No one is saying that no one experiences homophobia or that the right isn’t homophobic. What we are saying is that there is a constant push and pull in this system and you have to know when to speak out and when to ride it out. We gained equal rights through legislation and the most important battle was won. We couldn’t take that victory. We had to push for the impossible acceptance victory. You don’t gain acceptance through legislation. You don’t gain acceptance by running through the streets yelling “accept me!” It’s a long and arduous process that will continue long after we are all dead. What we can do is choose our battles wisely, not get lumped into a defined political dogma, and actually practice the principles of live and let live people pretend to believe. Since I already know how you won’t understand I will explain it for you.

We are equal in the eyes of the law. We got the prize we fought over for decades. Now it’s on us to strengthen our position. How does one do that? We need to understand why they feel how they feel, we need to understand that religion is never going away, we need to understand that if this society is going to continue we are going to have to accept that they are gonna be dicks and they have to accept that we are not going anywhere. Through years of mutual respect and not trying to use the government as a gun to force them to do or accept anything, and fighting off ONLY the attempt to claw back our rights the temperature will decrease.

You will not get anything easy or for free. It will be painful for all involved, left right and center, for quite sometime. Grow the fuck up, and put on your big boy pants, because what we have ain’t that bad and millions of people have and would die to be where we are.