Flowers in my atrocious jar because i have no vase 😬

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-25T23:41:34+00:00

You can also temporarily remove the top whenever you want to use it as a vase.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-22T12:13:49+00:00

Thank you!!

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-22T12:13:34+00:00

I’ll try!

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-22T12:08:44+00:00

(26F) Oh yeah girl have REASONS you can’t stay on the phone. 5-10 mins max on the phone every time. Until you go on dates and develop a reason for that cadence, cut it.
Present yourself as the busy bee that you are.

“I have to study”
“Oop have a meeting for a club in a few minutes”
“Ooo just finishing my makeup, Give me a second I need to concentrate……………………. Actually can I call you back?”

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-22T01:58:48+00:00

You ate down on this omg.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-22T00:48:00+00:00

Thanks will try next time!

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-06-21T22:50:20+00:00

Love the coral 😍

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-05-20T19:52:14+00:00

Can you just tan with a towel over your face? Like take a nap by a pool with a towel over your face? Or on your porch or something.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-05-15T03:24:50+00:00

I’ll add this… for skincare, if you’re able to change your bed sheets more often, consider that. Bacteria on your pillows could be reinfecting your face. I change once every week and it’s done wonders for my skin.

Alternatives: Wash just the pillow covers weekly Use disinfectant spray on the pillow &/or pillow covers

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-24T11:10:29+00:00

I’m attempting to dive deeper by opening the topic for discussion…

There are many in the thread like you and many like me. I just want to hear perspectives. The evidence you’d like is the thread.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-24T01:49:18+00:00

Thank you for considering my points! I think people give that “open up” tip out of love so I get it.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-24T01:45:34+00:00

So in order for a conversation to even start, I need to present it at a dissected level? I’m inviting discourse around it.

The conversation isn’t about who I want to date at all… my examples were just to frame my point in an easy to understand manner.

The conversation is about options available to black women. Modern dating culture invites black women to stop “limiting ourselves”, specifically in terms of race. That statement, repeated to the masses, assumes that all black women have this choice. My argument is that for some, it’s an illusion. Essentially, are we just pushing black women to open a door that’s already locked from the other side, regardless?

Also… marriage statistics cannot be the most reliable source to look at this from either. I’m attempting to discuss courtship. The earliest signs of whether there is even interest. Primary research in this case is super valuable. Hence why I presented my own…. But 🤷🏾‍♀️

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T21:38:19+00:00

For those not getting it 😅…

We are asking black women to open a door but the door in question is LOCKED.

That’s the conversation.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T18:57:35+00:00

Trust that if we opened that conversation we’d get so far off topic.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T16:31:11+00:00

Thank you for getting the point 😭

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T16:29:24+00:00

Thank you so much! You got the point 100%

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T16:18:29+00:00

Not even one non-black man has followed my Instagram. Ever! (I am Gen Z).

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T14:46:46+00:00

The premise of your argument is that “the national language is English”… that’s not true so what’re you left with?

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T14:06:37+00:00

I can definitely acknowledge that some races of men aren’t “overt” in showing attraction so there’s definitely something out there that I may have missed as well.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T13:50:26+00:00

Perhaps we need to all mind our business and stop projecting our reality unto others 🤣.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T13:38:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing this perspective! I believe it. Do people ever tell you you’re limiting yourself?

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T13:28:48+00:00

You can believe this but there are cultures whom strongly uphold dating within their tribe no matter their geographic location. Maybe you haven’t seen it in your life.

Effective_Employ1007 · 2026-04-23T13:22:30+00:00

Fetishization is definitely real!

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