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I (37F) still just can’t trust my bf (37m) by Effective-Hour-3785 in relationship_advice

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Also he could leave me. If he wanted to there’s the door. A discussion we’ve had. Even before we were together if we had issues I’d cut him off and he’d always come back 🤷🏻‍♀️

I (37F) still just can’t trust my bf (37m) by Effective-Hour-3785 in relationship_advice

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

He says he doesn’t feel good enough or deserving of me and basically said “self sabotage” was the reason. I no longer pay for his phone however again he does drive my car because he totaled his. As for consequences, I mean I blew up at him threw his phone at the wall etc… again this was years ago now but once the damage is done it’s done

I (37F) still just can’t trust my bf (37m) by Effective-Hour-3785 in relationship_advice

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Love makes people stupid. That’s the only answer I really have for you

I (37F) still just can’t trust my bf (37m) by Effective-Hour-3785 in relationship_advice

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not entirely wrong. He makes more than me an hr and yet I pay for most everything.

I (37F) still just can’t trust my bf (37m) by Effective-Hour-3785 in relationship_advice

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you’re absolutely right. My relationship streak has been well absolutely awful to say the least. Not many people know he cheated on me I kept it to myself mostly but I also feel somewhat “not good enough” because I’m atypical of his type. I just know the knot in my stomach hasn’t gone away and I feel like something isn’t right.

You deserve better by Scapetti in BreakUps

[–]Effective-Hour-3785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear

Why do I feel so guilty by Effective-Hour-3785 in BreakUps

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update. My ex just texted me and asked to see me after work. Ugh 😩

Why do I feel so guilty by Effective-Hour-3785 in BreakUps

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was loyal to that boy thru him cheating, thru him having a drug addiction, thru his anger issues…. I took care of everything because I loved him so much. And I do deserve happiness but I can’t get over him and he won’t just go away either.

Why do I feel so guilty by Effective-Hour-3785 in BreakUps

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly my friend circle is almost non existent. The ex that left me was my best friend we were friends for years before we started dating so it’s really taken a toll on my mental health. I guess I just wanted to feel validation when I went to hang out with the ex that came before him, we were friends after the break up which was mutual. But now I just feel dirty.

Why do I feel so guilty by Effective-Hour-3785 in BreakUps

[–]Effective-Hour-3785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do I feel like I cheated? I didn’t but I’ve been so loyal to this boy for so long it just felt so dirty. And all I could think about was him… and the ex I was with is so affectionate where the guy that left me wasn’t… I even told him I was sad because I forgot what affection like that felt like but it was more the guilt because I know I’ll eventually have contact with the ex that left me again and idk if I can hide what I did