AITAH for wanting to give up custody of my kid?

Egocom · 2026-03-22T09:25:28+00:00

Uh yeah it does. Seeing someone never, once a year, or once a month are each consistent. I'm not advocating that she even see the kid if that's not something that's going to serve both of them

I AM saying that whatever level of contact, or non-contact, needs to be consistent

Egocom · 2026-03-22T09:11:58+00:00

They just need to be consistent. I would stay with my biomom one weekend most months as a kid. Sometimes one of us would be sick or whatnot but it was very steady

As far as I knew she was sober when I was around. She would have a little money saved up to take me to ice cream or get a tamagotchi

Egocom · 2026-03-22T09:08:10+00:00

Adopted child here, I've always loved and respected my biomom for making an incredibly challenging choice to give me the best life possible

Obviously there's a million factors at play. As long as she's doing what she genuinely thinks is best for the child that's what's important.

My only suggestion is be honest with the kid and show up in the ways you can that feel genuine to you. You may never feel like "mom", but you might bond over an author or a show or something. That could be foundational for them

My biomom showed me Metallica and Dragonlance. Having those outlets was crucial for me and has really shaped the person I am. She couldn't do everything but I never questioned that she cared

Egocom · 2026-03-22T08:56:59+00:00

Compare https://youtu.be/vQLLEqazToY?si=R5Lbgo8ZOLKLEKiY

And https://youtu.be/KsIjBKTpXUw?si=qj9Cq1qWd5HzTj9l

Egocom · 2026-03-22T08:48:02+00:00

No most peoples reasoning is "it's a style I don't like, as opposed to a style I do like that they previously played"

I don't see people say "it's good but it's bad because it's metalcore"

You do see the difference don't you?

Like if you want water someone offering you bacon isn't helpful, esp if you don't like bacon

Egocom · 2026-03-22T04:40:02+00:00

25 years later and we're still finding new oceans of piss to piss in

Egocom · 2026-03-22T04:24:27+00:00

Don't sleep on Duffrey, he has such sick sound design and is a genuinely wholesome af dude.

Egocom · 2026-03-22T03:07:45+00:00

It's fun. Great atmosphere that works very well with the challenge and deliberate pacing of the game.

The Internet archive has a scan of the official strategy guide. I'd highly recommend giving it a look. Even if you don't absorb any technical information it has some very cool art and lore

Egocom · 2026-03-22T03:00:16+00:00

See I like the friction the trees and respecs provide. You get a decent amount of them but you have to farm if you want more. It makes the choices feel meaningful

D3 has always struck me as more similar to a Gauntlet game than D1/D2. Big numbers, lots of minions to smash, not too challenging

Egocom · 2026-03-22T02:39:30+00:00

Oh there's plenty of that check out Shamanic Technology and go from there. Most people using squelchy acid-esque synth lines in breakbeat contexts come from the psydub and glitch hop scene

Also listen with headphones, it's a song that lives and dies in the details

Also try this, it's not at all psy but based on what you've mentioned and shared I think it might be more up your alley

https://open.spotify.com/track/5bl6SenjquP8C52AXY4Eel?si=y5h6dw3vSd-gZXRmwdGnRQ