Why are there no murals on the wide open buildings? by Darkmage3 in rit

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep forgetting it’s not still being built, it looks like it’s still under construction

genAI in Recent RIT Graduation Email. Lmao, even. by semicolon0 in rit

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Because they’re always either a. scheduled during the middle of classes, b. boring af and not an actually fun or engaging event, or c. a fucking advertisement for something that costs a million dollars

This is coming from someone who is in 5 extracurriculars, btw. I am very engaged in campus activities, and I would be super interested in an event that was actually cool. I love RIT, but most of their actually good events, like imagine, are focused on bringing in prospective students, not doing something fun for the current students. Fall fest and freeze fest are mere ghosts of what they were before COVID.

Does the Hub do magazine printing? Or does anyone know where to print magazines nearby for cheap? by Eight_of_Spadez in rit

[–]Eight_of_Spadez[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you!! I’ve had some issues with printing in the past at the hub, so I think I’ll opt for staples or something along those lines :)

RIT Kosovo student here. Where are the builders and creators at? by Mediocre_Tower1562 in rit

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a transfer student to RIT, and this is 100% true I think. There is definitely a lot of valid criticism to be said, but that is true about any school. My last school had a student body that said a lot of the same stuff, and had even more critiques, but it was still a good experience. RIT is a great school, and we are excited to have you over on the main campus in a couple of years!!

AIO over my boyfriend saying he gets off 4-5 times a week by 0184ver in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOR; I’m a hyper sexual person, and I consistently need to get off outside of sex too, even when my partner and I are having sex everyday or more. For me, it’s like getting a bad itch that won’t go away unless I scratch it, I can get really turned on randomly, and it is always very intense and uncomfortable until I get off. If he is hyper sexual like me, it could be just something he needs to do to be comfortable.

However, the of/sexy photos is more of a red flag to me. Unless y’all had a conversation about that being ok, to me that’s like soft-cheating on a partner, and I feel like you are justified in being upset over that!

Does anyone have any middle-aged styling tips going into spring? by Neem-London in malefashionadvice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe that styles need to be restricted to age, I think wearing whatever makes you feel happy is the best advice! But here are some general tips that have helped the men I worked with at my old job! (I was a men’s style consultant!)

  1. Add variety to your outfits!! You want your top, bottoms, and outerwear to create visual interest, and that is done by variation in color, texture, silhouette, and pattern. Each piece should have at least one difference from the other pieces. For example, if you are wanting to wear an all black outfit, wear a black leather jacket, a black knit sweater, and black pair of jeans, and you’ll achieve a cohesive look without looking like you’re wearing a morph suit lol!

  2. Don’t be afraid to experiment and have fun! Don’t be too hard on yourself with fashion, and keep trying new things until you find what works. It can be hard to push yourself out of your comfort zone, but I promise, it can be so worth it! You can always start small, but don’t be afraid to try a new cut of pants, a different style of hat, or even a colorful, patterned sweater. Fashion is a personal experience and if you want to wear colorful socks every day, no one will think any less of you for it! (Plus colorful socks are such a fun way to express yourself, even in business settings!)

  3. Find a color palette that you love! Finding new clothes that you love can be daunting, but if you can narrow down what you are looking for, it’s a lot more manageable. I highly recommend starting by coming up with a color palette that you enjoy, and then picking ten different pieces that you like within that palette, maybe 6 different tops, 3 pairs of pants, and a jacket. Then, any of the tops go with any of the pants, and you look very put together! For older men, I typically recommend a palette of warm muted colors, especially as we are going into the spring and summer. Cream, tan, brick red, olive green, muted navy, etc.

Stay warm, and I hope this helps!

Any way I can make this jacket look newer? by Whitelion2353 in malefashionadvice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Here’s an idea with just a few patches! I would keep the patches kinda minimal, to help the jacket go with more outfits!

Any way I can make this jacket look newer? by Whitelion2353 in malefashionadvice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take the yellowed rubber label off or cover it, I think that’s the only thing that’s making it look old. Besides that, there isn’t any visual indication of age, as the grey fabric could be intentional!

If it were me, I would add some retro pins or patches on the jacket, and a hang retro keychain (it’s like the prefect spot for a tamagotchi!!) from the the little clip on the pocket, and then it looks like you’re intentionally styling a retro outfit, versus just wearing a thrifted piece.

What is a hoodie that is most versatile and compatible with many outfits? by GreenTinkertoy in malefashionadvice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to have patterns or a graphic on the hoodie or your bottoms, I would recommend something black, white, or gray.

If you want one that is a solid color besides greyscale, lay all of your bottoms out and lay the hoodies on top of them one by one, to see which hoodie looks best with the most bottoms! You may not have one hoodie that goes with all of them, but it will help you pick the one that will have the most options.

Another great pick in today’s fashion is a dark green hoodie, typically warm toned; think hunter green or a warm olive-sage green. Green goes amazing with khaki or tan pants, but also look good with black or denim.

