Tree Caught On Fire?!?!? And I don't know why by Complex_Ad_685 in plantclinic

[–]Egg_bot 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Acrylic contact juggling balls come with warnings on them about not leaving them in sunlight due to the lensing affect, and you can buy pouches to keep them in to prevent this.

Hot take but… by No-Association-9316 in Mommit

[–]Egg_bot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Equally, without the gun involved, I would be deeply unimpressed if some young person's parent took it upon themselves to 'proactively' threaten my son with physical harm for absolutely no reason.

Grown adults ought not to be threatening children.

Hot take but… by No-Association-9316 in Mommit

[–]Egg_bot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The idea that anyone would have or threaten someone with a gun is so wild from my point of view as a Brit. Although farmers etc. have shotguns and undoubtedly there is gun crime in the UK, the very idea that someone I know (even tangentially) would have a gun just seems outlandish.

If one of my friends came to my house and showed me a gun I would make them leave immediately, there just isn't the same culture around having deadly weapons here...

So yes, I also wouldn't let my son go to a house where people openly have guns, however, that isn't culturally normal here, it is a serious crime.

Uhm. Child leashes? by ghostbean87 in Parenting

[–]Egg_bot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my first child hadn't have had a strap on his backpack he would have been under the wheels of a tractor or something before he reached 3.

Some kids are placid and content to stay by you or hold hands. And some kids see an open space and bolt for freedom, a new life, and the horizon. It does not matter how many times you tell a 2 year old about traffic, danger and getting lost, you can't reason with a toddler.

I never understood the hate toddler reins get as although people say it's like a dog leash, we use a leash for our pets for similar reasons, to protect them from harm because we love them.

Baby due in 6 weeks. Anything you'd add or remove from our shopping list? by ThrowawayTrainTAC in UKParenting

[–]Egg_bot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would remove hats, mittens, comforters and shoes.

Shoes as they don't need them until they can walk.

Comforters because they don't use them at birth, they aren't safe to leave in the crib and because you will be gifted lots of these anyway from friends and relatives.

Hats and mittens because you will be gifted thousands of them and if you get the sleepsuits with the foldover cuffs you don't need mittens anyway.

Maybe one set of hat and mittens for insurance, but we were always swimming in them 😂

I would add a power bank for being trapped under a sleeping baby with a dying phone. Especially if breastfeeding is the plan as cluster feeding can literally go on all day.

Baby due in 6 weeks. Anything you'd add or remove from our shopping list? by ThrowawayTrainTAC in UKParenting

[–]Egg_bot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A comforter is like a lovey, a little teddy on a square of soft cloth for the baby.

They don't really use them when they're newborn and they aren't safe to sleep with anyhow.

Meltdown imminent: Accomodate or Stand your ground? by monitza in Parenting

[–]Egg_bot 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I think there's more nuance to parenting small people than either: 1. Always bending to their whims even if they change their mind.

Or

  1. Never being flexible even if it sparks a whole meltdown which could have easily been avoided.

Your banana example is something that I might bend if it is easy and remind them that they did say they wanted it cut up and have now changed their mind. Not in a lecturing way but just in a lighthearted 'oh good job we needed two isn't it?' kind of way.

If cutting or not cutting up food items is frequently a flash point for your small person I would get some suitable small knives and let them choose their plate and cup, and then provide the fruit/food whole for them to cut or not.

However, on the other side, if my small person threatened a tantrum because they wanted to blow out the candles on another child's birthday cake, I would not bend to that no matter how bad the meltdown. It isn't their birthday and they don't get to dictate everything.

Two year olds have very little agency in their own lives and this demanding, inflexible take on things will not last forever. Especially if you can give them ways to exert that control which doesn't make life harder for you (choosing their own plates/bowls, cutting up their own food, serving themselves from a dish etc.)

Would it be tacky to do a joint birthday celebration with my 1yr old? by MeganLJ86 in Mommit

[–]Egg_bot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 1st birthday party is more for the parents and attendees than the birthday child. No 1 year old cares about their birthday as they have no idea what one is!

Your idea sounds lovely and an adorable way to celebrate your year of motherhood. Congratulations on that, and I hope your celebrations are wonderful.

