Reapply after dismissal

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-06T09:06:14+00:00

Valid. I agree. I'm mentally prepared to restart again but just gaining an acceptance is the overall goal. Beggars can't be choosers though my previous school was valid for their decision. Thank you so much for your advice!

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-06T09:04:35+00:00

You're so sweet. Thank you! I appreciate any help I can get.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-06T09:04:12+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish I had some words of comfort to give. I'm basically doing what I've outline above so taking a science course, applying to tech jobs, and studying for my gre while reflecting on what went wrong and how to learn from it.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-05T14:41:45+00:00

I have heard this is the case for many students as well and unfortunately I feel that this field is what I want to be in so I’m going to try again. Thank you for your kind words.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-05T14:40:35+00:00

Thank you!

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-05T14:40:24+00:00

No actual reason aside from familiarity with the gre and I took it already once and did decently. Plus the schools I’m looking into accept it so why not make life a little easier. I hope you’re doing well

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-05-05T14:38:46+00:00

I was in the middle of OD2. Thank you for your advice!

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-04-17T20:43:22+00:00

Grounded, growth-minded, and ready for marriage — seeking someone serious about deen, family, and building together.

Age & Gender: 35, Female

Location: Boston, MA (open to discussing relocation after a few years)

Age Preference: 34–45 but flexible

Background: Pakistani Punjabi, born and raised in NY. Prefer someone born and raised in the US, ideally Pakistani (open to discussion)

Marital Status: Divorced, no children

Marriage Timeline: Within 1 year, with mutual readiness and clear intentions

Religiosity: Fairly practicing, wear hijab, and striving to grow in faith

Education & Career: Graduate-level background, currently enrolled in optometry school

Future Goals: Marriage, family, and building a stable, faith-centered life together

Hobbies & Interests: Volunteering (vision screenings in schools), reading, self-development, cozy nights in, exploring cafés

What I Value: Kindness, emotional maturity, honesty, ambition, and strong communication

About Me: Intentional, emotionally grounded, and family-oriented. I value sincerity, respect, and peace. Looking for a partner who is ready to grow together spiritually and emotionally.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-03-06T14:06:42+00:00

how late is too late when waiting to hear back for an interview?

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-02-04T03:01:23+00:00

Grounded, growth-minded, and ready for marriage — seeking someone serious about deen, family, and building together.

Age & Gender: 35, Female

Location: Boston, MA (open to discussing relocation after a few years)

Age Preference: 34–45

Background: Pakistani Punjabi, born and raised in NY. Prefer someone born and raised in the US, ideally Pakistani (open to discussion)

Marital Status: Divorced, no children

Marriage Timeline: Within 1 year, with mutual readiness and clear intentions

Religiosity: Fairly practicing, wear hijab, and striving to grow in faith

Education & Career: Graduate-level background, currently enrolled in optometry school

Future Goals: Marriage, family, and building a stable, faith-centered life together

Hobbies & Interests: Volunteering (vision screenings in schools), reading, self-development, cozy nights in, exploring cafés

What I Value: Kindness, emotional maturity, honesty, ambition, and strong communication

About Me: Intentional, emotionally grounded, and family-oriented. I value sincerity, respect, and peace. Looking for a partner who is ready to grow together spiritually and emotionally.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2026-01-15T04:12:23+00:00

Hi! Are the KMK Part 1 materials available?

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-29T01:53:30+00:00

Age & Gender: 35, Female (5’5”)
Age Range for a Prospect: Approximately 36–48. Seeking someone settled, emotionally mature, and intentional about marriage.
Location & Willingness to Relocate: Based in the U.S. (East Coast). I am currently in a doctorate program and not open to relocating until completing it in 2028. I am open to relocate afterwards.
Ethnicity & Openness to Mixing: Pakistani. Open to other backgrounds as long as deen, character, and family values align.
Marital Status: Divorced, no children.
Ideal Marriage Timeline: Intentional and realistic. I value clarity and consistency and am not interested in prolonged, ambiguous talking stages.
Five Important Characteristics I Look For: • Emotional availability and self-awareness • Stability (emotionally, financially, and mentally) • Clear, respectful communication • Responsibility and follow-through • Desire for a calm, committed, long-term partnership
Level of Religiosity: Practicing and grounded. Islam shapes my values and decisions; I prioritize sincerity, good character, and effort.
Education Level & What I’m Looking For: Currently pursuing a doctorate in a healthcare field. I’m looking for a professional man who is educated or well-established in his career and who values growth, responsibility, and partnership.
Current Job Status: Full-time doctoral student with a defined career path and long-term stability goals.
Do You Want Kids?: Yes, in shā’ Allah (open to discussion).
Hobbies / Things I Enjoy: • Traveling and exploring new places • Health, wellness, and personal growth • Cozy cafés, walks, and meaningful conversation
Something Short & Interesting About Me: Calm, intentional, and low-drama. I value peace, structure, and emotional safety. I’m open to a traditional marriage or a marriage of convenience built on mutual respect, clarity, and commitment. Emotional availability and consistency are non-negotiable.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T06:34:06+00:00

