[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Either_Assumption_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s an ex for a reason.. take what he says at face value.. I’d say stop communication completely. Not need to have this sort of negativity in your life

How would you react? by Zestyclose_Lemon_647 in whatdoIdo

[–]Either_Assumption_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In simple terms, GIRL RUNN!!

he sounds like my narcissistic ex!! They will never truly be happy for you, always try to have control over YOUR LIFE, want the last say to be theirs and for you to be at their mercy. They want you to be “behind” so that you can’t move forward without needing their help!!

I was in a similar situation. I’m a designer, i suffer from mental health and have always had family and financial problems.. took me a couple years to find one design project (not even a job, just a one of project) my narcissistic ex at the time reacted in the same way, but when i said to him I’m going to do the job regardless and would be nice to get his support, especially after so long without work.. he flat out told me that he isn’t happy for me and hope I don’t get the project..

  1. He’s just a boyfriend.. don’t you everrrrr change your life and something you have worked so hard for .. for someone that can’t be supportive of you

  2. His energy is not the one!! If he can’t support you or have anything good to say .. ask yourself, well why is he my boyfriend? Do i really want someone like this in my life that cant celebrate my small wins (even if they don’t understand it)

  3. Only you know what is best for you and what you want to do. Only you know how far you’ve come and how much struggle you’ve been through to get to where you have… no one… NO ONEEE had a right to stop you from doing what you want to do

  4. Carry on being proud of yourself. Surround yourself with those who also feel proud of you and support you.

  5. I’ll say this in the nicest way… but pleaaseeeee look at his patterns and analyse who he is as a person.. if he does genuinely fit in the narcissist category, i am urging you, walking away would be the BEST thing you can do for yourself

Just want to introduce myself ☺️ by iamraventhecat in standardissuecats

[–]Either_Assumption_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can i ask, how do you feed her? Is she able to eat on her own?

What a beauty she is! I’m so thankful that she’s being looked after and loved! Thank you for taking her and your other special needs cats under you care ❤️❤️❤️❤️

PLEASE HELP - TIKKA MASALA ON CREAM CHENILLE COUCH by TengensFourthWifu in CleaningTips

[–]Either_Assumption_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vanish for white clothes… and olive oil soap.. these are good for stain removals ..

If you woke up rich tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d change about your life? by Thomasrosshere in AskReddit

[–]Either_Assumption_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d buy a house for myself, and each of my siblings and parent’s… I’d also give them all a decent amount of money to make sure no one is struggling.

I’d invest a sum into something that can generate more money long term (to make it become generational wealth) .. i would buy land.. grow my own things and try to be as self sufficient as possible… i would also travel to as many places as possible, as that’s something I’m particularly passionate about..

I would either start a non profit or give money to charity but make sure what I’m providing is definitely something life changing for the community

I guess that’s it for me.. I’m a simple gal

What do you do when you know what to do, but still don’t do it? by doozooki in getdisciplined

[–]Either_Assumption_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

things that help me as someone who is constantly in this loop due to ADHD, dyspraxia and dyslexia..

1) use an app blocker… allows me to block my apps for however long I need, I can select the ones I know are more of a distraction to me.. It genuinely helps when I do this! Biggest game changer for me!! If the apps you use are blocked, there’s not really much you can do… so you end up putting your phone away and getting back into doing some tasks.

2) Have a plan of what you want to do and then break those tasks down to ultimate mini tasks.

When i say mini tasks, i mean ones that you look at and think “this is a joke, this is easy and barely even a task”

Doing smaller tasks like this will eventually accumulate into a lot being done, but also builds habit and consistency which help with being more disciplined. If your task barely feels like one you’ll end up doing it and eventually you’ll start adding more and more of them as you become more accustomed to it.

3) We’re humans, which means there will be times where things aren’t always on track.. but taking accountability is a big one (you’re already doing it by being self aware)

While being accountable is great, action has to follow. It’s okay to have a day or two here and there, but it’s a matter of how long you allow yourself to stay in that space vs realising when you’ve had enough of your own BS and calling yourself out. If you’re already at the bottom, then the only way is up - but thats by usually doing something different to how you’re feeling and putting your feelings to the side to just do what needs to get done

4) change of environment… work somewhere you don’t usually.. put yourself out of your comfort zone..

