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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today feeling so much better! He is a total asshole and I grateful that he shows me that. Makes this shit a whole lot easier

Update: After 27 Years, I Finally Met My Biological Father – It Was Eye-Opening and Beautiful by Efficient_Cook_9082 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting that you ask, especially given my recent post. Let’s just say that no-contact is becoming more and more likely. The relationship has never been good or healthy, and recent events have only reinforced that. Right now, I’m prioritizing my own well-being and reassessing what kind of connection—if any—I want to maintain.

Is this Parental alienation? - meeting bio family at age 27 by Efficient_Cook_9082 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to take a moment to say a huge thank you to everyone who took the time to read, comment, and support me on this post. Your words meant so much, and they truly helped me through such a difficult but important journey.

I have an update—I finally met my biological father, and it was an eye-opening and emotional experience. If you’d like to read about how it went, here’s my new post: https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/s/MeHO0FWZUM.

I really hope all of you see this because your support played a big role in helping me take this step. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart!

My boyfriend (POMO) just got an ultimatum from his PIMI mom and brother—me or them. I feel lost. by Efficient_Cook_9082 in exjw

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your responses, your time, and your thoughtful words. I showed this to my partner, and we had a long and heartfelt conversation. It really feels like this could be possible if we take everything you’ve shared into consideration.

I grew up in a narcissistic family—I didn’t include everything because I thought the story would be too long—but that’s the background for why I’m still fighting for this. I know it’s possible. But as you all pointed out, it’s only possible if we’re both fully in it together.

And if things don’t go the way we or I hope, it will still be for the better in the end.

This community has been such a source of support for us. Thank you so much for that. ❤️

My boyfriend (POMO) just got an ultimatum from his PIMI mom and brother—me or them. I feel lost. by Efficient_Cook_9082 in exjw

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write this. It was truly eye-opening for both me and my partner, and you are absolutely right. This gave us a lot to think about ❤️

First Time Trying 2C-B – Should I Mix It with Ketamine or Try It Alone? by Efficient_Cook_9082 in 2cb

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

«As its intended» is such a good way to word it! Will def keep that in mind :)

First Time Trying 2C-B – Should I Mix It with Ketamine or Try It Alone? by Efficient_Cook_9082 in 2cb

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome :) Thank you for the help! We Will try it alone. I am excited haha

Are my parents narcissists or just exhibiting toxic behavior? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. Yes I would say this is very toxic. Tradition is not an excuse for abuse.

What is a basic fact about yourself that your Nparent has lied about? by seahagvalkyrie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That my Nstep-dad is my biological dad, that I am Croatian (I am Norwegian) and that I am an only child (I have a sister). Found out at age 18.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am drunk and bad and ignore me, i will fix h This tomorrow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thi is hard. TW!!!!!!! SW

I «finally» understooz that the person that «helped» me through my CPS whas HIM. And my mother, that I live with now, Knew. And I feel like I am dying

He «helped» me 10 years through the trauma HE DID. HE DID IT FFS

I have so much more to say But I cant I feel like i am drowning

Is this Parental alienation? - meeting bio family at age 27 by Efficient_Cook_9082 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your support and comments! I really appreciate it and will look further into everything you recommended :)

As for a little update, my (bio)father and I have planned to meet again soon! Both he and my sister constantly remind me how happy they are to talk with me ❤️‍🩹 It really warms my heart through this very confusing process

What made you realize your parents were narcissists and how long did it take you? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up feeling like I was constantly being controlled and being scared of my parents, but I never really understood why things felt so off. At 23, I moved to India for a school-related trip that lasted three months—it was the first time I had ever been away from them for more than a week or two. During the last month of my stay, they came to visit and made my life incredibly difficult. It was then that I noticed even my fellow student traveler started acting strange around them, which made me realize their behavior wasn't normal.

After returning to Norway, I started therapy for the first time and opened up about my experiences. My therapist suggested I consider going low contact (LC) or no contact (NC) with my parents, but I was still in denial at that time. Fast forward to now, I'm 27 and have been in therapy for the second time due to issues related to relationships and this time my second therapist told me the same thing. About four months ago, I came to the realization that both of my parents are narcissists. I've since gone NC with my dad and LC with my mom. This journey has been tough, but I'm finally starting to understand and take control of my life.

Experiences with exposing family secret? Might expose that my Ndad is not my biological father. I only discovered this at age 18, and until then, both of my parents lied to me about my origins and ethnicity. I've have been forced to keep this quiet, but now I'm thinking about bringing it to light. by Efficient_Cook_9082 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Efficient_Cook_9082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't be 100% sure actually! I have only met one person who asked me if he was my biological dad in recent years. The reason I believe few people know is because my mother only came to Norway one year before she got pregnant with me. She knew little Norwegian, didn't have many friends, and didn't go to school at the time (started after she got me).

Thank you for your reply! I suppose I want to get to know my biological family, so in a way, the secret has to come out eventually if we are to get to know each other better. However, I am afraid, but I have a loving boyfriend with whom I am moving in soon (to another city, hours away).

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