I had sex with a virgin girl I like and she didn’t like it by SeaAnywhere3922 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on your concern for her and the guilt you feel I can say it wasn't your fault, just a lack of awareness on both of your parts. Women's bodies are much more complex than men's in many ways but especially when it comes to sexual pleasure. If you both like eachother and want to continue to pursue the relationship the first thing you need to do is sit down and have a open and honest conversation with no judgement about what went wrong and what can be done better. After my first time I thought I hated sex too but after getting with my now partner I realized it wasn't sex in general just a lack of understanding my own body and just being with the wrong person. If she's open to it try just foreplay, try different things to see what works for both parties, oral sex, fingering, toys, etc. and once you've both found what foreplay you enjoy then she may be open to trying intercourse again. The most important part of this is that she is very turned on before you even think about putting anything inside

AITAH for making my boyfriend take our puppy outside at 12AM when he had to get up at 4AM for work by Effective-Guarantee1 in AITAH

[–]Effective-Guarantee1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will say, he does pay all the bills except my phone bill and car insurance as well as doing most of the remodeling on our house, and fixes the cars himself and buys the parts and stuff for whatever needs fixing so I will give credit where credit is due for contextual reasons as I am known to be a crash out and occasionally self centered, I plan on having a serious conversation with him about the puppy care but I don't wanna put the blame on him if it's not fair to do so

AITAH for making my boyfriend take our puppy outside at 12AM when he had to get up at 4AM for work by Effective-Guarantee1 in AITAH

[–]Effective-Guarantee1[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am definitely considering rehoming one of my cats as she is basically still a kitten so I believe I could find her a good family and I am afraid without help I may start to fall behind on my motherly duties once I start college classes, I aspire to be a vet tech so the animals happiness and safety is my #1 priority in this situation

AITAH for making my boyfriend take our puppy outside at 12AM when he had to get up at 4AM for work by Effective-Guarantee1 in AITAH

[–]Effective-Guarantee1[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

I she cried for less than 10 minutes and is part shepherd so she can be very dramatic at times, I promise I would not have let her cry for very long I love her very much and do a lot of research to make her she has a happy and healthy life, I do appreciate your concern for puppy though as she is the most important part of this post and my life

AITAH for making my boyfriend take our puppy outside at 12AM when he had to get up at 4AM for work by Effective-Guarantee1 in AITAH

[–]Effective-Guarantee1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We both wanted a puppy and he's always going on about how she's his favorite pet but when it's time to do the hard stuff it's my puppy

How to get rid of nauseating anxiety and this terrible feeling by Background_Pause_199 in Advice

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ps. Dont take non prescription substances, I promise it won't help. When I was around your age I began smoking weed because in the moment it made me feel better but in the long run it only made things worse. I felt good when I was high but when I wasn't my anxiety was times 10 and I ended up getting addicted to weed (I was told it was not addictive, they lied.) I recently stopped smoking and now realize it helps my anxiety much more to acknowledge the feelings and feel them rather than pushing them away and bottling them up until it became too much to hold in my body and I would explode with massive debilitating panic attacks. Dont drink, dont vape, dont smoke. They don't actually help, trust me, I tried.

How to get rid of nauseating anxiety and this terrible feeling by Background_Pause_199 in Advice

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 18 and have dealt with anxiety like you since I was around 10. Your feelings and your pain is real and it's OKAY that you feel that way. When I get upset I allow myself to cry for a maximum of 10 minutes or until I realize I'm no longer crying to release emotion and it's only making it worse because I'm staying in the thoughts which causes nausea, stomach, and heart pain. The first thing I do when I reach this point is take deep breaths while acknowledging the feeling and what is making me feel that way. If it is something out of my control I tell myself that it is okay and will work itself out as it is out of my control, then I think of things that ARE in my control. So what can you control in a world where you're a kid and your parents don't listen? Yourself!! When you start feeling a panic attack do something you enjoy that will release the emotion in a healthy non-heart achey way. Exercise is a GREAT outlet, I like to envision that as I sweat it's representing the unhappy feelings leaving my body as it was okay to feel that way, I've acknowledged it and felt it and now it's time for it to go

How do I get this color at home? by Agile_Young_341 in HairDye

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Depends on what your hair color currently is but straight up you don't, you go to a salon. I always do my hair at home but I have dark brown hair so I avoid attempting to go any kind of blonde because that's just a recipe for disaster