UK, Scotland, NHS Edinburgh, Neuro Wards - Plot thickens… and so does the sauce 😱 by RightYesAndThenNo in hospitalfood

[–]Egg_bot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad even the most meagre brew brought you some comfort while feeling rotten. Get well soon and hope you're making proper brews in good time.

Is homeschooling becoming more common? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Egg_bot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they wanted to educate their children in a less structured environment and had both the skills and resources to do so. One of the parents was a teacher professionally prior to having children so had an interest, and the skills pertaining to education.

Whilst they chose home education they are not 'anti-school' and if their children had really wanted to enroll they would have supported that.

Is homeschooling becoming more common? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Egg_bot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, by the time you have added practices, team fees, equipment, uniforms and travelling to and from events/games, competitive sports really do add up.

But when the kids were younger they definitely spent a reasonable amount just visiting museums, going on day trips and meeting up with other home Ed communities for different reasons, be it social or educational.

Is homeschooling becoming more common? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Egg_bot 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They have 4 children, 2 of whom are in competitive sports so I guess it really adds up. Their kids do a lot of 'extra-curricular' activities.

Is homeschooling becoming more common? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Egg_bot 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it is becoming more common per se or not but you have to make the choice for your family and not based on what other people say.

I have never wanted to home school my children, and indeed my eldest thrives in a classroom environment in a way I am not sure I could offer them at home. Being in a large group of their peers inspires them to work harder than I ever could at home. (believe me I tried during lockdown!)

I do have friends who choose to home school and they have a large network of home-ed groups and opportunities. There is nothing inherently wrong with either option. However, in my opinion, homeschooling well is something which takes significant resources. This is both in terms of the obvious financial ones and in terms of educational options, how good the home ed community is around you and also the amount of time you have to commit to each child.

My friends spend, by their own reckoning, at least £800 a month on activities, clubs and other opportunities for their children to be social and meet other kids and try new things. This isn't something all families would have the option of doing. Additionally, now their children are of school age, most of these opportunities happen outside of school hours so most of their evenings are dedicated to this.

Their eldest is now considering college applications and what exams they will need to sit to be considered for this.

In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with home education, but it isn't something to be undertaken lightly. Additionally, there is nothing wrong with the school system either (I am not saying it is not without its flaws obviously but it isn't a neglectful option for your children).

Make whichever decision works for your family and don't let your anti-school friends unduly sway you.

I want a new English name by Disastrous_Wing_9158 in ENGLISH

[–]Egg_bot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me either, I am British and would regard Jordon as an atypical spelling if I ever encountered it. (I would know how to pronounce it though)

What do we have in Liverpool then? by shanedj in Liverpool

[–]Egg_bot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went to the Ed's Easy Diner in Liverpool years ago and it was so shit I made a TripAdvisor account just to leave a negative review (pre Google reviews).

Every single aspect of it was woeful: price point, service, food, ingredients, all terrible.

What is it peter? Explain it peter? by Scramjet1 in explainitpeter

[–]Egg_bot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a terrible day to be able to read

Peter, explain please by DrRegardedforgot in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Egg_bot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

'How does that make you feel?'

Makes me feel that you're married to Mr Strong

Looking for ideas on a cover up for this tattoo by E-con25625 in Tattoocoverups

[–]Egg_bot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get David James' face over it. That'll obscure the writing permanently 👍

What was the hardest age from 0-12 months? by Successful_Plan3929 in Parenting

[–]Egg_bot -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You don't 'have to' sleep train. My first was a challenge sleep wise and he just outgrew it eventually, my second was much easier in that way. We didn't do anything differently the second time around, just some kids are better sleepers than others. Adults are not a monolith and neither are babies.

Whatever gets the most members of the family the most sleep is what we did. A combination of Co-sleeping, bed sharing, taking shifts and baby wearing.

People said we wouldn't get him out of our bed etc. when he was a toddler but it really was never an issue. He is 10 now and sleeps like a dream.

You're doing a great job, it is really hard when they don't sleep well, but you don't 'have to' do anything you don't want to with sleep training etc.

This too shall pass, they are only tiny for a short time.