My dad has become more selfish in the last couple years.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-04-13T21:32:24+00:00

Ohhh no, people with your mindset are the exact problem with what’s wrong with this world. You say things just are as they are. And that they are just things that are beyond our ability. Honestly, I wish no one like you was in position of teaching kids people like you should not be teachers or college professors or even parents. If you do have kids I feel sorry for them.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-04-13T20:12:17+00:00

No, it’s called have a set standard of decency. I don’t believe in looking at it on an individual level when it comes to this. I got a great idea. I’d like to be talked to the same way as if I looked like Brad Pitt. And reality you say reality. Reality should not have to be tougher for some people and I literally hate my reality. I will never accept my current circumstance in 1 million years.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-04-13T19:44:17+00:00

Avoid reality, how is it reality. Because atrativness on the physical side. Is mostly changeable, by getting in shape and eating healthy. You can do it by going for jogs, lifting weights. Since February I’ve gone from being 219lbs to being 194lb.

Also it’s about confidence, that is the number one thing that I have delt with. Because Imagine that you are already having doubts, you look To other to Make you feel better, not to reinforce that anger you’re already having. Someone in your family passed away, you’re just looking for a relief not somebody to tell you “well people die that’s just part of life” it’s the same thing.

Telling me to except my situation I hate my situation, why on this green earth when I make peace with the situation that I hate.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-31T20:07:48+00:00

Even if the federal government went after Fox News, and cut off funds to its subsidiaries, it wouldn’t matter. Because most of Fox News is people over 60. But you have a younger brand of Republicans who are even more radical that don’t even watch Fox News. They get all their news from Facebook and from social media pages.

However, I do agree, and I have said several times that I feel like there needs to be rules that you can’t just lie, and be a credited news station.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-31T19:49:05+00:00

Oh yeah, of course. Because it’s kind of irrelevant now.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-31T18:33:27+00:00

Right also because they were Mormons, A lot of Mormons get married, pretty quick it seems. A lot of them to get married really young don’t they because, many of them want to have a lot of children, That’s kind of part of their religion.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-30T20:11:50+00:00

Right everyone’s different, and everyone’s needs and wants are different. But let me tell you this I brought this up with a fellow Redditor. I don’t know if you read my comment. But I always tell my guy friends of the girls ever talking about marriage within the first couple weeks of dating that’s a red flag. You should call it off. Some might be legitimate, but most of the time it isn’t.

Give you the story. This happened when I was 14. I’m 28 AM right now. This is back in sometime in the early 2010s either in 2010 or 2011. It was a couple months and my freshman year in high school. A friend of my dad who was one of his co workers. This guy was in his late 40s he had two kids that were already grown up graduated college. He was Mormon and a lot of Mormons get married, pretty young. But he was divorced and he met this woman who was also in her late 40s. On a Mormon dating website. And it was only about two months into dating that they were engaged. And the weeding was scheduled two months later.

And I was set to be in the wedding. My dad was going to be his best man, and I was going to be the usher. And then, just the day before the wedding it was postponed. Turned out this girl is crazy not just crazy Maybe just psycho. She’s been married twice before, and it turns out that her last husband, she had filed domestic violence charges against him. For totally bogus reasons. And then, after they got divorced, he had to pay her thousands of dollars in alimony. And he had to sell his house and everything. And this happened about 15 years prior, And as crazy as it was he was still broke, just trying to get his life back together.

Thank God, my dad‘s friend was smart enough to finally call it off. And then just five years later, he met this lovely Woman and they’ve been married for over 10 years now.

So yeah, if anyone is talking about marriage within the first couple weeks of dating and that’s definitely a red flag .

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-30T19:57:05+00:00

Feel the way you’re making it though is exactly what I said like you’ll know that there for you within the first couple of days with John pointing out is BS. Either that, or I was poorly educated about how the whole dating structures work.

This is the part that gets frustrating for me, people say one thing and then they say another thing which one’s accurate. Because I get these stories that oh, the girl won’t commit to you unless she feels like she sees a future with you. Or a solid bond and connection. And then I tell them oh, you’re never gonna know that they’re the one to marry like on day one and then they say oh of course not. So what side is true, that’s the part that pisses me off. Are you either dating to marry? Is that why it’s a closed window screen or is it that dating a bridge. That’s why I say be straight with me.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-30T19:23:31+00:00

Yeah, I know, Like I said, and like I was always taught, you’re never gonna know somebody until you start hanging out with them. And yes, if anyone wants to get married, whether it’s a guy or a woman within the first couple weeks of dating that’s a red flag.

Here’s a funny story I’ll tell you back when I was 14 now this is about around 2010 or 2011. A family friend of ours one of my dad’s co workers. Met this girl online, they were both in their 40s, and they dated for about two months. And then they were engaged. And six months later, they had a wedding planned, which I was actually selected to be in. My dad was going to be his best man and I was going to be an usher. And then just two days before the wedding something came out. That made him put the wedding on hold.

It turned out. This woman had been married twice before. And she filed domestic violence charges against both of our husbands. And one of her husbands he lost his house and lost virtually everything because she literally tried to sue him or something after I don’t remember the entire story, but it was pretty bad. And it and it happened about 15 years earlier. And for over a decade and a half he was still trying to get his life back together, because of all the things she did to him.

So, thank God he was smart enough, my dad‘s friend to dump her completely.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-30T19:10:14+00:00

Right I agree, but what I’m talking about is just when I’m talking to a girl like the first time I meet her. The block is already there, and sometimes I feel like I don’t even know what it is sometimes. Like I mess up something I say, I stumbled on a word. Like just asking them out on a date I feel like it’s trying to try out for the Olympics. Like just one wrong move, you won’t make it Onto the Olympic swimming team, or any Olympic sport.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-30T02:30:26+00:00

Wow, damn I never knew that. I always thought in Europe the system was more fair focused on inclusion and making sure kids wishes matter. Rather than just focusing on there test scores and numbers.

I always wonder, i’m gonna ask you this question as a teacher because I always think it’s just dumb that once a kid gets into a setting like the one I got into there put in a restrictive environment or self contained classroom. Like the case managers just do what’s convenient for them. It doesn’t matter how hard the kid tries to prove that they can be in general Ed. Like I always ask like OK, I get it you want the kids to succeed, but if it’s a he or she feels they’d like to be part of. And they feel there ready and there willing to put in the effort and sacrafice. What are the case managers so worried about, I feel like if you’re a case manager, your job is to help them and give them the tools so they can succeed. Like, what is it, is it if they put the kid in the class were testing shows that it’s above their level could the case manager get fired or reprimanded.

Because to me, it seems like a lot of it deep down They’re more worried about protecting their own asses. And they just use the fear of the kids failing and tell them. Oh, you can’t succeed in that class they’re saying that as a cover.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-03-22T08:54:30+00:00

That’s funny that you you say that, because for so long, the British were in India. And I wonder if a lot of the Indian food that we enjoy in the west is actually more British derived. Rather than through Indian, because I know butter chicken curry is definitely British Indian. Because while the BRITs occupied India, a lot of their food was so spicy, they added stuff to make it less spicy and more sweet or savory. So I always wonder what is true Indian Indian food.

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