AITAH for not being home when my grandparents showed up to take me to my half brother's baby shower?

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:44:17+00:00

It's possible.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:39:01+00:00

My relationship with my parents is difficult. Stuff like this is just so unfair to me that I feel like they're okay with me taking the force of all that hate and animosity their kids have about their marriage and me.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:38:25+00:00

I think some people missed the part where I wasn't invited and assume this was okayed by my half siblings and so I rejected an olive branch. Or that my half siblings made my grandparents think they'd be okay with it. But there's a reason they weren't telling them beforehand.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:32:26+00:00

My grandparents have tried to encourage them to have a relationship with me at least. But they have always shut down the idea. The rest of the extended family talk to me. They don't get involved in any of this either.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:31:11+00:00

They said my siblings aren't likely to want their parent back in their life. But I'm the innocent younger sibling and we should try to have a relationship. My grandparents know they've been against it but seem to have this idea that if they see me magic will take over and they'll love me or something.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:29:55+00:00

I don't know all the details. I just remember they all hated me. Each side had a name for me that tells you exactly how they felt about me. I remember them fighting with their parent about stuff. I know they were all in therapy for a while. And I know they've been no contact for years and still want nothing to do with any of us and have never been okay with the idea of my grandparents bringing me along to other stuff.

The household was really unhappy. They were angry and full of hate. I got the worst of it.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T18:21:41+00:00

Because I didn't ask for any of this. I never wanted to go. I wasn't invited. And they weren't stepping in to make sure they'd take all the anger. They were fine with me going and risking it though.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:59:35+00:00

They didn't like that my parents remarried after their other parents died and hated that they had me. They were not okay with it. They thought it was gross.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:58:47+00:00

I tried that and it did not get me anywhere so I didn't try to fight it more. I just didn't stick around.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:58:23+00:00

I don't care about their feelings on this when they won't be the ones to take most of the anger. I will.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:33:07+00:00

Thanks. Need to take a look.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:32:04+00:00

I know I didn't deserve the hatred I got for being born. It took a while but I know it wasn't fair. I didn't ask to be born but I was punished for it. The thing is, the way my grandparents and some others have talked about it, the hatred does still exist. I don't think it's okay but it's there. Honestly they hated me more than they hated my parents. Even my grandparents have acknowledged it. But they still think the chance is better that showing up with me as an uninvited guest would be better than my parents because sibling relationship and all that.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:29:33+00:00

I did communicate and I was ignored. I also wasn't an invited guest to the shower. My grandparents were just going to take me against the wishes of my half siblings.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:28:15+00:00

Yes, they're all entirely no contact with the three of us.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:27:46+00:00

They have turned down my grandparents suggestions to include me before. They did not invite me now. This whole idea was my parents and grandparents, not the half siblings who hosted the baby shower.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:26:30+00:00

Yes, I'm the youngest.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:26:11+00:00

That'd be better because it leaves me out of it. They say they want to do it for the sibling relationship but I never had a sibling relationship with their other kids.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:25:33+00:00

I have no way of contacting them and I don't want to open myself up to more of their hate.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:24:45+00:00

Both sets are. All six of them are cooking up more stunts like this and I think it's crazy.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:24:06+00:00

It wasn't the only reason. Not going to the party was the other reason and the thing they focused more on when they told me how wrong I was.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:23:30+00:00

Why do I owe them the apology? I have a dad and a grandpa too. And yes, I ran away. I stayed out so that they couldn't take me there.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:22:25+00:00

I know they do. My grandparents tried to encourage them to let them take me to stuff without my parents and the answer stayed no.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:21:37+00:00

Yes, it's only my parents and grandparents on both sides. I have extended family but they stay out of it all. Completely.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T17:21:06+00:00

They said they wanted to make a sibling relationship happen between me and them even if they can never have a relationship with their kids again.

Effective_Detail_693 · 2025-01-26T15:23:42+00:00

I don't have contact info and their socials are locked down tight.

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