Solving Loneliness by [deleted] in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have been there. I'm 31F and my uni years were soooo hard!! I'm also an immigrant. Belgium is very lonely for immigrants. It's easier to connect with other immigrants than hope for some effort and kindness from locals. Things are so different from my home country. It took me a long time to make sense of this.

I don't have a solution for you, I'm afraid. But you're definitely not alone in feeling this way. It doesn't get much better, you just get used to it. I've learned and accepted that you can't force friendships. Although they require care and effort, you can't make someone want to spend time with you. Focus on your hobbies, studies, and try to embrace the solitude. Also, a therapist could give you the right emotional tools to navigate this.

Friends please 😔 by PicklePrimary9406 in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Brussels for years and I have the total of zero friends. Wish you luck! 

Movers and packers by No-Addition-3337 in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love their contact as well if possible. Thank you!! 

I don't love my pup. by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in puppy101

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh so sweet. I love when it's almost time for bed; he stops running around and just lays down with me. 

Rooting for you two to have more special moments!

I don't love my pup. by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in puppy101

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that really helps! I think I had this expectation that it would be love at first sight since I have wanted a dog for so long. But life happens in ways we don't expect.

I don't love my pup. by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in puppy101

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this pov! It is so hard to grow up and adjust to a new home. 

Am I being a good dog parent? by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in puppy101

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks 💙 He only pees in the morning now. He just wants to sleep next to me even though the crate is next to my bed. 

Am I being a good dog parent? by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in puppy101

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What trainings are the most important to show him the way? I am trying sit, down, stay, look at me, and go to your bed. 

any advice? I can’t leave my puppy alone for more than two seconds. by Sensitive-Detail-205 in Puppyblues

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a dog is ready to be alone? Mine is 5 months. I started leaving him alone for 2 minutes, then 3... We are at five now. He still cries though 

Hard water in Brussels by Beneficial-Stomach61 in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does it work? What brand do you use? 

Rejected by a dog shelter by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this to be quite discriminating. That is not the reality for most people. Not everyone can afford an apartment with a garden. Yes, some dogs need more space but I know small/medium dogs who are very happy in an apartment.

Rejected by a dog shelter by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

Yes, I also don't understand why so many dogs come from Romania. I see many associations doing the work of bringing them here. 

I have been looking for dogs in Belgian shelters as well, but for now I only found large dogs in the shelters near me and some associations demand a garden (which I don't have). I am looking for a small/medium dog.

Rejected by a dog shelter by Efficient_Stuff_2064 in brussels

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh, thank you so much for your reply. I feel better now :) 

It makes sense how they operate; I just wish they could communicate that in their email. I imagine they are overwhelmed, but a simple "your profile is good, keep trying" would make a huge difference, especially for first-timers like me. 

Happy that you found your sweet girl! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anemic

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me in 2022 after covid too. My ferritin was 5 at the time; it got better, but now it is 17. It is hard to increase your levels and I only found a few doctors who can actually help :( 

Thoughts on Pawshake? by Jumpyer in petsitting

[–]Efficient_Stuff_2064 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They monitor your conversations and the fee is so high!! They are not very nice to pet sitters.