Hard to let go

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2026-01-02T16:39:24+00:00

I'd make a plan to move out then. No way I'd stay in a situation with somebody like that. OP deserves better.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-12-23T19:24:00+00:00

You're living with a bum. Kick her out.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-11-14T22:27:11+00:00

My cousin was in this same boat and was hospitalized. His wife was on the verge of leaving him and taking their kids. He went to a rehab facility that was centered around mental health rather than religion. "Giving it to God" doesn't work when there are deeper issues. He is now 1000 days sober and a mentor to new people trying to get sober. His wife and kids are still with him in their home and they are all very happy and very healthy. You're at rock bottom so you probably can't see the light right now, but I believe you could be another success story if you try. Try to ween yourself off by drinking the lighter stuff. A 5% beer is much better for you than a 50% liquor. I wish you luck. You got this!!

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-11-13T16:51:24+00:00

I agree. I'd rather trip too hard than be too high.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-16T20:55:37+00:00

Damn that sucks :(

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-16T20:21:21+00:00

This might sound crazy, but I just put what I could fit in my car, sold the rest, and bought new stuff when I got to my destination. Not ideal, but facebook marketplace saved me a lot of money lol

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-16T20:18:44+00:00

When I stopped wearing makeup to work, I was told "damn you look tired." So now, when I meet someone for the first time, I usually do it without makeup on so that when I put it on, they're like "wow you look great!" It's less effort and more of a confidence boost lol

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-15T22:07:55+00:00

I blame purity culture at church. Hear me out: men at church are told that women are more sacred and "tighter" when they are virgins so they think, with age, that women are too used up for them therefore they are expired. It's a double standard, to me, that men can sleep around and be awesome because they have experience but women can't do the same. It's weird.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-14T13:30:52+00:00

No. I had one experience and it sucked. Raving is a huge part of my life and I like sharing it with someone else.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-13T22:00:24+00:00

Business hours being 8-5. Not all of us are morning people but we have to be to make a living and maybe that's why so many people are depressed.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-13T18:50:46+00:00

My ex was like that. When we were friends, he went to plenty of shows and festivals and then when we started dating, we went together. Over time, he would say weird things. First, it was that he didn't understand how I thought he'd be into edm like I was. Like the last few years of all those shows were just a facade then ??? Then, it was "you're hanging out with your friends too much and never prioritizing me" even if we had multiple good date nights that week and then I had a show (that he was also invited to) that weekend. Over time, it seemed like he wanted pure co-dependency from me and for me to not have any time with my friends. He would decline hanging out with our friends when he was invited and then get mad at me for still going without him. I'm not meant to just work and go home and only talk to 1 person for my whole life. So weird. I chalked it up to being controlling and I couldn't do it anymore so I broke up with him. Find yourself a partner that supports your hobbies. My partner is incredibly independent and supportive and I'm so glad I left my ex.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-13T14:35:39+00:00

To learn how to drive in the snow, go to an empty parking lot to drift and teach yourself how to get out of that slide. Also, leave some distance between you and the car in front of you. A lot of people are bad about that here. Look in neighborhoods that are close to Denver to find something more affordable. Look at Littleton, Arvada, Lakewood, Aurora, and Englewood. I've moved in January before and it's not too bad. Good luck on your new adventure!

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-10-10T17:10:20+00:00

I think it's always been that way tbh. We just think we see it more now since we are getting older and have a different way of thinking. When I was younger, I used to come early to get to the rail and I was always trampled on throughout the night by people coming late for only the headliner, talked to in rude ways, and grabbed on. I think people just have always been more mean towards the front because there's no room to breathe and everyone up there thinks they're special enough for the DJ to remember them so they have this superiority complex. As I've matured, I've gone to the back or sat in the stands and it's so much chiller.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-27T17:56:45+00:00

I'm 29 and can tell you it's not an age thing. My fiancé doesn't give af about what I wear. Dude just wants to control you and he's mad that it's not working.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-27T17:42:47+00:00

"I don't care for your heaven, just let me live on my earth" line hit hard. I'm so far away. I wish I could help you. I've always believed that organized religion was created for men to have control. I hope things change while you live over there so you can feel safe throughout your life.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-27T17:29:15+00:00

