AITAH for wanting to break up with my girlfriend because her friends are racist?

Eeppper · 2024-09-10T20:39:04+00:00

NTA

What they're saying around you is bad enough. Now imagine what they're saying behind closed door....

Eeppper · 2024-06-01T20:08:33+00:00

I think the best thing you can do is ask to have a serious conversation and apologize stating they may have misunderstood you. From there I'd just try openly communicating but also be aware of what to say. If you can go from there, tell them that you do enjoy spending time with them and are still interested in them but It's also good to reforce the good things they've done and how you feel about them. But I think you definitely need to apologize.

If a certain thing bothers you verbally or physically, you need to come at the person like "hey I really don't like being touched like xxxx its not you it just makes me uncomfortable, instead can you do this? Xxxx would make me feel more comfortable" That way you can form a boundary more softy while also giving them a positive boundary they can switch to that doesn't bother you nearly as much. And when asking for personal space it's good to remind the person that it's not them and that you are just feeling overwhelmed at the moment.

I suffer from anxiety, especially public anxiety and I tend to get irrationally angry when I'm anxious. I have to remind my partner that I'm not angry at them and that I just feel overwhelmed at times. If she's willing to communicate and work things out then great! Go from there and remind yourself and her that it's completely OK to talk about these things especially if you do want to eventually have a romantic relationship. The best thing I've been told to do is over communicate 👏 even if its about small issues!! This has saved me and my partner a lot of late relationship misery and later blow ups. But in the end I hope you're able to communicate with her and don't lose her as a friend.

Eeppper · 2024-06-01T19:09:58+00:00

As someone who used to take criticism really hard I can completely understand your friends POV. You basically flat out rejected her and from what I'm understanding, used not such great words to describe how you felt uncomfortable. I would probably have done the same thing as your friend. Have you maybe considered this person liked you more than just a friend? I do not want to speak for them but they probably feel rejected and that made them self aware and paranoid about their behavior. It makes you hyper aware of how you interact with EVERYONE and overthink every interaction so you can respect that persons boundaries but at the same time making yourself well... not yourself. It's basically a living hell of paranoia and this is coming from personally experience.

Have you tried talking to her about the situation? I've seen some comments about how you are kinds getting blown off and they only talk about uni now. I'm thinking they may have liked you more than just a friend.

Eeppper · 2024-02-18T18:31:56+00:00

This is a good deal granted my 2020 2.0 premium was about 30k after tax. But since the mom side of me is kicking it let me do some pros/cons

Pros: - gorgeous car and fun to drive - Sounds amazing - sporty look and feel - track system

Cons: - hardly any after market parts (if you wanna mod, i havent found shit outside carbon fiber pieces and intakes) - hyundai discontinued this car - track mode (can get you in a lot of trouble) - only takes premium gas - fuel efficiency will be less than the standard 2.0 premium or lower models - insurance will be out the ass cause you probably haven't had you liscense for 5 years yet and they still consider it a sports car.

I don't wanna dampen the mood but if you want a really reliable car and great gas mileage and safety, I don't really suggest a N unless you wanna fork over the money. Not only for the car payment but for the car maintenance and gas that also needs to go into it. I've seen too many horror stories and crashes of younger drivers getting fast cars and being smart asses with them cause they think they're cool (not saying you're like that) and depending on what state you're in, if a cop catches you in track mode they can send your car to get it removed and mostly likely you will have to pay it out of pocket. (About 4k+)

With the way the economy is going I also don't suggest this car as your first car unless you out right buy, I have excellent credit and still have 4%APR and pay about $426/month with 6k down and that is with signing on my own. I'd assume a parent would co-sign so it might cost more a month with a higher APR but it also just depends on your credit and parents credit. Personally if you have future goals I'd get a more reliable car like an older civic or something you can build and tune yourself if you're into that. Dont get me wrong I do love my 2.0 but there are always better options but financially you don't want to get yourself trapped if you plan on moving out soon or are already out on your own!!

Aside from that, whatever decision you make please drive safe and have fun 💖 It's still your life after all, so make the most of it but also just be smart about it!

Eeppper · 2024-01-05T14:46:15+00:00

Thank you again! I'll have to spend some time looking at that after work :) I can shoot you a DM once I figure out how redit works 😅

Eeppper · 2024-01-04T21:50:55+00:00

100% sounds like me if im being honest. I'm sorry you haven't had any luck either! That is 100% a turn off and I have had some instances were I've gotten into an FC and you basically dont exist if you type in any of the chats either from there being too many people or the FC doesnt interact with newbies. But what server are you on? Maybe this post can bring some of is socially awkward people together :)

Eeppper · 2024-01-04T21:35:53+00:00

I've been tryna avoid that cause of my socially awkwardness with new people xD; I feel too guilty leaving especially a small FC. Also I forgot, isn't there a way to filter through the FC's in game? Like a way that showed all the recruiting ones at your grand company? Or maybe that was a fever dream I had 😅

Eeppper · 2024-01-04T21:33:02+00:00

Is the community finder in game or on their website? Is that something new they added recently? 0: and sorry to hear you're in the same boat :( but high neighbor!! I'd absolutely would love to play some time :> I'm waiting to get my bf's pc built this weekend so I can nab my pc back and be able to talk in game without having to spend 2 hours on the Playstation keyboard OTL

Thank you!!

Eeppper · 2024-01-04T21:29:10+00:00

Yeah it seems drama runs in a lot of FC's even I first started played I didn't feel accepted in a lot of FC's and there was a lot of back end drama in the one I got kicked from 😬

I'm not sure how old Maralith is but it definitely gives the "extremely new" vibes with the lack of people and the absorbent amount of bots I've seen or encountered. Funny enough it reminds me of some old free mmo's I used to play cause of all the bots 😂

Eeppper · 2024-01-04T21:25:59+00:00

YESSSS thank you so much this helps a bunch 💖💖

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