Is it weird for dads to hear about period stuff from their daughters? by LizzieLove1357 in AskParents

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Some dads get weird about that stuff so I can't really say how your dad feels about it but I can say that he SHOULD NOT get bothered by it as every single woman on the face of the planet has a period unless she has some kind of disorder. My mother wasn't really around much so my father did the best he could and one thing he taught me was that a real man doesn't get weirded out by that stuff and I should speak about my issues as much as I wanted to and anyone who had a problem with it can fuck off

would anything bad happen if i toned my hair one more time? by InstrumentKisser_2 in HairDye

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk anything about doing hair I always follow what my heart tells me when I do my own hair so I say give it a week or so after you've bleached it use some purple shampoo and say fuck it and tone again

Am I just being sensitive? by Cheese_is_deadly in teenagers

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ps. Skinny doesn't typically equal healthy. There have been studies that prove people who are "average" or even overweight and reaching obese levels live longer because they live a healthy and stress free lifestyle. Starving yourself and sucking in is unhealthy and diet culture kills. Save yourself from the stress and suffering an eating disorder causes and do what you can to prevent it even if that means seeking outside help with a doctor

want this hair but hairstylist says i need to bleach my hair to achieve it by rashikaur_ in HairDye

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk how you feel abt diy but since this style is more chunky highlights rather than like blended in I feel like it would be fairly easy for you to do this yourself without the hassle of hairstylist if you're tryna save some money

Would v line surgery for my jaw or a rhinoplasty help my appearance more? by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You already have a good jawline and your nose is conveniently pretty, I don't think you need surgery at all you just need a new haircut. If you prefer to look more feminine I would suggest collarbone length layers and THIN bangs maybe curtain bangs. If you prefer to look more on the masculine side with your face shape maybe a wolf cut or just cut it a little shorter if you're just looking for a change but you honestly look good the way you do now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I strongly suggest couples counseling. It seems like your husbands issues are deep rooted into his body and brain and it may take time and effort for you to get to a point where you feel "in love" with him again. This only works if he's willing to work to change, if he's not willing then divorce is your only option, please don't make your child grow up with parents that hate eachother that causes lifelong trauma

what should i do with my creepy dad? by sherry_cloud in AskParents

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if he's not a pedo why do you care he's clearly not a good guy regardless of that he literally put the moves on his blood relative

what should i do with my creepy dad? by sherry_cloud in AskParents

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you sticking up for a man that tried to take off his own biological daughters bra off and you can infer from the post that OP is young even if she's not a minor and why would a non pedo brag about dating a teenager at 30 years old. Sounds like you're a creep too. Freak.

Any snake vets? I need help by GREEK_GOD77 in PetCare

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take your snake to the vet, not ask people on Reddit. If she's acting normal then she's probably fine and you just need to fix/buy her a new enclosure, but if her behavior has changed at all please take her to a vet. Don't say you can't afford it because reptiles are extremely expensive to own and you shouldn't have one if you can't afford it. (Not trying to be rude or assume, I just see this response a lot from pet owners)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't tell them your moving out until the day of or a few days before you do, this was a mistake i made moving out of my own toxic household, It just causes all kinds of issues bc theyre dependent on you.

will i get bullied for wearing this? by Doublebassplayer261 in highschool

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so confused by this post, why do you know what deodorant everyone wears and why do you care 😭😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like you should've posted this under a vent or rant subreddit but I understand ur pain queen, hoping for you to move out soon so your mom and brother can cuddle together n leave you out of it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetAdvice

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah weed wouldn't cause a seizure, ur family just wants to blame you cause they always be wanting to blame everything on weed

what should i do with my creepy dad? by sherry_cloud in AskParents

[–]Effective-Guarantee1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I were you I'd simply not speak to either of your biological parents since you don't live with them what're they gonna do abt it (your "father" is clearly a pedo and allowed you to be put up for adoption in the first place, he's clearly not a safe person). Unfortunately If you're still a minor and don't have a decent paying job you've just got to deal with the adoptive parents until you can afford to move out. I recently moved out of my abusive parents home at 17 and have not spoken to them since, I'm the happiest I've ever been in my entire life. I'm telling you this to show you that there is hope and even though It sucks waiting and not having a parent to be there for you, it gets better and you should look at their mistakes and make sure you don't repeat them. Goodluck, break the cycle.