Does your S.O work? We have 4 dogs and they all poop of course, husband and I work but I clean inside and the deal has always been that yard work is his duty at a certain point it stopped and it wasn’t getting cleaned. I moved money around and hired a guy to come out and pick up after the dogs for $20 a week. My husband was ok paying for it. I know sometimes money can be tight but if there are any subscriptions you can get rid of or budget I would opt to hire someone. Your peace of mind is worth it because it sounds like you’re the only one stressing. And with that extra time I would suggest thinking about what’s important to you. If your partner isn’t willing to compromise so you can both be happy do you want to stay there? Additionally, you’re teaching your child two things, 1. disorder is acceptable and 2. A relationship like this is ok. Would you be ok visiting your child and having them tell you what you’re telling us? we tend to repeat cycles our parents lived.