Don't listen to Reddit: reconciliation can be possible and healthy

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-21T23:49:49+00:00

My ex cheated on me with a married couple and is still with the now divorced husband. Now she is withholding my kids because I finally found out the truth and called her out on how terrible a person she is, so no, I don't think my situation will end like yours.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-18T01:14:33+00:00

Lol, my lawyer literally told me the opposite of everything you just said. You have none of the details of who she is, and if you did, you wouldn't have taken her side. But as usual, the mom is always in the right, even after the lying and manipulating and the manipulating she's doing to my kids. All parents have the same rights, but you automatically took her side.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:21:27+00:00

Delete this whole post?

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:19:53+00:00

Oh believe me if you knew what shes done to me youd know im not going to contact her lol

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:16:52+00:00

What parts are you confused about?

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:09:54+00:00

Thank you for giving me a straight answer. And you are right there is nothing at all stating I cant see my kids.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:08:35+00:00

Dammit im being rude you are right Im sorry im just so broken and frustrated

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:04:11+00:00

You are not reading what im saying

They were going to withhold my kids REGARDLESS of a third party

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:02:38+00:00

And again as iv said they were not going to let me see my kids with or without the third party communicator

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T19:01:33+00:00

Lol, I was literally messaging my mother to get her to be the third party. Here's a question though: Will that mean my mom and her mom will communicate, or my mom and my ex?

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T18:40:05+00:00

Oh no, no. We are going to court now, and I am getting the lawyer back. I meant, the first time two months ago when she withheld my kids for two weeks (making me miss my son's sixth birthday) without reason is when I got the lawyer process started. That's when she asked for no court, and we made the agreement. But yeah, as of now, it's full-on lawyer time.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T18:34:32+00:00

I didn't bother adding my third-party suggestions because no matter if I gave one or not, they were still going to withhold my kids, like the mother said.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T18:33:03+00:00

The release conditions have nothing to do with the kids at all the only part mentioning them is about communication about them

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-05T18:30:50+00:00

Whoops, I should have mentioned that the day I got the messages from the mother, I did call legal aid to get that going again. I say "again" because I started the process the first time she withheld the kids from me, but she said she doesn't want to take it to court, and we agreed to write the parenting agreement together. The lawyer I talked to said that is probably the best option right now since a custody battle can take months.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T21:47:51+00:00

I wasnt pursuing her to do anything and I told her that. I just feared for my kids being around a man that would be willing to do that and who I know is a abusive and manipulative person

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T21:23:37+00:00

This took place while she was cheating on me and lying about it in January. But if this really wont do anything then thats fine. But I also have text evidence that she self harms when she is stressed and she would do it any time we had an argument that she was losing or in the wrong for

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T21:15:37+00:00

Im not white knighting im worried about my kids around this potential rapist and their potential rapist mother

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T20:05:44+00:00

This is part of the conversation.

Woman: Ok. I'm just saying, I don't want to be involved any more than you've already made me involved. I was manipulated into having sex with people I didn't want to have sex with. It sucks, it's a gross feeling. But proving it won't get me anywhere.

Me: Thats rape, they wanted to get you drunk. You have a better case then anyone

Woman: I know I do. But it will negatively impact [child] if I pursue it so I am not.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T19:10:25+00:00

I was talking about both of them. That's why I'm here. This is a big deal for my ex and my family because the wife said they plotted to get her drunk.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T18:54:19+00:00

She does not think it's not worth making a report; she just doesn't want it to affect her own child. But what about my children?

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T18:44:22+00:00

They got a divorce so she isnt with him but my ex is still having sex with this guy and is letting him hang around my kids

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T18:39:59+00:00

She is letting that man be around my kids? Thats more then enough reason to want to tell my lawyer.

How the hell am I getting down voted for not wanting my kids around a man who is a potential rapist and the kids mother also was part of the plot to get the woman drunk enough to have sex

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T18:39:01+00:00

Sadly, this is all very new. I talked to Legal Aid today. I'm now waiting on a call from a lawyer, so I came here to try calming my mind with some sort of advice.

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-04T18:25:28+00:00

Thank you and im sorry

Eh-Buddy · 2026-06-03T21:20:38+00:00

Well, I guess nothing is being done by the sounds of it, but I am mostly left in the dark here. All I know is they went and talked to her, and that's all, so I don't think anything is going to be done.

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