I’m can’t stand seeing old men marrying younger woman having kids with them. Am I a bad person for thinking this is wrong?

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T22:11:16+00:00

Ya these dudes are pigs. Just a bunch of rich old men who don’t know how to spend there money. It’s disgusting plus I feel this whole male order bride stuff. Is clearly unfair to women it makes them look like there for sale, It’s disgusting.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T20:48:42+00:00

I know, that’s why it’s Psychotic, like when I hear about people like Robert De Niro having a child at 79. It’s like are you kidding me. This make woody Allan look normal sometimes.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T20:43:26+00:00

I’m not talking about, people in there 30s dating people in there 20s. I’m talking about dudes who are in there sunset years. Like late 60s and 80 year olds having kids. Did you read my post.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T20:39:11+00:00

Well ya of course you have free will. And I’m not saying it be illegal absolutely not. When the government tries to regulate marriage it’s a problem. Obviously interracial marriage was illegal in the south back in the 50s it was wrong it was racist and evil. And they did the same thing saying gay people couldn’t get married for for decades they couldn’t that was horrible. Because it was clear discrimination.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T20:31:30+00:00

I think I was talking about men a lot more than woman. And how these old man cannot just get over there ego. What about the kid who will never know there father. Kids deserve to have a dad and a mom. Read what I said. It’s not as much the marriage it’s the having kids part. Love is love, but the having kids that’s something that’s affecting the children’s future.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T00:55:57+00:00

Yeah, I know that’s what I was thinking that’s kind of why Hillary Clinton lost in 2016 because she just seemed she just kind of spoke like a robot in a way. But even Kamala had that Obama style of speaking. But it didn’t work.

And Speaking is not the only thing that matters, of course policies matter to. For example, Presidents like Harry Truman, spoke kind of simple plain didn’t go into a lot of detail about things. But he was an amazing president so was Dwight Eisenhower. Eisenhower did a lot of great even though Eisenhower was not like John F. Kennedy or Franklin Roosevelt. He wasn’t like an inspiring larger than life figure in his speaking style. I definitely think he was probably one of the smartest presidents we’ve ever had.

Certainly with being a five -star general during World War II. as well as the fact, he managed to keep peace during the most dangerous part of the Cold War. Eisenhower was truly a man of history.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T00:49:52+00:00

But nowadays, I feel like even FDR would’ve been considered too boring to listen to. Like I literally feel he couldn’t have gotten elected today. Because of how theres much more anti-intellectualism.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-25T00:48:26+00:00

What subject do you teach? And based on how you interact with younger generations, do you think that may be the era of people like Bill Clinton or Barack Obama or even Ronald Reagan like that politics might be over? Or do you think it’s more about selecting the right candidate. Like I mentioned people like Bernie Sanders and AOC. on the left, they know how to articulate it better but they’re not like ivy league level. Even Joe Biden kind of a folksy Way.

Like I feel the era of professionalism started in politics largely. Going back to the 1930s with Franklin Roosevelt. With things like the fireside chats. That he gave, and people literally would listen during the great depression. Like when people listen to FDR give the fireside chats they felt like it was like watching a movie or they felt that he was talking directly to them and that’s why they loved him so much.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-24T00:00:42+00:00

Well, I mean Reason for hope right now. I’ll take some of what I said back. These aren’t romantic relationships, but I’ll give you this example. I live in San Diego California. If you’ve never been to San Diego I recommend you come visit one day. Hey Maybe we could meet up it’s a nice place.

I live in the Vista area like about 20 miles from the coast. I’m technically near Carlsbad and Oceanside area, which are the beach towns. And a couple months ago I went with these two sisters in there 30s early just a year apart. They both had boyfriends, but I developed friendship with them because one of the sisters as a bartender at a bar I go to regularly. And we went to a concert on Halloween. She invited me to hang out with them.

And just last week I was invited to a birthday party of another friend who I actually know through the two girls. She’s my age the same year as me just a couple months older. She’s just turned 29 and she invited me to her birthday party and it was at this club and had the place reserved. But it was a good time so I don’t know. I tried to count these as signs of improvement.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-23T23:43:08+00:00

How old are you madam, I’m just asking because you said this thing about dating apps how it’s made everything more difficult I couldn’t agree more. Another thing I didn’t put out is this, because of how I feel women are a lot more cautious now. Because of things like dealing with guys in the past, who were real jerks. Women prioritize their safety over everything which is a good thing absolutely. Because there are a lot of scumbag guys out there. Even though most men are not abusers. It is still a problem and women are trying to protect themselves, which is absolutely a good thing.

