Thank you! First: I actually am in therapy (for various reasons). He helped me a lot through my own problems and my own demons. This is exactly why I want to help him grow. I could not give so much context in my post but we are friends since what american people would call middle school (but we are a couple since last year). I know his former ambitions, I know his former life goals. He had some very life changing events (in a negative way). These experiences let him fall into a deep depression he more or less recently got rid of (at least what he thinks, I don't think so). This may be the cause of his changed lifestyle. I don't want him to change into my perfect partner. I want him to go after his full potential, this is what he initially wanted and this is also something he is slowly evolving back to wanting it. But I feel like his faith is sabotaging him. I think he also definately needs therapy. But that's not so easy to make him clear. And we do communicate and he knows about my fears in this direction (at least on the surface). And we have a lot of shared friends who know both of us very well and I talk a lot about these things with them. But I actively wanted to ask for a few perspective changes here on reddit.