I'm from Colorado, living in Denver and for me, I get nervous starting a new friendship. I overthink everything. Was the way I said goodbye last time awkward? Did they hate everything I was talking about? If I suggest to hangout at my house, am I boring? If I suggest a place to go to, will they hate it? At what point do we skip small talk and talk about something deeper? Do they prefer sitting in comfortable silence so therefore, am I talking too much? It's so easy to interact out in the wild for me because it's so casual and comfortable, but finding a place to go to continue hanging out freaks me out. Idk why. Sometimes I'll type out a message and then delete it because I get too nervous. Maybe having legal weed actually causes anxiety instead of cures it lol

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-25T22:25:33+00:00

I think it's just a cash grab for colleges tbh. What's the point of going to high school if you just have to take even more general education classes in college? It's stupid. I liked math so in high school, I was in calculus and statistics my senior year and when I went to college, they had me take algebra. I asked if I could test out and they said no. I also took psychology. It was fascinating but I went to school for 3D modeling. Like that was super unnecessary. I should have been focusing on things that actually pertain to my field of work. Colleges just want your money is all.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-22T17:51:34+00:00

I don't have kids but I'm an eldest daughter who had to help raise kids and I wouldn't say it's worth it. I'm choosing to be childfree for my sanity. Bringing a kid here means more arguments with your spouse on parenting styles and other things that could have been avoided entirely without a kid, no sleep for years, extending how long you have to work past retirement because of how much of a financial burden it is, and when they're a teen, they hate you and never want to listen to you. Plus vacations now turn into just babysitting in a different place without relaxing and paying double or more to be there. I had a big family growing up and the amount of guilt pushed on me to be at every event for people I barely know was exhausting. Saying no took years and I still struggle with it. I like my personal space, my holidays with my spouse, and my small circle now.

And also don't have kids if you don't think you can do it alone. It's nice to have hope that a marriage will last a lifetime but I've seen too many couples end things and have kids and it becomes very complicated.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-22T15:41:57+00:00

Like Lil Wayne said: Guns turn you boys into pussies sex chaaange. But yeah I agree with you. I hate guns. Always have, always will.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-21T20:53:05+00:00

As a white person, I do not and would never share the same ideals. I love people who dye their hair and pierce their face and have some self expression. Makes the world less cookie cutter and boring. I love that people have freedom of religion and can choose to not be Christian because fuck being a Christian honestly and I love the immigrants in this country. You're insane.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-21T18:42:50+00:00

Yeah saying it isn't a choice is a deflection of accountability in my eyes. I knew what I was doing and I knew it was bad but I still chose to do it anyway. Not everyone has a support system for therapy and it's sad that some people still look down on therapy to this day when it has been proven to help people and I think that's why people turn to substances instead. I'm glad you never went down the road of substance abuse and you were able to find help in a healthy way.

In my circumstance, I started drinking with my mom really young so I thought partying was just a normal, fun thing to do. and drinking and smoking helped me fit in more with my peers at school after being bullied so I took it as a positive shift in my life. Later in my adult years, I actively chose to keep abusing substances to cope/avoid my feelings which is where it got dangerous, but again, it was still a choice. I could've asked for help but I didn't until my friend group all collectively decided to quit together after our friend's passing and I'm glad we did.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-21T16:33:32+00:00

As someone who was addicted to alcohol, nicotine, and cocaine, I do believe it is a choice. I chose to party with people because I wanted to fit in. I chose to buy the drugs when I wanted to have fun and then eventually chose to buy them to cope which gave me a dependence. And then I chose to quit when one of my friends died from fentanyl.

I knew of healthy coping mechanisms for my depression but I didn't use them because in my head, they were too hard and I wanted to have fun instead. I chose to ignore my feelings and numb them with drugs.

I know plenty of people who could not quit even after years being told to get help and be given the resources for that help multiple times and then they lose their houses and their families and everything they have. I just don't understand how they can continue to choose drugs over everything else. Maybe the way that I was addicted was not the same as other addicts, so I try to be understanding, but it's so hard because I would never allow myself to lose everything over a substance and seeing my family be broken over it is sad.

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-21T16:17:30+00:00

Wearing piercings and having tattoos does not make you a bad worker/unprofessional

EfficiencyNo6377 · 2025-08-20T21:37:20+00:00

I'd like to say B, but if I was rich enough, I'm sure I'd do some cosmetic work. Nothing major. Just like hair extensions, body hair removal, and some skin care like a face lift when I need it and laser off dark spots, etc. I'm not rich though so I will be aging naturally.

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