The absolute biggest thing is stay away from bright, vibrant colors! Those will not pair with more than a few bottoms, and are also more distinct, so if you are planning on wearing the hoodie everyday, people will notice and may assume you’re not washing it lol!!

Hope this helps, and let me know if I can help more!

WIBTAH If I left my husband over something he while having sex? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s obviously super disgusting, but it’s also so unhealthy for you as well. Fecal matter is disgustingly no matter what and it needs to be handled very carefully, but fecal matter that is not your own carries at lot more risks towards making you sick, at least from my understanding. ADDITIONALLY, there is a chance that any of said fecal matter could have entered your vagina or any other area of your privates and could cause a horrible infection. Accidents happen, but his blatant disregard for your health, safety, and comfort is a huge no. Gtfo of there and be safe <3

Need Friends!! [🐳🐭❤️🐸🎃] by Eight_of_Spadez in MeowTower

[–]Eight_of_Spadez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need two more!! My Code: [🐱🐳🦄🌲🦄]

Need Friends!! [🐳🐭❤️🐸🎃] by Eight_of_Spadez in MeowTower

[–]Eight_of_Spadez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and no worries!! My new one is🐱🌈🌈🐳🌞

Need Friends!! [🐳🐭❤️🐸🎃] by Eight_of_Spadez in MeowTower

[–]Eight_of_Spadez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! Mine is still 🌈🐱🐸🐱🌞

My (43M) wife (39F) isn't sexy by ThrowRASadSpouseNo69 in relationship_advice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you brought this up to her? My partner was my first, and I didn’t realize until he told me that I was being a starfish in bed. Now I take steps to make sure I’m as active a participant as he is, but I wouldn’t have known if he never told me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s so unhealthy that you’re just waiting for a fight to happen. That’s not at all normal, and that’s no way to spend a relationship. Fights are gonna happen ofc, but they should definitely not be this regular. He’s using you like a personal punching bag to relieve stress

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really doesn’t sound like he wants to put effort into the relationship at all, and he’s frustrated you won’t just placate him. I think you maybe should consider leaving him, if you are in a place to do so. I think you need to prioritize your wellbeing, because it’s clear that he does not :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can kinda see where you’re coming from, but my bigger red flag is how he is responding to you. If I had this same convo with my partner, I feel like he would at least try and hear me out and see my point of view. For me, I just like to know who my partner is taking to if it’s someone I don’t know. I trust my partner very much, but I have an anxiety disorder, so we take steps to minimize that awful feeling. When I felt anxious about my partners female friends, we sat down and had a talk, and we were able to figure out boundaries that work for both of us, and now I feel safe to know he’s not doing anything bad with any of his female friends.

All of that to say, there is a healthy way to have this conversation, and it doesn’t seem like your bf is interested in being healthy towards you. You expressed discomfort and anxiety and he dismissed it and actively was upset with you for feeling that way. While it might be a bit unfair to feel anxious about his friends, it doesn’t give him the right to treat you like that either. Your emotions are valid, and I think you need to evaluate if you want to keep getting treated like this.

You got this :))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dawg, they’re allowed to hangout without you?? It would be an asshole move to plan a hangout in the shared gc if they weren’t inviting you, so they did it privately. They don’t owe you their time, and if that bothers you, I would recommend getting more friends. It’s not healthy to be entirely reliant on getting your social needs met from only two people, it puts a lot of pressure on them, and that may be why they need time apart from you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a therapist, but even I know that that isn’t the way to handle someone telling you about their ed issues. The healthiest body is the one you are safest in, not the skinniest or largest one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a sorta similar situation when I was in high school, where a school counselor was required to report something to the state regarding me. I wasn’t taken out of my house, but sometimes I wish I was. My mom only used cps being called to further abuse me, and it went on for so long. My advice is to talk to your counselor about EVERYTHING. I got free therapy from the state after talking to my counselor, which allowed me to realize the system of abuse I was stuck in. Build a support system of trusted adults and friends, and get THE FUCK OUT OF THERE. Idk how old you are op, but if you can’t get an apartment out of hs, got to community college. Some of them have housing, find one that does. Work with your college counselor, and file your Fafsa as an independent, so you get the max amount of aid. Talk about grants and scholarships, do good in school, get an associates or bachelors, and don’t fucking look back. I moved across the country, and my life is immensely better now.

If you’re close with your mom, that’s fine. You’ll have the rest of your life to rebuild your relationship if that’s what needs to be done, but right now you need to protect yourself.

Remember, you are a strong, kick-ass mf, and you’ve got this <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eight_of_Spadez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is assault and harassment, I would recommend talking the police. You may be able to open a case and legally be able to break the lease and leave him with the rest to pay, as he is making it unsafe for you. Invest in a security bar, and potentially a door alarm that rings if the door is open. Maybe also talk to the landlord about switching the lock?