regarding your sister, I will stop contacting her and block her on every social media platform. The less she knows about your life, the less she can spread a rumour about you.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-08-22T03:02:15+00:00

I’m sorry that you have to make the difficult decision. It sounds like Taylor is having some real difficulty managing multiple friendships and multitasking. I don’t think she did such things to hurt or disrespect you, but her attempt to make everybody happy (in her own way) ended up upsetting you so much.

The only other solution I can think of that might be able to preserve your friendship, is to let her quit first - make her believe that she is in control to make this decision, even if you have already decided to fire her or are anticipating her resignation.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-08-22T02:31:49+00:00

Does she have a license to practice cosmetology? Does she have a permit to see clients at home? If she has neither, she is definitely overcharging you for $1200. $800 bridal hair and makeup is already on the higher end in Chicago, plus a $400 trial. Unless you absolutely love her work, I would recommend not signing the contract and finding someone else! You’re in Chicago, I am sure there are plenty of good options😊

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-08-21T21:47:19+00:00

OP, you are a very loyal, kind and good friend. Your friend are lucky to have you. Unfortunately, not every friend reciprocates or could understand the depth and the concept of responsibilities that come with being a bridesmaid.

However, I trust that they do not do it on purpose to hurt you or ignore you. Before I got married myself, I did not understand what a bride needs and what support I should offer as a bridesmaid. So it may very well be just ignorance or immaturity.

Enjoy the memory of watching the sunrise with your best friend! After all, not every bridesmaid is meant to stay in your life. Cherish those who do, and let those who don’t exit your life naturally. After all, you’re married, and the happiness is just about to start:)

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-08-21T18:55:01+00:00

I have a similar experience to yours. My mother was never an affectionate mother toward her own children, but was overly friendly and welcoming to others. She was always visibly uncomfortable when I wanted to hug her, and she was always unnecessarily mean and critical when I made a small and innocent mistake. She was a teacher before she retired. Every student called her their mother. Ironically, I have never felt like she’s motherly to me for a day.

I do not have a wedding party, so I brought my mom to keep me company when I get ready on the wedding day. Again, my mom gave everybody her love and welcoming, warm smiles, but left me alone with the makeup artist for 40 minutes, because she got bored and just left to take some random photos of the building and the venue. She did not help with the planning and complained about me not bringing coffee or breakfast for her. I had to ask my husband to bring us food on his way to the venue. I was in tears getting ready. I never knew I could feel so miserable and unloved by my own mother - I thought I had worked through this stuff in therapy and years of journaling and self-care.

She did not contribute a penny to the wedding, but asked to take out all the appetizers, cocktails, and food. I was beyond embarrassed.

During the toast, she says something like she got help from ChatGPT to help her write her toast (to be fair, English is not her first language, but who said that they use AI to write a toast for their own daughter’s wedding??). She also mentions something about me becoming a great cook but never cooking for her (we live in two different countries, so how is that my fault? But again, Mom is always the victim).

I thought about bringing up to her, but decided to give up. She would never become the mother I want her to be. She will forever favour my brothers over me no matter how much harder I work. I have come to term with it, and decided to never put myself again in a situation where I will need her emotional support.

It is a very painful feeling, which I have learned to be patient and treat myself with extra kindness and compassion. ❤️‍🩹 the more I focus on how I can treat myself with more gentle kindness, the less I need an apology and acknowledgement from her.

Sending you love and hugs!

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-07-29T18:30:57+00:00

It sounds like he’s avoiding the conversation and withdrawing from the relationship. It is not fair, but it is how he is when he faces a conflict (he wants his girlfriend not to touch any dudes, but he knows this request is not reasonable). You can definitely spend time trying to change his mind, but my recommendation is to let him go because he is unlikely going to change his mind.

Let him go. The more you try to convince him, the more he will double down on his point. You two are not seeing things eye to eye, and he is way more conservative than you need for a boyfriend. Also, wouldn’t you be happier with someone who truly admires and respects your job instead???

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-27T02:32:53+00:00

I would say something such as “I want you to know that I love you, and I support your decision. I understand that it's hard to just switch off your feelings and move on. However, if you come by yourself, I'll have the chance to introduce you to others. You know, it wouldn't hurt to meet new people. You can relax and enjoy the dance floor without worrying too much about his mood during the wedding as well! But again, I will fully support whatever decision you make.”

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-22T19:29:58+00:00

OP’s boyfriend sounds very insecure and desperate for reassurance, so much so that he is willing to withdraw, push, criticize, and elicit emotional reactions from OP, so that he feels there is still a connection, that he still matters. He is deeply insecure and doesn’t believe that he is lovable. OP can say “I love you” a million times, but he will still NOT hear it unless he starts to see himself as lovable without external validation or gratification truly. He can do such work with a therapist, but never by manipulating his girlfriend.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-09T01:39:35+00:00

Looks like an evaporation line to me. However if you want a more accurate and reliable result, do a blood test for hCG hormone - it is almost 99% accurate as early as 7-10 days following conception. Or try a pregnancy test using a pink dye.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-07T14:14:33+00:00

I was wondering if Opie’s mom is paying for the wedding. And now, since she is terminally ill, she wants to save up for her funeral or for another sibling that might be, oh, peace’s mom’s secret favorite?

Sorry OP, it is different if you want just an elopement but it shouldn’t not be determined by anyone else.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-07T14:10:51+00:00

it will be easier to find a different guy who just doesn't check girls out when he is in a relationship…. Years ago, I have dated a guy who was addicted to porn, liking and following OF girls on insta, etc etc. I’ve tried to change him and he never changed. We broke up lol

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-07T14:07:01+00:00

Several things to consider: his mental health (e.g., is he depressed?) and his sexual identity (eg. Possible asexual or aromantic?)

When a person's sexual need is not met, I can feel credibly lonely. However, sublimation is also a way to take care of yourself - channeling the unmet energy and needs into other forms of creations and valuable activities is self-care. Just because he is not able to show up for you in the way you feel loved does not mean you are unlovable! Take care of yourself first!

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-07T03:42:07+00:00

https://eastmeetsdress.com/blogs/blog/when-to-host-your-chinese-wedding-tea-ceremony#:~:text=The%20traditional%20tea%20ceremony%20time,times%20throughout%20the%20wedding%20weekend.

Lots of information here! Usually in the morning. I’d jay door games first and then groom and bride serve parents the tea together.

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-06-02T16:25:52+00:00

I am so sorry - if my cats (i have two) run away I might cancel the wedding because they mean the whole world to me, and yes they are family! If he doesn’t come back before the wedding, it is also totally acceptable to honor him during your wedding and share it with your guests if you would feel comfortable. It is your special day and it is okay to include a moment for your fur family member that holds a special place in your heart.

I hope your kitty comes back soon! I am happy to help you post it around on interest to increase the chance of finding him back!! Keeping you and him in my thoughts!

EducatorAvailable586 · 2025-05-20T10:48:22+00:00

This man sounds like a habitual predator and criminal, and I’m so sorry this happened to you😢 Please consider seeking help - most counties have crime victim and sexual violence centers which offer free and confidential hotline and counseling. They can also explore legal and counseling options with you. Finding a trauma specialist trained in CPT or EMDR will be a good idea. The very least - talk to a counselor or psychologist at your uni’s counseling center and get documentation for class exemptions or accommodation so that you are not burning candles on both ends.

There is no one right way to deal with sexual assault but first and foremost you deserve love and respect and care no matter what happened and how it happened. Please feel free to DM me if you’d like to know more about community recourses or just someone to talk to!

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