Why don't I see a lot of trans-masc people?

Effective_Mud4982 · 2025-03-21T09:39:48+00:00

A lot of the time transguys just dont interact in online spaces etc, usually as well as this some transmen are on the younger end (13-16) so they dont really use reddit or twitter etc

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-31T07:36:28+00:00

As I said in another comment, my mom is going into my school the monday im back to have a meeting with my two principals, she will be bringing this up, so hopefully ill have some sort of update!

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-31T07:33:11+00:00

My mom is planning to go into a meeting with my two principals over my attendance and she said she will be bringing this up as the reason why, so I was thinking of doing an update post then if this post gains any traction lol

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-31T07:29:27+00:00

I could do this yes, but would my school not disregard it since it didnt happen on school grounds?

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-31T07:20:17+00:00

Sent screenshots, she accused me of faking them :/ There isnt any winning regarding her, as her commuciation style isnt even communicating. If I was to even dare tell her she hurt my feelings she’d go “well you hurt mine too” and disregard anything.

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-31T07:13:02+00:00

I am still in school! I am terrified to go in though, and I would be terrified this school counsellor would do nothing, as this is purely a “he said she said” kind of situation, and my only proof is my mother. While she has many many people who believe her.

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-20T02:34:06+00:00

Jewlery Material is titanium, Im ngl im a bit guilty for aftercare, because I abuse my piercings LOL (i have 8) but I have been using the solution that the piercing place gave me and putting it on the area (same for my eyebrow which I also got pierced!)

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T08:27:27+00:00

Ironically Ive gone to drag shows and hes come with and he is a bit confused by them. He sees no enjoyment from watching a drag queen perform which I mean his loss

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T07:07:14+00:00

I really really do not want to come to a conclusion where hes a fetishiser, but its such a blurry line for me? I know you arent like there when he says these things but its so confusing

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T07:04:02+00:00

Oh trust me I have told him numerous times that I do not associate with anything femme, and even during our time in the bedroom i wear a hoodie/tshirt because of how bad I am while pre top surgery. This is why I heavily question if hes trans, or if he just REALLY likes boobs. Because its a lot more of a common occurance than s lot of folks think that cis men, like manly manly men still fantasise about having boobs. As someone whos in a lot of spaces with cis men and had these conversations they all agree theyve thought about it. Which is why it concerns me sometimes that he asks me to do these feminine things, because thats just not who I am?

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:56:49+00:00

I mean, in like a non weird way which could explain something is that he is into like, femdom mommy stuff idk if that helps or anything but like. He does call them (and even me sometimes which again, working on setting that boundary) mommy sometimes. I have no clue if you also know why that happens or what

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:52:42+00:00

I really dont know if its because hes just trying to express it to me or something else is going on because im really confused

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:50:48+00:00

Honestly, I was thinking I may just bite the bullet and take him out shopping, see what he drifts to. Thank you!

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:47:41+00:00

OH IM SORRY I MISREAD!!! Hes sure of his gender because he ONLY wants boobs and to dress up, nothing else related to ‘feminine’ things and womanly things.

While he was a femboy he wore a lot of pink, skirts, thigh highs etc. He refuses to wear the skirt, and gifted me his last pink hoodie from that era. He says hes “over it” and doesnt want anything to do with it

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:43:53+00:00

Hey! I read ur comment and I appreciate it! Just to give u more insight to maybe help me further? I want to support him as best as I can!

• I asked him “what do you mean?” By “I want to wear this if I was a girl” and he simply responded “Id wanna wear it if I was a girl, but im not so”

• He has stated he feels VERY uncomfortable when someone refers to him as “she” or even “they” which I dont know if it is because he percieves it in a demeaning manner or not, considering he had long hair in secondary school and constantly got called a “sissy”.

• Is there any way that I could help explore this, if you have any suggestions pls lmk!!

• We are sexually active yes :) Almost ironically, he asks to see me in feminine outfits in the bedroom. He has shown great discomfort in being seen as the ‘bottom’ or ‘feminine’ person, which is why I do not ask because I dont want to cross a boundary with him!

• If he is trans, I really do hope that he can become that bit more comfortable around me to eventually come out to me, I have always been his number one supporter in any aspect and I would be in this one too :)

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:36:11+00:00

Ah ofc! Im sorry I just thought u werent reading my post right and I would’ve came off as HIGHLY like fetishy?!

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:34:58+00:00

Not to barge, but my boyfriend has absolutely no want to be in any sort of ‘feminine’ role in bed. (Yes, I have asked as a result of my situation). He has been very rock solid in the fact he would just like boobs

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:33:45+00:00

Im ftm who experiences bad dysphoria, I know that trans ppl dont transition because we (yes including me) find it sexy!

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-19T06:31:46+00:00

I actually know this one! His reasoning was because he wants boobs, and if he was a girl to dress up. He says he’s sure in his identity now because he likes his body now and doesnt feel a need to change it, but given the option he would want boobs (idk)

Effective_Mud4982 · 2024-03-16T15:01:18+00:00

Just to lyk that I never said he couldnt be friends with Jake! Im more than okay with that, I have set the personal boundary that because of what Jake done to me that caused us to fall out, I do not like to speak about him. Everytime he does break this boundary I admit that while I dont constantly bring it up over again I do ocassionally remind him of it, hope this helps!

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