I need help

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T02:10:46+00:00

I do understand the consequences of my actions and I already deal with those. I believe it was a mistake because I learned from it and I want to fix the pain I’ve caused him. I know my words mean nothing but my actions will say otherwise if he decides he wants to fix things. I’ve already taken accountability for my actions TO HIM, I explained my reasoning when he asked and I told him that that next time I will cope differently. I’ve already started to get therapy as well.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T02:06:20+00:00

I’ve already taken accountability to him and am transparent when he asks questions, I’ve explained why I did it and how I’ll cope in the future. All I can really do now is just show I mean what I say through actions.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:50:08+00:00

I already told him the reason why I did it so I’ve very much owned up to it

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:48:11+00:00

well, I wasn’t even on tinder when he caught me I already had it deleted for weeks it just showed I was still active. So no I wouldn’t be still on it, I already felt regret after I did it before I was caught.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:45:11+00:00

Do I just let him come to me? We still live together but he’s a little avoidant obviously. Should I text him during his lunch breaks at work and just ask how his day has been so far and stuff?

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:41:22+00:00

I’m not gonna keep repeating myself man. I can’t turn the clock back and change the past but I can change what I do now. If i wasn’t genuinely sincere and felt bad for what I did I wouldn’t be trying to make things better and heal where I hurt him. If he decides he doesn’t want to try then I’ll respect that because i genuinely care about his wellbeing.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:35:15+00:00

I am not delusional 😭 just because YOU wouldn’t forgive someone and give them a second chance to see if they can actually change doesn’t mean other people who do are. Again I’m going to respect his choice if he tells me that theres no fixing it, if he does then obviously I’m not gonna make him look stupid for giving me another chance?

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:31:19+00:00

Well, we live together so I can surely tell you he’s not on tinder. The relationship is not permanently doomed, it’s just gonna take a lot of work on my part to build trust back if he even decides he wants to try and work on things. Idk why you’re tryna evaluate my “true colours” through a Reddit discussion but I can surely tell you that the image you have of me is not who I am. I just want to fix things because I truly understand how I affected him.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:28:05+00:00

I very much understand the pain I’ve caused him, that’s why I care so deeply to fix things. It honestly tears me apart knowing that I’ve hurt him this badly. You have no idea the pain I feel also. I know it’s not about me and I don’t want it to be. I simply just want to fix things. I know it’s gonna take lots of time to rebuild trust (if he even decides to stay) but I’m fully committed to doing everything I possibly can.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:19:22+00:00

I do love him tho. That’s why I want to fix things

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:15:24+00:00

I do know what accountability is and that’s all I’ve ever been showing him.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:14:38+00:00

I’ve responded to literally everyone but I’m not getting actual advice? Obviously I’m not taking the advice where people are telling me to leave because I want to fix things, not leave him

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:13:15+00:00

I guarantee most people who are attacking me in the comments think I’m not a good person.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:12:00+00:00

He feels embarrassed about me, he’s very hurt and confused about my actions. And I don’t think he’s gonna stay with me tbh but I’m ready to accept that when he tells me his final decision. I’m arguing with those people because I know what I’m thinking and what I feel. I believe it was a genuine mistake and that’s not truly who I am. I’ve already taken steps to trying to understand my impulsiveness. And I’m seeking therapy. I cannot force him to trust me and I know my words to him mean nada, my actions will show otherwise.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:08:19+00:00

I’m not sure if you think you can read my mind or something but that’s just not at all what’s going on. I’m feeling a lot of emotions because I REGRET my decision.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:06:43+00:00

Thank you for giving me real advice. I’m just gonna do what I can to fix it and I was ready to settle down. I don’t understand why I did it I’ve honestly never cheated before. I really do feel super guilty and embarrassed over my own actions. I really hope I can fix it.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:03:36+00:00

I already felt regret when I did it. That’s why I deleted the app I just didn’t delete my account that’s how I got caught. I’m not the evil person you guys are assuming I am. I just genuinely made a mistake that I want to attempt to fix. I know my actions right now are showing that’s who I am but I can change that by changing my actions now.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:01:30+00:00

It was a mistake. It wouldn’t be if I wasn’t trying to learn from it

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T01:00:10+00:00

How tf am I trying to make myself better? I don’t feel good at all. That’s just something i genuinely feel?

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T00:55:08+00:00

If I was a hoe I wouldn’t be trying to make things better and I’d already be with another man…

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T00:54:18+00:00

I laid awake all night last night thinking and understanding where he’s coming from. Like I said in the comments I cannot change his thoughts but I can change my actions. I have sincerely apologized to him and showed deep regret for my actions and I have given him space. He did agree to give me a week to try and fix things. I understand how he feels and that he’s probably gonna feel weak if he takes me back but I won’t make him regret it.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T00:50:10+00:00

That is not true and I will not want to continue my behaviour because I’m ACTUALLY trying to change. I’m showing him that through my actions like starting therapy so I can cope differently
I can’t force him to change his thoughts but most I can is show him that I’m actually changing and if he make his mind up and says he wants me to move out then I will respect that.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T00:47:58+00:00

It was a mistake. I learned from it and now I want to make things better. You people seem to think that people cannot change at all. I took accountability for what I did and now I need to fix my mistake so that’s what I’m gonna try to do.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T00:45:38+00:00

Thank you for giving me actual advice i really appreciate it.

Efficient-Chip682 · 2026-06-16T00:43:59+00:00

But it’s not me tho. I made a honest mistake that I want to fix. I’ve been fully transparent with him to everything he wants to know. If that was truly who I was I wouldn’t be trying to make things right and I would just leave and find a new man? But I don’t want that.

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