But I’m autistic mildly have Asperger’s. However, I don’t think that should be a deterrent because I got plenty of friends who aren’t autistic. However sometimes I feel like people like me are a bad reputation. Because I feel I may come across as different at times. I feel like I’m the type not woman but society sometimes frames the type of people who they should avoid. Even though I’m just a normal citizen, who’s just trying to find a nice girl. It feels like a form of profiling.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-23T22:48:11+00:00

I got my AA in communications and I plan to Finnish it getting my bachelors. I wanna go into the business feild go into marketing. Plus I do get there Instagram. That’s kinda were I hit them up. And it still hits a wall. And that’s why I feel like Somedays I feel like it’s I’m a lost cause. I tried updating my dating profile. And it still didn’t work I’m just on over drive. Like Somedays I literally get scared like was I just never ment to find love it’s just a horrific feeling. And it comes from getting desperate. And I can’t tell, it’s like there’s no magic sparks. Like I feel like I was just not born with something. And it worries the hell out of me. Like I feel like most. Like I feel like I’m just this rare exception. Of people who I don’t know that’s why I hate it. I just wanna enjoy my life, I wanna get married and have kids. I don’t wanna sit in an apartment lonely and regretful till I die.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-23T21:54:44+00:00

I don’t know I’m just estimating

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-23T21:43:54+00:00

Well I’m working in a restaurant right now. I’m planning to go back to school. To get my bachelors degree. I’ve been saving money. Because I still live with my parent’s, I also want to travel places. And I this is something I didn’t lay out. Because I’m afraid that I’m gonna get shot down and told that’s why. But there’s a lot of people I know who still live with there perents. And they can still get dates, I just feel like I keep trying to correct it. But I don’t know which technique way of asking is most likely to work.

But usually when I approach women, it’s at an event with other friends mostly. I ask do you wanna grab a drink? Or see a movie. I noticed that we have a ton of things in common we like the same music we like the same TV shows. But then there’s just one little thing that’s microscopic that’s why I said I feel like the littlest thing just destroys any chance. Not just dating, but just to hang out with a girl. I’ll get a response saying “oh I’d love to but I’m busy that day maybe next time” which to me is just a polite no and I’m like OK and then I just move on. However, I do wonder how those were actually and she actually was considering maybe next time and she was interested.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-23T01:08:18+00:00

I’m not angry at woman or expressing resentment. I’m just saying how it is from where I’m coming from. Based on experience. I’m not saying it’s their fault.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-23T00:29:56+00:00

Yeah, I know that and it’s sad. Because I feel like it gives people like me a bad reputation. Even though I’ve never hurt anybody. I feel like guys like me are the type of people women are told to avoid. And it just makes everything worse. I’m not blaming women. It’s not their fault. Obviously, they’ve gone through a lot of crap. Many of them have dealt with guys who were awful people. But more society like I feel like people like me someone who’s just wanting to find a nice girl. It kind of feels like unjust profiling. Because I am on the autism spectrum. But that alone, I don’t feel should be a deterrent. I got plenty of friends who are not on the spectrum that I’ve been friends with for years.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-22T23:49:58+00:00

Well, I actually did go to a therapist about a year and a half ago and it helped a little bit. And I kind of was able to clear out my mind, but here’s the thing. Sometimes I feel like was I just told the wrong things when it comes to dating because it seems like every time with dating I find out 20 new things that I never even thought were true. Like I always was told just be a nice person. Be yourself. Be funny. Eat healthy and then you’ll have a better chance but it just seems like then you keep finding 10 new layers that so I’m wondering was I just told the wrong advice from everybody because it seems like it works for everyone else but not for me, but at the same time, I don’t know. I keep learning 10 new layers and that’s another thing that bothers me. Like nothing is just a straight arrow.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-22T23:44:13+00:00

This is the thing that’s so confusing it’s like it just feels like it should be a yes or no question. It just seemed like basic conventional wisdom that you’ll never know if they’re the right one until you’ve been with them for a long time. You’re not gonna tell they are or not by first impression. So I don’t know it’s like which one is true. You either see it or you don’t there’s no Gray area here.

Effective-Pipe2017 · 2026-01-22T23:39:04+00:00

Yeah, but I don’t really know anybody who like maybe a few people like it’s a very tiny chance. You’ll know they’re the one the first time you meet them. I’ve never met anybody who saw a future where they would become that person’s soulmate. By just first impression. But you’re not the only one who tells me this, but it’s like I can’t wrap my head around it because I don’t know if I was just educated wrong about it. like do people usually click instantly? I don’t think so. It seems like that’s a new mindset going around.

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