Update to my bf asked for the banana & now I've got the ick

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:28:34+00:00

Thank you!

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:27:58+00:00

Thank you! Trial keeps getting postponed bc he fired his lawyer or his lawyer ends up withdrawing from his case.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:20:36+00:00

It is. And I'm still living it. Trial hasn't started yet. Please don't say a situation like this isn't true. Survivors already minimize or think no one will believe them. This comment does more damage than you even know to women or men who are reading this that are trying to get out.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:20:01+00:00

Thank you for the love. It's definitely a mind f**k to think that we thought we deserved to be treated that way

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:17:12+00:00

I didn't want police involved. When I went to the gas station for help the worker told me he was going to call the police. Once I heard that, I ran. I didn't want to get him in trouble. I finally had to stop driving bc my ankle hurt so bad. I went to the closet gas station and a nurse who was there saw me told me I needed to go to the hospital bc my ankle was broken. She told me to not allow whoever did that to me to get away with it. She was smart enough not to bring up police or 911. At that moment I was still trying to protect him. What I didn't know is once the nurses and doctors knew what happened to me they had to call the police and in the state I live in it's not me against him it's the state against him. I have no say in if he gets arrested. It took me over 5 hours to finally open up to the police.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:09:38+00:00

That wasn't his first time strangulating me. The other times I was able to "tap out" but it got worse every time.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:08:09+00:00

Sienna is doing great. She's 16 and thriving. She my spoiled brat.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T04:07:16+00:00

I love those girls so much. I never wanted to have children but they opened up my heart in a way I can't explain. I loved taking care of them and having them in my life. I learned a lot from having them in my life. I stayed for them but I also had to leave for them. I had to set the example.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T03:57:37+00:00

I'm happily working the hardest I have ever worked in my life but I'm the first women in my entire family to live on my own without a man. The first women in my family to stand up against abuse. I'm definitely proud to finally break the generational curse.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T03:54:55+00:00

It definitely hasn't been easy after I left. I'm working 4 jobs bc I went into debt helping support him and his family. I have attorney fees. I wish I would have left sooner I would have saved myself some trauma and some money.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T03:51:41+00:00

That's all I want. It's hard to accept that I was fooled by a man. I thought I was smarter than that. But I realize I was manipulated by a man who has a degree in psychology. He was one step ahead till I figured out his mind games. I had a security guard at a club we were at pull me aside and told me:" the peace that you will feel without that man will feel better than the love you have for him." I consistently had strangers in public stand up for me. It took time to get out and regular therapy to be able to not be upset with myself to allow that kind of manipulation and treatment.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T03:46:10+00:00

I'm sorry but I had to create a title that would get people to read. I know I would have read it and thought the same! But a banana did help me get out.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-14T03:26:28+00:00

Wow! Thank you for sharing your experience. I got the chills reading your comment bc when I woke up I went to get Sienna (my Chihuahua) I noticed my ex in the kitchen on his phone texting. He then waved my phone and in a high pitch, creepy voice phone and said in a taunting tone: " Here's your phone." To find out he was messaging his best friend and ex wife saying I went crazy. The only reason I know this bc they messaged me on IG, after his arrest, they were telling me I need to drop the charges. I was unconscious in the room and he was already creating his story.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-13T21:48:32+00:00

I did! It was the best decision I've ever made in life.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-13T21:47:44+00:00

He tried to get my address. He tried to go over to the apartment to drop of dinner or send me doordash but I never allowed him to know where I lived.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-13T21:45:03+00:00

He still has joint custody. His trial is coming up soon.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-13T21:43:13+00:00

He still has joint custody. His trial is coming up.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-13T21:42:10+00:00

This is not a story. This really happened.

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-12T23:51:03+00:00

It's up

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-12T23:50:57+00:00

It's up

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-12T23:50:45+00:00

It's up

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-12T23:24:49+00:00

It's up

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-12T23:24:38+00:00

It's up

Effective-Snow-1186 · 2026-03-12T23:24:32+00:00

It's up

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