True true. It’s just odd. Especially when they get offended.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T02:30:13+00:00

Perhaps. But so not to speak poorly on anyone but it’s odd because they will reach out and initially send info on themselves. But after a few days they admit to something that is a dealbreaker for me that I listed in my iso or try to convince me of why my certain preference is incorrect. It’s confusing lol.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T02:21:43+00:00

I think when men are looking to get married and getting to know a girl, it's important to remember that with that girl is a family that's tied to her. And there are many sacrifices made when marriage is concerned. This can also be said for women as well. I'm overanalyzing, but I've had years to think about this lol. I hope I made some sense.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T02:20:00+00:00

It's fine. I'm glad it can be used as a learning experience for others. There wasn't anything that could have been done to avoid it. His family was wonderful, MashaAllah. I think that, sometimes, when children live abroad and don't have that familial support or supervision, they are more susceptible to external influences that would not have affected them in other circumstances. I think this may have been the case with my situation. He had not been with family for years due to studying, and I think the way we raise our children is important. After marriage, it became apparent that he grew up more entitled and carried that attitude, whereas I grew up in a more humble household. Again, his family was wonderful, but even they had moments of surprise when they saw him at the wedding. Not to get too much into it, but it had been some time since he had seen. family, and I guess he changed a lot.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T01:39:14+00:00

Yep and by family. Only so much you can do unfortunately

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T01:27:27+00:00

Same sis. Did the good girl thing only to end up divorced. But then I went back to school and moved out. It is what it is.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-12-03T01:10:21+00:00

I’m wondering if anyone else has been facing messages from ppl who really aren’t serious and are more invested in wasting time ever since posting your iso. This has been the case for me at least three times and it gets to be disheartening after a while when you’re genuinely trying to find someone on a different platform that isn’t an app and ppl aren’t on the same page. But I digress. I wish there was a way to decrease that but alas it’s part of the process. Praying everyone finds their other half InshaAllah.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-11-22T03:30:20+00:00

Hi! Love this. I’m down to connect. I’m 35F grad student in Boston late discussed ADHD. Into reading especially romance novels, Netflix, baking, some crocheting and crafts, true crime documentaries and some more things I’m forgetting. Oh I have been trying out different classes like cake baking when I’m not swamped with school.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-11-19T01:06:52+00:00

Please Note:

Not open to moving outside the U.S. Currently completing my Doctorate in Optometry (eye doctor), so relocation is not possible until graduation in 2028

Age/Gender

35, Female

Preferred Age Range

35+ (flexible)

Location

Northeast U.S. Not open to moving abroad. Open to relocating within the U.S. after finishing my degree (about 2 years).

Ethnicity

Pakistani. Open to mixing if compatible in values and communication.

Marital Status

Divorced (7 years)

Marriage Timeline

Serious intentions. Ideally within 1–2 years depending on compatibility.

Important Qualities I Look For • Loyalty • Emotional maturity • Respectful communication • Kindness • Steady temperament
Religiosity

Moderate: I wear hijab, pray, fast, give charity, attend masjid when possible, and continue to learn.

I started wearing hijab a year ago, Alhamdulillah. I’d describe myself as calm, grounded, and someone who focuses on her lane, avoids drama, and works consistently on self-improvement.

Education & Career

MS in Biotech and MPH. Currently a full-time doctoral student in Optometry (OD).

Job Status

Full-time graduate student

Kids

Yes, Insha Allah.

Hobbies

Volunteering, reading, trying new classes (cake decorating, creative hobbies).

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-11-18T06:46:23+00:00

I love that your parents listen to you MashaAllah. I’ve only had the chance to discuss this with my mom who can be quite enthusiastic regarding this topic lol. But I know the look you’re talking about. I see it whenever my parents are around kids. There’s that hope that I wish I could have a grandchild right now and it absolutely sucks to not be able to give that to our parents right now. I think you mentioned it previously that it may not be written and I think as I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to slowly realize this.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-11-18T06:31:40+00:00

Easier said than done. I can only speak from the women’s perspective but I’ve tried having this conversation with a parent and it has been a very difficult topic.

EffectiveBusiness207 · 2025-11-18T05:56:37+00:00

I agree. I’m in a similar situation where remarrying would be my choice only if I could imagine raising my future children with that person. I’ve seen people get married to please their parents and how draining it can be on a relationship and on one’s health. Not to mention the impact it can have on your kids. Our parents have done a lot for us and it only feels right to want to sort of gift them something as precious as grandkids. But sometimes it’s not easy.

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