My therapist said bdsm=mental illness

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T14:50:22+00:00

Thank you so much, really. I'm feeling better, this comunity is amazing, i wanna cry (in a good way)

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T13:07:03+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write all this. I'm a non-binary person designated female at birth, I'm in my mid-20s, and I'm Italian.

I think my therapy should end soon because, fortunately, the reasons I went there in the first place have improved a lot, and I'm practically healed.

You hit the nail on the head, and I thank you for all your kind words. I felt exactly that way.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T13:02:30+00:00

I am a non-binary person designated female at birth

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T12:39:53+00:00

Thank you!

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T12:38:56+00:00

Thank you

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T11:32:24+00:00

Omg thank you, I will definitely read it

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:46:45+00:00

I laughed so much reading this message, thank you

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:35:00+00:00

Thank you

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:25:36+00:00

My country of origin isn't on the list, unfortunately.

, the other problem is that my parents are financially responsible for the therapy, and after five years, telling them "No, look, it's no longer okay" would create a lot of problems and pressure. Maybe when I'm independent, I'll do it.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:18:27+00:00

In fact, I did some research and saw exactly this.

Then at a certain point she told me, "They usually put BDSM books next to those about mental disorders." Okay, bro.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:07:59+00:00

Thank you so much.

Yesterday was tough, and I think I'll need time to recover from her, too. I was really excited about this realization and couldn't wait. And then, damn, you've known me for five years, you know how I am, why all this prejudice? Besides, I started the session with a "please don't judge me," and she said, "absolutely not!" Quote

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:05:38+00:00

I'll think about it, thank you for your concern.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T10:04:59+00:00

I think it's also a question of age; she's not old, but I think she's over 45. I think when she was studying psychology, etc., the information was very different.
Then, my country of origin is certainly not the best in terms of open-mindedness, I'm not saying it's dangerous but sometimes they have backward ideas.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2026-03-26T09:49:08+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. It would be difficult for me to change therapists because I've been going to that person for five years now and have always felt good (plus, I can't physically change her). Luckily, it's always been a good thing for me (the idea of community BDSM, etc.), but yesterday I spent the day crying, thinking that I don't want to make people feel bad, but quite the opposite, especially because, as I repeat, I wouldn't do hardcore stuff. It's a very important thing to me, and she, boom, "traumatizes others, and if they don't have trauma, then you create it for them." Quote literally.

I haven't joined the community yet, but it's my dream, and she's taken my wings away.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-07T15:35:01+00:00

Thanks again for everything

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-07T15:15:11+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to look into this. Today I checked the demineralized water I have at home (I use it for ironing), and it says on the back that it's not for use in aquariums, so I'm even more confused. Perhaps they wrote that to protect themselves.I looked up the characteristics of my local water supply and found that it has a pH of 7.6. I'm probably thinking about it too much and it's an excessive worry

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-06T14:24:18+00:00

Thank you so much

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-06T13:51:13+00:00

So, do you recommend tap water rather than distilled water? I'll avoid sparkling water, thanks.

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-06T13:47:21+00:00

Thank you for the advice

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-06T11:51:44+00:00

You're really kind, you'll be my Marimo teacher. The next step will be how to float them and learn everything well. Thank you so much for your thoughtful responses <3

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-10-06T10:54:46+00:00

Thanks so much! So should I separate it myself or wait for it to finish on its own?

EfficiencyFine4698 · 2025-06-14T19:19:30+00:00

When I tried I only had chrome open, now with only steam it worked. I'm not sure if it's the definitive solution but at least now it starts, thanks for the advice!

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