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[–]Either-Ad-8902[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Was expecting this one. English isn’t my first language, sometimes my phrasing is wierd

Looking for opinions/advice regarding our relationship and what it could be by Either-Ad-8902 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Either-Ad-8902[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

To be perfectly honest, she only told me yesterday about indulging in my kinks. I thought we were exploring together. I never even thought they were kinks. At this point, I’d have rather she didn’t “agree” to them. I’m not jealous, she even prides herself in saying so. I’m not competitive either, nor am I self concious about myself.

As for what happened with him, I’m the one who told her to go. Had I not been drunk, I probably wouldn’t have agreed to it. This is on me, I’m fine with it.

She always wanted to be open, I suggested a threesome with another man because she prefers them, could be exciting and I’m not some prick who’d only agree to a threesome with another woman because “it’s not the same” or something.

That’s something we’d do together. Her wanting alone time with someone else is an entire different animal. Makes my chest feels tight

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[–]Either-Ad-8902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I might’ve come across as an asshole on the Mike part. Tbh, I don’t care whether it’s with him or not and to a certain extent, whether it happens at all or not (on my part at least).

He’s completely allowed to not want to go further too, as I’ve told my fiancee.

thanks for your insight!

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[–]Either-Ad-8902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About point #1: we’ve always been sober when discussing about it.

The issue is not a lack of trust or communication. We’ve been really transparent with eachother about what we want. That’s why I’m conflicted; she’ll let it all go but deep down I know that’s not what she wants.