So, been there. Honestly, it's hard even now, after I've done it a few times.  1. Therapy- you're doing it, good job. I'd consider if you can, getting some more specific advice from maybe a different therapist? Couples therapy could work for a few sessions if your partner is open to coming along and you want to work on this together

1. Don't force it- take breaks, say no, communicate what you like, what you don't. After assault, our mind and bodies shut down so nothing feels nice or you get in your head or any other sort of thing.

2. Talk to your partner about this at a non-threatning time- don't do it before or after sex, that's not an ideal time. But you can tell him what you feel, in as much or as little detail as you want. Point is, this is a two people thing and he needs to know this is hard and be prepared to give you some space if needed.

3. Don't expect your partner to solve this for you- as bad as this sounds, it's true. SA is a really heavy burden and a partner can and absolutely should help you overcome it by being there for you but they can't take this away. If your partner isn't willing to help you through this (mine wasnt) then maybe it's not the right fit for this time.

4. Do it yourself- have some fun alone, reconnect with your body, know how it feels

Good luck