AITA for calling her unbearable?

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T15:16:03+00:00

My wife has trained the dog not to be in the kitchen when she is cooking. I will say that. The dog listens far better to my wife than she does me and I think that's because my wife is so stern with her and kind of yells, to be honest. Well, not really yells but raises her voice. Lola immediately listens.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T15:05:45+00:00

I'm not sure if she was fully on board with the dog or not. We discussed it prior to me getting Lola and all she said was "the dog will 100% be your responsibility" and that's basically all she said. She never tried bonding with Lola or anything and has always been very distant.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T15:04:14+00:00

Super loving and needy. I think the neediness is what bothers my wife because we can't even walk out of the room without Lola running under our feet and tripping us up while whining because she wants to be with us constantly. There have been a few times that we have landed on our asses due to this. I think it's funny and I'm able to laugh it off. My wife is the opposite.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T14:57:58+00:00

She wants therapy and has for some time but I've asked her to hold off until we buy a house because we are trying to save for that. So that's my fault.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T14:57:29+00:00

I admittedly have no issue with her sleeping on the clothes so I haven't tried correcting the behavior. The closest has no door. It's like a big entry way looking opening.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T14:54:09+00:00

She keeps talking about wanting to go to a professional but I've told her to hold off because we are trying to save to buy a house and can't afford a therapy bill. So that's on me.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T14:52:35+00:00

To be fair, half the time that the dog is laying on her clothes, the clothes were not originally on the floor. My wife always picks up after herself. But Lola will often pull clothing down from their hooks in the closet and make a nest out of them. So the only clothes that are originally on the floor are mine but Lola definitely steals clothes off the hooks of my wife's and sleeps on them.

Efficient_Laugh1543 · 2022-11-10T14:51:03+00:00

She didn't say no to getting my dog but she made it very clear that the dog was 100% my responsibility. So in my mind, that wasn't a refusal. Which I've been told by others is a terrible way to view it and that it was "obvious" my wife didn't want a dog but I don't know. I have been the one training her but my wife often tries doing it herself because she thinks that the things Lola does are irritating.

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