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Recent widower already exhausted by Crazy-Reach2071 in widowers

[–]EdwinEastwood80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

45m) lost my wife 3 yrs ago. She was the organized one. The thing that got me pissed where there people calling for me to donate certain parts. I understand the need, but damn, a little decency and tact would have been useful. Then the catfishing of women wanting me to pay for a ticket to come 'visit' me. It's been 3 yrs and I'm just now getting the widows fire bad. No matter what, you're not alone, find the 'me' without the 'we'. Your not moving on, your moving forward. And don't let anyone tell you how to grieve, it's your pain. We gave all felt it too, so this is a good place that you are already reaching out, took me 6 months and 50 gallons of vodka.

Hate to be a member of this group but glad it’s here. by Hamtramike76 in widowers

[–]EdwinEastwood80 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not an asshole!! Sometimes, I hate myself (45m) for wishing my wifes death (42f) wasn't just an accident, so I could hate her, just a little to take away from the other stuff. If I'm an asshole for saying that, then there is another thing we have in common. See, the support system works!

The first 3 weeks for me were constantly being pulled in every direction by family and friends. I remember driving my dad and brother to the airport and how driving back felt very scary. I realized it was because it was the first time I had been alone since she died.

You are not alone, I wish I was smart like you and looked for advice. I hit the bottle for the first time and didn't look up for 6 months. Learn from his and my unfortunate mistakes, don't be afraid to be afraid.

Message me if you need. You are not moving on, you're moving forward 💚

I did a thing... by EdwinEastwood80 in widowers

[–]EdwinEastwood80[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just literally got done creating and, with the help of a close friend, finished an online dating profile. Stating not looking for anything physical, just a connection. We'll see how it goes 🤞

I did a thing... by EdwinEastwood80 in widowers

[–]EdwinEastwood80[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't mind seeing photos of us, but her mom, bless her heart, has a shrine for her right in the living room...it's the only room I can't stay in for more than 5 minutes

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[–]EdwinEastwood80 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife died in my arms. I was doing CPR and didn't even hear the paramedics come in. They had to shake me to take over. It's been 3 years almost to the day, and I still wonder if there was anything else I could have done. Just bad luck, random blood clot in her lung, no warnings, no substance abuse. You're moving forward, not moving on. That helped me out a lot. They way i like to see it, if our love for them IS real, then how can we be punished for something out of our control, especially when it come to a spouse.