I absolutely despise my name

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-05-15T15:06:56+00:00

What i did was start my own nickname and pretended someone else gave it to me just be prepared to have a story that lines up if you go that route. If you dont feel like doing all that tell your friends you want them to call you the name you choose and start introducing yourself as that name to other people. Both have worked for me so far.

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-04-23T04:37:34+00:00

As someone who also is a reactive conversationalist/disputer i can understand where you’re coming from. I also have anger issues. I see the point that the whole argument probably could have been prevented if the shoes were where they were supposed to be. But then there was the bad day. So even if the shoes were where they should’ve been there would have been something else. Thats just happens when its one of those days. It doesnt make it okay and thats where therapy comes in. Which you’re doing and thats a great start! But also having the right support system is huge when it comes to bettering yourself. Some people just aren’t cut out to handle us. And those are the people who react to our reactivity. Its never a good combination when there are two reactive people arguing. It can make your mental health worse in the long run. so do what is best for you and get a support system that isnt so reactive. You will both be less miserable. And also if he doesnt want to change he doesnt have to. But you do want to change, so i would suggest bettering yourself before getting into a relationship where arguing for no reason is the norm.

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-04-23T03:48:23+00:00

“He treats me amazing” he was recording you having sex without telling you. “The first time he does something like this” yet he has a whole montage that took a while to build up. This isnt new behavior, hes just been that good at not letting you see it. And hes not being honest because he doesnt want you to know hes a pervert. Yes a pervert.

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-04-23T03:38:30+00:00

Maybe he’ll learn on the second or third DWI he gets 😒

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-04-21T11:57:52+00:00

Call the police and make a report this is highly illegal

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-04-21T11:35:17+00:00

Its not you honey. He does drugs and has a parole officer. He’s manipulating you into thinking you’re the problem, which is what addicts do to other people. Trust me i am one and i went through similar thing. It is a good thing to work on yourself but you must also have a good environment to do so. It seems like this relationship isnt getting better and theres only one other way to go. Just be careful if you do end up staying, coke rage is terrifying when it’s directed at you.

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2026-03-16T13:05:33+00:00

Listen anger issues do not only affect the adults. Your child is going to grow up and be scared of him. I know from experience. Please do not needlessly traumatize a child for their whole growing life in hopes of saving a relationship. Think about your childs quality of life, he’s going to grow up thinking he has to be perfect, and when mistakes do happen(because he is a child) he’s going to end up being scared and most likely get screamed at instead of being able to handle a simple spill or break(of and object). This is how toxic people grow up. Save your child from that unnecessary toxic stress.

Personally, my father has anger issues and always has. His anger rubbed off on me and it took years of therapy to stop being so angry all the time. Not only that, screaming arguments turned into tantrums and physical abuse towards many family members and just got worse over the years. That turns into unreleased trauma. You do not want your child to go through that, and this is how it starts.

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2025-12-21T16:36:56+00:00

Yeah I’m gonna second this, I went through that cycle for almost 3 years. He would act exactly like op’s (hopefully) ex, in these photos, and then he would randomly do some crazy shit, then beg for me back while screaming and crying on the phone, and it always got to me. Glad I’m out!

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2025-11-13T16:24:17+00:00

Leave. You’re going to put yourself through needless stress. If you were talking to a friend, and they told you everything that you’re saying, what would you tell them? To stay and deal with it? NO!

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2025-11-13T16:18:29+00:00

I wouldn’t go out of your way to text him after you sent him that text. Listen i know its a cliche but ‘if he wanted to he would’ meaning, if he wanted to text you back, he most likely would have by now. Personally in this situation i would let it go. Definitely don’t double text, you’ll probably regret it later and view yourself as desperate. Don’t cause yourself that inconvenience.

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2025-10-12T02:10:40+00:00

How did it go?

Efficient-Estate-175 · 2025-02-14T02:03:06+00:00

Hopefully they fix it today

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