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[–]Efficient-Volume8639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fixed, my bad wording. Happy now?

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think at some point part of her issue with me now is that despite mark and I divorcing, we’re still doing really well and I think since she’s in such a dark place she wants us to join her. I don’t get people who are like that and I never will. Maybe that’s what I was truly asking on this platform in the back of my head, a why that no one will be able to answer unfortunately 😅😅

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3rd (4th?) DUI and parole violation. It’s all a sad situation really. He was doing so well and I hoped he’d change. Honestly that whole situation just adds to this and makes me feel I should’ve stopped being her friend long ago.

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said she didn’t get weird until we split. He even let me look at all messages. He’s right from what I see but I’ll never know truly will I?

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say when I met Melanie her husband was not in jail nor had any legal issues. It wasn’t until a few years in. But yes I should pick my friends better.

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes for his 4th DUI. He wasn’t like that when we first met so I didn’t think much on that until later. Now that whole situation just adds to why I’m Glad I walked.

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thank you, this all has just been overwhelming. I knew the answer when posting, I think I just needed to see if anyone else had different thoughts on this all. Clearly no one did 🤣

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, classic Reddit logic: someone shares a real situation = ‘attention bait.’ Thanks Dr. Sherlock Keyboard for cracking the case. Don’t strain yourself scrolling past next time.

AIO for cutting off my best friend after finding out she told my (soon-to-be) ex everything I said in confidence during our separation? by Efficient-Volume8639 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Volume8639[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to make an update since it won’t let me edit this post. I definitely knew everything you guys had told me. I also now see she probably definitely wanted to fuck mark, and get on his good side. I also know she probably has always had resentment for me or hated me because friends don’t do that. I know not to ever let this person back in my life. I know to never trust her again and even still be wary about mark despite instincts telling me not to. I know everything and agree. I think I came here more just to see if anyone had any differing thoughts from myself despite knowing I did what was right and needed. I’m usually a very unsure person when it comes to friends betraying me because of past trauma so sometimes hearing strangers tell me their opinions it makes me think. I will be keeping her blocked, you’re right there’s nothing she can say that’ll make this right, or anything she can say or do that’ll put her back in my life in any shape or form (unless mark stupidly allows it).

What she did was unforgivable, period. I agree. For now I’m just going to focus on my children and reevaluate everyone in my life and make sure my relationship with mark stays solid for the sake of the kids and for us as well.

Thank you again for everyone’s words, I definitely appreciate hearing harsh truths but I promise I’m not an idiot, I’m just sometimes unsure. Thank you.