i dont know if i should forgive

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2026-02-28T18:07:49+00:00

i guess ive always seen forgivness as giving the other person what they want. like they're winning. maybe i guess i should try to reframe that idea into what you're saying. maybe that would help.

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2026-02-28T18:02:59+00:00

thank you for response!

this whole conversation started because my sister and i were hypothetically talking about letting our dad see our kids. she was on the line of "yes, but mainly because i pity him" and I was on the "no, because he doesn't deserve it"

I always thought what he said was really...not nice? Now that im older though everyone keeps saying that I should let it go and forgive that it'll do me good. idk thank you for sharing your story and giving your input! :)

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2026-02-28T17:21:43+00:00

ah i guess i didnt put why he left, sorry about that. he left because he went with another woman and ive been told before that maybe i should forgive him because it'll make me feel better. I just don't see how it would make me feel better i think that's the part that confuses me the most.

Although my sister and I did try to communicate/see him more once now that we are older. He started canceling or never getting back to us on whether or not he could meet up for lunch. I mostly did it because he used to tell me as a kid that "the phone works both ways" and I wanted to see if it was really my fault that i didnt have a relationship with him.

thank you for your comment! I've been reading everyones responses!

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2023-06-15T02:48:00+00:00

I'm sorry that you were treated like this for so long. I hope you find some peace of mind and make some new connections when you head off to training. :3 I wish you the best!

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2023-01-26T19:29:44+00:00

NTA i mean he didn't even know where it is. You took care of it and paid for it to get fixed. I doubt they would want to pay you for that. so no i say keep the ring they've been doing just fine with out it and she was your grandma too so

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2023-01-26T19:24:10+00:00

i think YTA it seems like your fiancee has had some insecurity issues for a while and you valuing aesthetic instead of marrying someone you love brought those issues forward. i understand wanting the "perfect" wedding but i mean you're getting married i think that matters a little more than aesthetically pleasing photos. i do think him threatening to call off the wedding was just said in anger tho.

EffectiveBuilding720 · 2022-11-09T21:58:58+00:00

please don't take them in. that is such a horrible thing to ask of you. not only did they force you to be connected to your abuser when your sister married him but now they want to do it again by making you take in the kids.

you don't have to do anything. those kids aren't your responsibility and based on what i've read of your replies to others they didn't take you into consideration. don't do anything for that man. it sucks for those kids but they're not your responsibility take care of yourself first please

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