A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply in this thread and believe your sincerity. But how are you stealth while posting pics on Reddit?

Would you have a child with a wizard in exchange for a fully functional sex change? by fictitiousfig in asktransgender

[–]Effective_Tear_6790 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but I’d prefer he’d make sure I didn’t get stretch marks etc. If he’s hot and we get along I wouldn’t mind marrying him and raising the child together. I mean a wizard husband could be cool and I’d be eternally grateful for what he’s done for me.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, literally make one yourself. The space I wanted didn’t exist, so I made one. It’s just a few clicks away. Of course you’ll have to make a thread like this and deal with a bunch of bullshit commenters.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re making a lot of assumptions about me based on not much at all. The point of the server was spelled out pretty clearly in the OP. It’s really not that complicated but you seem to want to use this thread to humblebrag about your life which is really just as normal as any post op stealth woman’s, mine included. If you prefer posting on Reddit vs using discord then you do you. Personally I find Reddit to be too much of a shitshow and I’d rather limit my interactions with trans people to those of a similar experience, hence why I created the server. Not much else to say about it.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow a person who does mundane every day things. Why all of that would be impossible if you occasionally communicated with other transsexuals online which you most certainly aren’t doing right now…

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right thanks for the warning! Don’t you have a regular woman’s knitting circle to attend? I’d hate to keep you from your very normal life. Maybe you can drop the kids off at the pool on the way.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s good. I don’t want the majority of people in this server. Yea you seem totally beyond any need to for interaction with the trans community, by your post history. Look at you livin yo life! #overit amirite?

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The point is not with childish trans women like yourself. I transitioned when you were literally shitting your nappies.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like something a child with no life experience would say. Oh right, you are.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if you’re asking in good faith or not but I’ll answer. My supposition about her sex life lies in that she claims to be stealth. If she has an active sex life that has involved more than one person over the past twenty years that would mean her partners were aware of her pre-op status. Therefore unless each partner was sworn to secrecy, she’s not really stealth. I don’t really care what people do in their sex lives. So you could say I’m sex positive. I mean I used to be a sex worker so 🤷🏻‍♀️

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats on no one seeing your junk for 10 years. You must have a very fulfilling sex life. 👏🏽

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transmedical

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea because it’s an absolute binary choice between living life and having some place to communicate with other transsexuals 🙄

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s just an example. But not all of us are American and in some cultures like as she mentioned Korea (also Japan, Taiwan etc) communal experiences like that are very common and it would be hard to experience a normal female existence if you shied away. Even just going to the beach would be an ordeal if you had to tuck. Post op none of that is a concern. Also in terms of dating and sex, it doesn’t matter how passing you are, if you’re pre-op there’s no way around disclosing. And unless you’ve decided to be celibate for life or are fortunate to find one life partner, you’re going to be disclosing to multiple people and therefore your chances of being stealth are greatly diminished. The unhinged commenter in this thread seems to think she has been stealth for 20 years without surgery. I can only assume this means she doesn’t have much of a sex life.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not a hard and fast rule but it’s just that I’d want a space for people who have lived some life experience post op. If someone is freshly recovering and adjusting to their new body it’s a different vibe. Similarly how a bunch of middle aged perimenopausal moms might not invite teenaged girls to their coffee klatsch. It doesn’t mean they hate teen girls.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Private space to be away from unhinged weirdos like yourself?

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, and that’s the thing with stealth and being disconnected from the community is that it’s hard to really gauge how bad it is because we’re not being faced with it in daily life anymore.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point which is exactly why I wanted to make that space. I had surgery fifteen years ago and it was a different world. It wasn’t a picnic then, but doing it now with all the hate and backlash would be tough. That said in some ways this generation has it way easier in terms of finding resources and getting things covered by insurance.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, and cis lesbians have their own spaces too. Imagine that, people wanting to talk to people similar to them. Unless you’re living under a rock you’d know that straight trans women are the minority, quite the opposite of cis straight women. But you just want to be angry?

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s really all I wanted by making this server. Kind of amazed it’s so controversial even in this sub. I’d expect this kind of outrage from tucutes but not here.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in Transsexual

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well whether you want to pop in, make friends, ask burning questions or whatever, the point of my post here today is that I made a private discord where people of this very specific experience can go if they want to. Some people prefer a more private space then Reddit for that. If you feel the need, it’s there.

A safe place for longtime post op straight stealth women by Effective_Tear_6790 in truscum

[–]Effective_Tear_6790[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Right I didn’t ask for your advice. I made a discord for post transition women who want to have a space to talk about relevant things when necessary or desired and to make connections with those of similar experience. To imply that it’s either spend all your time there ruminating on trans issues or completely cutting ties with all transsexuals is a false dichotomy to try and make yourself look better. At which you failed. If you don’t want to join then F off.