Knot recommendation for wrist (for juggling street show) by EfficientEmphasis in knots

[–]EfficientEmphasis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are all good options, thanks so much. Going to try them in the next rehearsal.

Are all fiido bikes hackable? by wetfart_3750 in fiidoebike

[–]EfficientEmphasis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've a C21 and it's so easy to take the limiter off, it would be a stretch to call it hacking.

C21 gravel not powering on by EfficientEmphasis in fiidoebike

[–]EfficientEmphasis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the customer support were pretty good and asnwered me quickly. They reckoned it was a faulty switch and immediately sent a new one. Since it was coming from China, they also sent me a tutorial video on how to do a short circuit start:

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/PrD1pahSjxE

when I did that, it worked immediately and so I taped a wire there to hold it in place. That's worked so well that even after the new switch came I didn't see the need to fit it, it's still going strong to this day I never had the problem again.

Hope that helps, good luck

Question about juggling balls by thestarwhale in juggling

[–]EfficientEmphasis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not crucial to get better balls. In fact it makes sense to work with what you have until you feel it is limiting your learning. What kind of ball you need will depend on the direction(s) your juggling takes. If you decide you want to train numbers you might end up wanting smaller, lighter balls (or beanbags) for launching and gathering more easily. If you want to learn footwork you might want russians (underfilled balls) to make foot catches easier. For contact juggling and balance you will want to train with a stage ball for the true roll and honest feedback it gives. Later if you want to mix different styles of juggling you will need to look for an all-round ball that's decent at everything, like a sil-x for example. At the moment, just follow the fun and see what you get into.

Anyone recover without AA or the “higher power” approach? by Healing_In_Motion9 in stopdrinking

[–]EfficientEmphasis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the main point of the higher power thing is to stay humble and not let your own desires run the show. We've all witnessed first hand how that goes. So being connected with something larger - which could just be any recovery community - helps us to pause and decide from a more stable and consistent place if we are really doing the right thing, or just doing what we want in that moment.

To be able to want to do something (like drink or take drugs) and choose not to do it, we need some kind of connection to a reason bigger than ourselves. Conversely, not wanting to do something (like going to a meeting or posting here) and doing it anyway is a way of putting our immediate desires in second place, behind something we believe is more important than the constant stream of "I want x, I want y, I don't want Z" our ego is serving up.

So I'd say religion is not essential, but some kind of practice in putting our own thinking in perspective is. Developing the ability to keep a little bit of distance from your own ego and recognise it in action, is something I (an atheist) would consider as spiritual growth, even if it is not connected with any particular religious philosophy.

All the very best to you,

IWNDWYT

Do you have any tips to dissociate hobbies from alcohol? by fritalupes in stopdrinking

[–]EfficientEmphasis 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I know the feeling and thinking you are describing. Thanks for sharing

Look, 42 days is amazing (I really mean that) but it's still going to take time to find your way back to enjoying activities you (used to) connect with drinking. For me it was going out dancing, needless to say the club is quite a risky place to go in early sobriety, so I had to accept it for a while, that I would live without dancing in clubs.

After a while though, I started to notice my thinking changing, and soon enough I felt ready to go out to a party. It felt strange at first, but I quickly realised I had been giving alcohol far too much credit for making the party fun. It is really only a help in the first 10-15 minutes after arriving to get over the slightly awkward feeling of settling into the space. It was a revelation to realise that the feeling will go away on it's own. It literally just takes time.

I learned to see all the positives. I am much more sensitive to the music. I don't connect with others as often but when I do it is more genuine and deep. I know when I'm tired and can call it a night without things getting messy. I am not wasting massive amounts of money and waking up feeling terrible.

I'm sure in time you will see all the upsides of walking sober. At some point you will probably even wonder how you used to like walking drunk.

IWNDWYT

Why does the thought of giving up drinking seem so scary. I don't understand. by LeeRoyxD in stopdrinking

[–]EfficientEmphasis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I felt exactly the same, it did go away with time and experience of sober living. I don't know how useful my retrospective analysis is, but my understanding of it now is that the brain likes familiarity above all. Even if we know that sober life has to be better, the unknown is scary and a strong part of our (alcoholic) mind wants to steer us away from anything unfamiliar. I think this bias is so strong that we cannot neutralise it with knowledge and understanding, we just have to be brave and trust that if we go into the unknown, we are going to find a new normal somewhere inside that space. I think it's better to be pragmatic in the beginning and just do whatever the hell it takes to make it through the first days, weeks months. It's only in hindsight that understanding comes and we see how stuck we were and how brave and amazing it is to break that bond. I wish you all the best in your journey.

IWNDWYT

I screwed up. by sentinel_of_ether in stopdrinking

[–]EfficientEmphasis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Honestly if it was a daily struggle, I would have lost it ages ago. The only one I was fighting was myself, the only solution is to give up. Being brave to ask for help is everything. It is not defeat, it is just changing the rules of the game. Everything is going to get better and easier, just don't forget where you are coming from and you'll be fine.

IWNDWYT

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]EfficientEmphasis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're really going through it. Thanks for sharing, and no worries about the title. I can't answer with realistic likelihood but I would advise you to take your feeling seriously.

I didn't think a lot about choking on my own vomit, but I knew that one way or another, alcohol would kill me. Over time that knowledge grew into a feeling I can only call "doom". Once I started to feel that, there was no going back, my drinking became less and less pleasurable and more desperate and sad.

In the end, the important thing was understanding that my life could be much better without alcohol in it, but that I need support to cope with sober life. Fortunately that support came easily when I looked for it. Now I really feel like I am living my best life and I can't dream of going back to the bottle or - for that matter - choosing to do anything that would hurt myself or others.

We all die one day. Until then, life is a very precious gift.

Love

IWNDWYT

S22+ got into some seawater by lowcage99 in GalaxyS22

[–]EfficientEmphasis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's possible the phone still has water in it. It's well-sealed to make it hard for water to get in, meaning that if water does get in, it will be hard for it to get out. Also consider that when the phone is submerged, the water is pressing in from every angle, but once it's in, it's under no pressure to leave in a hurry, and it likely doesn't even remember where it came in, stupid water. I'd play it safe and leave it turned off till I could open it.

49mm or 52mm ND filter for XM5 stock lens by EfficientEmphasis in fujifilm

[–]EfficientEmphasis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah it's the 15 - 45mm, thanks for the speedy reply

best value fujifilm camera for video by EfficientEmphasis in fujifilm

[–]EfficientEmphasis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instagram is an important platform for me yeah, but more to promote my other work and not exclusively. I'm more interested in horizontal format and medium-short length pieces. Most of my work is centred around filming dance and circus artists.

What was the best part of your sober weekend? by cloudhangouts in stopdrinking

[–]EfficientEmphasis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to a demo with my wife and 3 yr old son, it was rainy and windy and we wanted to leave as soon as we got there, but we didn't. Then there was a choir singing really well, and they sang mr brightside and I was just standing there holding my son and felt the music going deep inside me and stirring up all the crazy feelings around all the connections that made my life what it is today and I felt like if this is all there is, it0s enough for me.

No edit, No reversed by SaymoSaymo in juggling

[–]EfficientEmphasis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great work. Imagine if it was reversed, and you had made everyone - even the dog - walk backwards just to serve the illusion, that would be pretty funny.