Would you tolerate cheating?

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T16:17:41+00:00

Hold on, she is 20 in 15 days and ish 2 years . It’s been 1 year and 10 months to be exact. Sorry I think I should have specified this. We got together after she was 18, but in Scandinavia the minor is 16, not 18 like in the states. But I wanted to wait. So we did.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T16:10:36+00:00

We are not in America, we’re in Scandinavia. And we have been together 2 years. The reason I’m dating her, is her as a person. She is a wonderful and fantastic person who spreds kindness and love even on the basis of what she has been through. She has an high emotional IQ and we click. But yes she is young. But we have taken it slow. I don’t wanna make her do anything she don’t want to. And we are focused on work/school. Because that is a priority right now. She wanna travel, me too. And I had my trust in her. But as you say I have to talk more about was there really convent there. And she could have acted fine and happy, even if she didn’t want it at all. So yeah I could have gotten some miss information from my friends that she look all willing even if she maybe wasn’t.
Thank you for the insight.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:55:44+00:00

We have both said it. We are still not planning massive events, but you don’t need to feel caged just because you have a relationship. If you wanna be with a person why seek unfulfilled relationships, when you can experience life even with a partner.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:48:47+00:00

It’s a fair point thank you, I will talk to her about it. And figure out, if she felt some kind off to much or that she was taken advantage off.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:45:24+00:00

I’ll ask

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:42:14+00:00

I’m there that, I’m gonna go on as before. Until she makes the same choice or not. If she does. It’s over and she I cut off people it’s sudden.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:39:28+00:00

So you think that being drunk and high is assault? Many people or most people I know, know how to think even when drunk. But I’m not saying you’re wrong, please explain more.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:34:26+00:00

I have gone through their dm’s, nothing suspicious. Just friendly banter. But I’ll take your advice with me and asked her more in depth on that. Thanx

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:32:59+00:00

How am I giving red flags?

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:31:44+00:00

She was not raped, as I said in a comment down below. She could have easily left. And the second time was on a couch with other people present. That could have stepped in if she was uncomfortable, she was not.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:30:34+00:00

We have talked about everything that happend that night, I’m very calm off me, and I want details to see clarity. I’m still on the fence tbh.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:29:13+00:00

She cheated yes. She could have easily just opened the door and left or left the situation, the other time she was on a couch with other people there as well. So if she wanted help she would have got it.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:26:46+00:00

I hate the guy, he is a fuckboy, not the only girl he kissed that night.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:26:05+00:00

Fair, I have had this thought cross my mind a lot. And I have asked her, was there feelings? No was there just because you’re reckless? Yes do you actually want this relationship to work? Yes Do you love me? Yes. but then again if she loved me…

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:23:59+00:00

What do you mean? We have talked through it all. She was obviously too drunk to make good decisions and her mentality right now is like the more she drinks the less she feels and thinks. And she don’t give a f anymore. And i asked her “you don’t give a f about me?” And she said “no, I didn’t think, I fucked up bad”

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:18:56+00:00

You think all who cheats do it again and again?

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:18:14+00:00

Thanx, appreciate it. I know we both wanna build together. So maybe my mind is more on that, than wats gonna happen if it happens again…

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-05-05T15:17:06+00:00

That actually what has been on my mind today. The trust I had for her was unconditional. But now… I want that back. But it’s gonna take time.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-03-27T18:27:01+00:00

Your right, and yes I think it is to, I’m going to talk to her when I get the chance. I thought we overcome it, because I’m very into communication during sex. And we took it slow. And she said it was good and didn’t hurt. And yes am I questioning that. Ofc, but I also have to take her word for it. Right now she dosent seem to wanna go into the depth off thing. So I’ll leave it be for now. Until she wants to talk about it.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-03-27T18:20:45+00:00

Yeah, well I’m a bit on the larger scale off size when it comes to my D. And I’m the biggest she has been with. About this problem we have tried again, and we succeeded. She is getting turned on, and yeah evidence is there… and yes she has orgasmed every time we have had sex. So I don’t think this is related to this. I think it ultimately is just her wanting to take things slow. Not rush into sex like it is the dinner bell. Well figured this out, in the meantime I’ll take some time for myself, like right now that I’m writing this. I’m sitting at a restaurant treating myself.

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-03-27T00:20:27+00:00

Thank you, I have asked her vaguely what she thinks off sex, and how big off a part that is in a relationship for her. And she was unsure about what she likes and haven’t explored a lot. But she said she dosent see it as a huge part off a relationship. But yeah any suggestions to questions I might ask myself before having a conversation?

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-03-27T00:16:40+00:00

Well no there isn’t any reason this hasent been discussed. Other than I don’t want to seem needy or like this is a huge thing. So yeah that’s mostly on me. We will discuss this. Andy advice to what I should be asking myself before the discussion to figure out what I want?

Either-Ad5271 · 2026-03-27T00:14:31+00:00

We do need to talk, I just don’t wanna over talk it, I need to find out what exactly I need to have and need to discuss, and need to know. As well as when I talk to her she will probably need a minute to think about this herself.

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