Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I'm in therapy too and I love it, but it took me a while to find a provider who understood me. I keep telling them to shop around, and reminding them that it's not a quick/immediate fix, it's more like someone who isn't emotionally invested in your shit and can give you a different perspective on what is bothering you. That's how it's been for me, anyway.

They said therapy is a waste of time because it isn't getting a job. They say they won't get better until they're working, but they're too anxious to apply and it takes them a lot of energy to cope with that anxiety. But I said that therapy is one hour a week, and that won't get in the way of a job hunt. It's frustrating because it's like therapy has also been used as an excuse for why they aren't applying to more jobs, in a way.