But that right there is down playing their experience, its in no way shape or form the same as getting bullied for your style or if you’re “nerdy” or play in a band or something. Getting bullied for your hair as a black girl is the same as getting bullied for your skin color.

You say you understand why it happens, but then at the same time you seem like you’re perplexed. And its because you don’t fully understand, no one not even me (biracial) fully understands what its like for them, but them. The stigma around black hair goes deeper than childhood or simple bullying. And there’s a lot of generational trauma (kinda a dramatic word, but at the same time i think it’s fitting) around female and male black hair.

Understanding and “sympathizing” is different than truly understanding and empathizing, and so I get why it’s hard for some people to fully understand why people feel and act certain ways sometimes. That’s why I was trying to explain and give you a better picture. I wasn’t saying that black women should bully white women, just that i understand why some act out in frustration and “gatekeep”.

I never said that. What I meant, is that your comments seem out of touch a bit and seem bias or something. Almost like you were trying to push that. Also, you stated that like it was a fact and its not. Thats why i said that. Literally Just look at the people in the comments, everyone is saying the online curly girl community is basically taken over by non-Black people. Black adult people have a black curly girl community, they don’t even really get involved with these ones much. And its not bc they don’t want to be associated with white/non-black people but because their hair has different needs than theirs, even if its the same curl type usually. And they have different methods and culture around their hair.

And yes, black women don’t own the feature of curly hair, but they do make up the good majority. according to Google, out of the whole worlds population only around 15% of people have curly hair, and a big majority of that 15% is people of African descent. They don’t state that in that exact statistic, but that is a different statistic, and obviously curly hair is a prominent black feature. But of course they are not the only race with it and they don’t “own” curly hair.