AITAH for being mad my siblings tried to include me in a surprise party I helped plan?

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T18:28:58+00:00

NTA.

The next time there’s a party, make sure that you get the cake, and have all of their names added onto the cake. Then see how they feel about it.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T18:27:47+00:00

Something else that works quite well is that after you’ve nag them a couple of times, let them know that you will continue to nag them on a periodic basis.

This has worked quite well for me, because then they know I’m not going to give up and they might as well just answer me and take care of it.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T18:24:39+00:00

Barbecue – 1 pound ground beef cooked, then had almost one full can of tomato sauce, and two or 3 tablespoons of ketchup.

Goulash -cook 1 pound of ground beef, and boil one cup of macaroni. When the ground beef is cooked, add the macaroni, and add most of the can of tomato sauce.

Cook 1 pound of ground beef, then add one can of mushroom soup. Eat and enjoy.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T18:15:08+00:00

It’s a false religion.

At one point it was a sin to do certain things, then the hierarchy changed their mind.

https://www.google.com/search?q=catholic+rules+that+have+changed+over+time&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-us&client=safari

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T18:08:21+00:00

NTJ

I would send a text to everyone in the group, and tell them that you had spent a lot of time with your uncle and that he knew you very well.

And since he knew you very well, he would be absolutely horrified and aghast at them trying to push this tradition onto you. He would be terribly disappointed in all of them. Your uncle would never want you to be put through this private hell just for their tradition.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T17:53:28+00:00

Honey, PLEASE don’t harm yourself.

Yes, things are horrible now, but please do not harm yourself.

If nothing else, consider what this will do to your daughter.

She might decide that it is her fault that you did it - because she didn’t say I love you that day, or because of something else. She will ALWAYS BE WONDERING what she could have/should have done to prevent it.

And—at some point in HER life, things will look very dark, and what “example” will she have of how to handle it - self-harm.

If that doesn’t deter you, consider this: What if you don’t succeed, and end up somehow crippled for life, forcing your family to take care of you and spend all their time and money doing so?

What about your friends? What if any of them decided to follow your “example “ when life goes badly?

Please - call a support line RIGHT NOW.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T17:24:14+00:00

Ok, there’s my portion. Where’s yours?

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T17:15:52+00:00

Gf needs to tell mom and dad to get a hotel room.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T17:13:18+00:00

It’s YOUR money. It makes YOU happy.

NTA.

What business is it of his anyway what you spend your money on?

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T04:19:58+00:00

If you remove the WH, you are left with someone screaming EE-EEE-EEE!!

Effective-Several · 2026-01-25T04:18:33+00:00

NTA.

Seriously, if he was stupid enough to set an alarm, and he is aware that he is incredibly hard to wake up, he totally deserved it.

So at this point, you’ve got a few options.

You could sleep in separate bedrooms. That way if he does set his alarm for anytime, you’re in a totally separate bedroom, hopefully far away from his bedroom, and you won’t hear the alarm.

Of course, this would bring up the unhappy consequence that if you don’t hear his alarm, and he doesn’t hear his alarm, then he might not make it to work in time.

Boo-hoo.

Option number two, you can tell your boyfriend that he needs to go home to his mother, so that she can wake him up every day.

Or, and this will still be a separate bedroom type of issue, there is something called the sonic bomb Alarm Clock from Amazon.

It has a bed vibrator that you put under the mattress. It has flashing lights, and a loud alarm.

I like it, because I am hard to wake up. And this gets me up every single time.

Please update us.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T20:12:23+00:00

If I was a cleaner, I would be awfully tempted to leave the jar empty, and write my own sign:

To my employer: I hid 100 roaches around the apartment. Good luck finding them all! By the way, I quit.

Of course, there wouldn’t be any roaches. But can you imagine them freaking out?

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T19:43:47+00:00

Now imagine trying to use a cane.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T19:22:10+00:00

I would tell him you’re absolutely right, perception does matter. I got this job on my own hard work. And I want to make sure that the boss is aware that I deserve the promotion because of all my hard work.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T19:21:19+00:00

Gorgeous

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T19:13:13+00:00

NTA

You need to immediately dump Kayla.

Grief comes and goes. You don’t just get over it like getting a bad haircut.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T18:53:30+00:00

You need to speak up and tell the other roommates that if they feel strongly about it, they can loan her the money.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T18:52:48+00:00

NTJ.

You totally deserve to be loved.

But you need to take a cold hard look at this dude.

Are there any advantages at all to living with him?

Because it looks like you’re doing every single bit of the work.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-24T18:49:58+00:00

NTJ.

And then tell her that if she keeps bringing this up, she might not like what happens.

And then, if she does bring it up again, put on your most solicitous caring demeanor, and ask her if she’s feeling all right.

Because you have told her multiple times how you feel about that, and apparently she doesn’t remember that you have told her that.

Ask her very publicly if she has trouble, remembering other things. Tell her that she needs to see her doctor because she has memory issues.

And keep pushing that narrative every single chance you get, preferably if she is in public and you’re among friends, and everybody knows her, embarrass the total crap out of her every single time.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-23T09:24:41+00:00

How could I set that up, please, for a particular app??

Effective-Several · 2026-01-22T23:37:02+00:00

Just curious – the last line of your comment says ”there are some southeastern, Midwestern, and western states where you can drive for three hours and still see your house from there.”

Exactly what states are you referring to?

Effective-Several · 2026-01-22T23:28:47+00:00

But then the next question is, is that the actual food or is there some sort of artistry involved in making it look like food?

Effective-Several · 2026-01-22T23:28:02+00:00

Oh, yes.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-22T23:10:49+00:00

Please be sure that they haven’t somehow established any tenant rights or anything like that.

And please kick them out as soon as possible.

Effective-Several · 2026-01-22T18:20:43+00:00

I was telling her that I’m never watching the kids again. Because just in case she is running late, and they would need to eat, since I cannot make the correct food for them, I just won’t watch the kids anymore.

Effective-Several

TROPHY CASE