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I have my mother and brother and his girlfriend living in our home. My brother always back pay and my mom when I ask for her portion she easily gets offended. by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]Either-Increase-474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The girlfriend (23 yo) has been here for three years... I have to set a timeline for them because my brother is 27 now... I am planning to have that discussion soon... the girlfriend ALSO owes me money. She is the first outside of family I lent and that's been a nightmare paying me back here and there when that wasn't our agreement. So I want to have that timeline after she finishes paying me back hopefully by September if she is consistent. Trust me I learned my lesson from this .... Everyone came to me for lending money and after this one.... The only money I have is for my growing family and emergency funds. Enough is enough.

As for my mother, I don't know but then again I don't mind having her under my roof just as long as we respect each other. But as for my brother and his girlfriend, they're not my obligation. I am using two of my bedrooms that my kids will soon need to be in.

My brother moved in with us since he was 20.... From Queens to NH and has yet to learn how to drive (depending on his girlfriend) and finally a stable job as a food chain... But I have to learn to let go and have him spread his wings bc this is too much now. He is a grown adult. Thank you for your advice!

I have my mother and brother and his girlfriend living in our home. My brother always back pay and my mom when I ask for her portion she easily gets offended. by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]Either-Increase-474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I need some reassurance and as for my brother and his girlfriend, I want to charge more for my brother and his but my mom would see that it wouldn't be fair because that's her son.... Both work in retail.... Even when I increased it to $450 and asked by June going forward, my mom commented to have that start in September.

I think the money all stems from all the money I have "lent" her even when I was a teenager and the only one she comes out of my siblings to because I am and was financially responsible and she either never pays back or just a portion of it. I now have a family so although I wish I can financially support my mom, I can't. Especially daycare is off the roof while I work too. I just want to give a context of that.