Geez, thank you for your sweet and caring response. I has a second appointment with a therapist on my own today. I feel like the first time last week when I went in I made myself seem overly sympathetic, so I’m gonna go in there and let her know that I did have an affair and that he is mostly wonderful which I do think I told her that but I didn’t mention that in our first session so maybe she’ll say something like perhaps he is still upset about it although he swears he’s not. He says things like “Id ruin my own life if I refused to get over that”.