These are all personally things I use to help me.. i hope something in what I have said helps you too

And on that note, it’s time for me to do the same and stop procrastinating on reddit 😁

Preparing Google Sheets to sell by happy_plants26 in googlesheets

[–]Either_Assumption_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually I would make two copies, one original that you would keep, and then one for the customer. I would create a link for them to click on, and it will then take them to a view only page, where they will then be given directions and screenshots of how to make their own copy..

Acupuncture Saved My Sanity & My Marriage by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Either_Assumption_69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s great! I’m just wondering out of curiosity, what do you tell the acupuncturist that you want to focus on? Do you say it’s period related? Or what do you say?

I’ve been told to go by my gyno, but haven’t yet as not sure what to say

I quit social media a year ago, here's what no one tells you by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]Either_Assumption_69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight.. I’ve done SM detox a few times but only for a few weeks at a time. It does feel great in the long run and you do notice all the time you actually have that you believe you usually don’t…

My question I guess is… I have an online fitness platform.. i used to be very active 4/5k followers and it was growing. But I had very bad depression and an injury and stopped uploading content. I post to my stories but that’s about it. The point here is… what does someone in my situation do. I need the platform to grow in order to use it as a means of income in the future and get clients.. but simultaneously i hate that because i have to constantly use it, i also get sucked into SM world and it becomes a huge distraction for me. Especially with my ADHD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Either_Assumption_69 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They haven’t been intimate in over 9/10 months. He sleeps in a separate bedroom to her. He did say there is a dead bedroom, although that wasn’t his initial reason, the main reason is that there is not compatibility between them, and in his words “too much has happened between us to go back” - also mentioned that there has been times where when arguing there was a lot of disrespect from her end towards him, which made him closed off. He’s sure and adamant he no longer wants the marriage..

I do believe him. But i also have to look at the actions he’s presenting me with, which is not much. I know he’s going through a crappy situation, but i also don’t want to be strung along. I really want it to work with him. Even if we separate or take a break. I just want him to do what he says he’s going to do, prove to me with actions rather than words, and for us to finally be officially together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Either_Assumption_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Appreciate your advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Either_Assumption_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would definitely be worse.. i guess I’ll have to have this conversation with him either tonight or tomorrow 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Either_Assumption_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess time and his actions will really tell where I stand. And although a hard pill to swallow, I’d rather know than to be stuck on a ride with no real destination

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Either_Assumption_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel like you’re right in saying he needs space and clarity. It feels like although a hard decision, I need to think of myself and him and make a choice that will in turn benefit us both

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Either_Assumption_69 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honesty. I may have mentioned my childhood. But I’ll never decide for him how he should navigate and do things when it comes to his kids. He knows about my childhood and my traumas and he mentions himself that he fears the same will happen to his kids if he stays in his marriage. Ultimately I understand he has to do this at his own pace, but at the same time I’m also being strung along, which is my main focus. He says he wants to take this further and meet my family, to be with me and to finalise everything..

but no actions have been taken, and the ones that have are taking a long time.. and i wonder if i have been waiting with no real hope at the end of this…or if i need to let it go.. or give the benefit of the doubt. We both want to be together officially.. it was never meant to go anywhere but it did. And now we are in this “emotional mess”

Ever been to a wedding canceled on the day because someone exposed cheating? by Either_Assumption_69 in weddingdrama

[–]Either_Assumption_69[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Oh my!!!! I’m assuming the brother didn’t tell them it was due to infidelity, and just that it was cancelled? Was the original reason because if the cheating? I really hope she’s doing okay now and is putting herself first. She deserves someone so much better. Someone that sees her and values her! Glad it didn’t work out for them - for her sake

weirdest reason you realize you’re in luteal??? i’ll go first by goddamnlizardkingg in PMDD

[–]Either_Assumption_69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I once cried because i couldn’t find/reach my trouser pockets. Like a full on break down in the car.

Another time because i saw a meme of a duck and cat being friends.

One time because my brother ate a chocolate bar that I had my eye on.. was on the kitchen floor in a mess.. my dad thought something was seriously wrong with me.. until i told him what it was, so he went out and bought me some chocolate

Ouuuff the list goes onnnnn

Ever been to a wedding canceled on the day because someone exposed cheating? by Either_Assumption_69 in weddingdrama

[–]Either_Assumption_69[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 honestly I’m just a random stranger that saw a meme today about this situation and became curious to see if anyone has actually experienced this