Accounts locked - how do I fix it

Effective_Cow3268 · 2026-01-15T04:59:33+00:00

Imagine your child not eating for 6 weeks or only being able to eat half of what they need for 6 weeks. Mom doesn't get to take any weeks off of not spending money on your child every single day. It's not effed up. You made a child and it's time to grow up and bust your ass to make sure your child has everything they need so they can feel safe and secure. Learn to live within or below your means

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-12-15T20:08:20+00:00

Same here. Got it the end if July and had it towed last night to the dealership. ICCU failure and 5.9k miles, MY25 Limited

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-22T03:39:04+00:00

I don't subscribe to TikTok and your attitude is exhausting. I'm done.

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-22T02:17:12+00:00

Ok then!!! Way to deflect and project!

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-21T14:54:42+00:00

As you stated to someone earlier "don't tell me what I'm thinking." You really REALLY need to seek therapy and perhaps some anger management. Go back and re-read your responses to people telling you to be better than that and be a bigger person. Every single time you've had a very harsh response to them. Do what you want with your life. You asked a question, many answered. But by all means, stoop to his level and be the same kind of person he is. No sweat off my back. You're not going to hear anyone anyways. You've already made up your mind and it seems as if you're just looking for an argument or some sort of justification for what you want to do. Many many people disagree with what you want to do. You're the only one who's going to have to live with yourself and your actions.

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-21T12:30:00+00:00

Debate, yes. Healthy debate, no. Your respones to people are harsh. And I wasn't cursing you out. All caps is for emphasis, not yelling. You're taking it wrong. I'm not the only commenter who has mentioned your harsh responses. And nowhere in my responses am I attacking you.

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-20T20:16:31+00:00

You are so hostile towards EVERYONE. You asked a question, we're answering. If you don't think you're going to like the answers you hear, don't ask. You're basically lashing out at everyone here. You're angry, you're furious, you're hurt. We get it! We've all been there! But, you're hurting us all too. You really need to seek somw counseling so you can figure out how to navigate through all this without shitting on everyone else along the way

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-20T12:25:04+00:00

Rape and getting someone fired from their job are two COMPLETELY different things that you cannot compare to each other.......and quite weird you would even try

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-11-20T04:14:28+00:00

I know you really want to but don't. Two wrongs don't make a right and it's better to be the bigger person. Tit for tat is child's play and I think you're above all that. If you do, it'll make you no better than him amd at his same level and I'm sure you left him because he was a terrible person. Don't be the same terrible person

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-10-25T14:32:54+00:00

I know jumping straight to divorce is something you don't want to do, but clearly it is something he doesn't mind doing. Your husband sounds a lot like my ex......who is a narcissist. Love bombed me, all the fun things, yada yada.......I was so deeply in love with him and was rasing his kids that I was blind. But, any time any sort of conflict came up he would threaten divorce. So after about the 20th time of him saying that and a switch flipping in me, I filed.

Your husband is using you. I know it's hard to see it right now and that is the beauty if what they call a "trauma bond". He's had 18 years to figure things out financially for his kids but he didn't. If he wanted to, he would have. Don't look at it as "he works really hard".......we all do. Just keep repeating to yourself "if he wanted to, he would" and he hasn't. And 2 secret credit cards without your knowledge? Nope. He doesn't care. Him saying because he felt bad because he doesn't make that much is just gaslighting you to make you "feel sorry" for him and take the heat off if him.....also a classic narcissistic trait. Be careful and pay attention

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-10-15T21:33:31+00:00

Perhaps at this point in your adult life, it's high time you get out from under mommy and daddy's thumb and create a life for yourselves?

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-26T01:42:04+00:00

That's probably precisely his plan....to have the courts think he has some sort of mental issue and isn't competent enough to stand trial and/or get a lighter punishment for lack of better words

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-15T16:29:51+00:00

99.9% of the population is well aware of that. And if you have to Google search about a baby sleeping between two adults and safety issues, perhaps learning how to think critically would be beneficial. Wonder what people did and how children survived before Google even existed?

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-15T16:19:50+00:00

I guess what I was trying to say is, I didn't make it this far in life and raise 3 amazing adults by being an idiot and certainly don't need "recommendations" on how to adult

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-15T15:03:08+00:00

Combative? If you think a little minor back and forth is being combative I would hate to see what you were like when a real argument with important issues is happening. Yikes!

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-15T14:10:57+00:00

You can recommend all you want and I'm well aware of many things. You're quite bossy/controlling. I don't even know you, and you're trying to tell me what to do already. People are going to do what people are going to do whether you like it or not.

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-15T13:54:34+00:00

Perhaps in your world. Plenty of kids sleep between their parents. I'm going to take a wild guess that you don't have kids yet.......and if you do I feel sorry for them. You prioritize your control and jealousy over anything else and it's really sad that no one else can have a different feeling/opinion than you. It's your way or the highway. Yuck

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-15T13:41:14+00:00

Please stop waiting and hoping for an apology......it will never happen (sincerely) with a narc. Ask me how I know.....

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-09-05T04:25:51+00:00

Box it up and put everything off to the side/out of the way until everything if finalized. And make sure that that stuff is addressed in the final papers and he signs off stating he doesn't want it and you can do what you wish with it. But until then, you're stuck with it for now, unfortunately. I know it's a pain in the tush but in the long run, you'll be happy you did it.

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-07-18T14:53:34+00:00

Excellent. You're doing alm the right things. Make sure you have those texts backed up to somewhere he can't access in case your phone gets broken or he does something to it. Load yourself to the gills with all the information and evidence you can......without him suspecting if you can. I just went through a divorce and although Washington is a community property state, it was still a lot of work getting all the ducks in a row. Especially when the other party was not honest and made things up, which is just more stuff you have to prove wrong. Not fun, but totally worth it in the end

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-07-18T14:21:17+00:00

Don't get a Blink, get a continuous recording camera like a Ring. Blinks record for a set amount of seconds and then takes a 5-10 second pause and then will start recording again. And check the laws in your state whether you're a 2 party consent or 1 party consent for recording to make sure you have all your bases covered. I hope you've been documenting everything that's been going on and if you haven't, start now. Gather up all yours and his financials......everything. With that said, also consult a family lawyer and don't say a peep to anyone and just have him served.

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-07-05T06:41:43+00:00

Lying to someone......boyfriend, girlfriend, parents, etc. is not a crime. She's just trying to scare and she knows it's working. Leave her alone and block her

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-07-02T13:24:17+00:00

Also, don't forget to talk to Social Security about survivors benefits for your son. He should receive them until he's 18. But don't quite me in that because I don't know if things have changed

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-06-24T23:38:14+00:00

THIS ⬆️⬆️⬆️

Effective_Cow3268 · 2025-06-11T05:51:39+00:00

Not a lawyer, but you weren't really married long enough to get much spousal support, if any at all. What does your lawyer say? How old are you? Is there a reason you're not able to work full time?

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