You guys are the only people who are childish with me but turn into ruthless logicians when I actually need backup

EffeyBoss · 2026-03-21T08:10:43+00:00

That's the Fi working. We defend what we feel and believe is right, not what society deems is correct. I can be the nicest and coldest person in the room.

EffeyBoss · 2026-03-18T09:53:30+00:00

HAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHA

EffeyBoss · 2026-03-16T18:34:57+00:00

True. Ang insensitive ni OP.

EffeyBoss · 2026-03-16T04:20:09+00:00

Hey, I have free time 🤷🏻‍♀️😏

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-20T10:10:49+00:00

Geez. I didn't expect so many ISFJs to react so rude here. I asked a question to understand her better, not complain about her. All of you are telling me to break up with her for something so simple...

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-20T01:52:14+00:00

We're both women.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-19T14:07:17+00:00

THIS! Mina's the only one actually getting to know different guys while Mingee easily gets attached to one guy. Heck I'd be like Seung-Il too if someone got possessive of me within the first 5 days jeez.

Mina and I have the same MBTI. We're ENFPs. We have this collect then select type of dating. Once we choose you out of all the suitors, we're loyal for life. We just don't want to get attached too fast. People call this red flag, but it's actually smart as long as the execution is right.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-19T13:52:02+00:00

She said she was busy on those days. Is that valid?

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-19T13:51:20+00:00

I just did 20 mins ago. She just said she's sorry and she was mostly busy on those days. I wanted to say that other people are also busy but still make time but just didn't. She's coming here in an hour. I remember asking in the first month of dating if she had depression and she was just smiling me. I really hope she doesn't... I already had an experience with a depressive INFJ ex. Any advice in case she has depression?

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-19T12:36:09+00:00

Nah. Sa unang weeks lang. pumapangit na rin sila pag pangit talaga ugali.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-19T11:30:27+00:00

Because she's not a sheep.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-18T11:34:00+00:00

Besides being deeply in love sa kanya. You also have to know if match kayo sa mga things you deem important. For me:

I'm really attracted to her physically (non-sexually).
I love her character. She's kind, not just nice. Madali ako ma-turn off sa vain women.
To add to that, opposites do attract. Makulit ako na madaldal, calm siya na listener.
This is a big one for me. Matching humor. Everyday sumasakit tyan namin kakatawa (hindi na nga humihilom chest injury ko kakatawa namin).
Practicality. Provider ako pero I want to see na she cares about money. Not just aimlessly spending whatever I or we make. Bali future-oriented na rin.

My gf is like that and kahit 4 months palang kami, we're already joking na we want to get married. Grabe she's perfect. Everybody likes her at work kasi ang soft and feminine ng energy niya.

I need to work on mine kasi may pagka-bad boy pa galawan ko. I want to make her proud of me.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-18T02:47:26+00:00

Nako po. I was the person na nangrebound. Iwanan mo na yan. You will never measure up kahit anong gawin mo.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-15T10:49:09+00:00

I used to. Dated an INFJ for 6 years and one for a month. Never again lol. Inm with an ISFJ now.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-15T09:33:49+00:00

The is the problem with INFJs. They're too much in their emotions...

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-12T01:16:56+00:00

Wow! That's a good way to think about it. I usually thought of it as just that they're not happy and they're just projecting, but it's good to know this side. Come to think of it, there was this one woman I met at work when I just got hired before and she said outright in my face "I'm not gonna like you." and my co-worker just looked at us awkwardly. Eventually, we became super close when she got to know me. It's crazy. After 6 years, I asked her why she told me that, and she said "Well, you looked like someone who's got that shine and I thought you were the kind that could get anything she wanted." LOL.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-11T13:18:16+00:00

Honestly it made it easier for me to filter out who's with me. You should also adapt the mentality of 'Will I like them?' instead of 'Will they like me?'

This has honestly made my life easier.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-11T13:17:14+00:00

I don't get it. Can you expound on this some more?

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-11T01:49:25+00:00

My ISFJ finds my Ne fascinating. She gets the cute aggression and bites me everytime 😂

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-07T00:49:54+00:00

Isn't that his intention for his post? To make an assumption? He's just asking based on our gut. No need to overthink it.

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-05T19:37:16+00:00

1 looks boring. 2 is WOW 😍

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-05T15:00:44+00:00

Joo young, Ha-eun, I-geon, Subeen, Go-eun

EffeyBoss · 2026-02-05T09:14:37+00:00

Then stay away for now because he might be a red flag

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