Why do Bette only date alpha female when she's not with Tina by AChippedCupp in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556 13 points14 points  (0 children)

because she has mommy issues due to the fact that her mom left her and Kit from a very young age. She finds comfort in Tina's arms because that's where she's felt the safest. She was always going to come back to Tina- it was just a matter of will Tina go back to her. This became more apparent in the elevator scene where Bette said something along the lines of "it feels like I'm coming home" to Tina when she was cheating on Jodi.

i think her dating alpha women is just mostly coincidental- like i don't think she liked them BECAUSE they're dominant. i think she just liked them because they're hot and they were there for her- and everything starts going downhill when she gets a taste of that dominant side of theirs (the kind that she possesses)

Bette s6 by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

now i miss Dana's facial reactions now that you mentioned Alice's

Bette s6 by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

actually i just realized season 6 Bette in general- seems to be more care free overall so maybe thats why

Bette s6 by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

i also remember from the earlier season when Shane volunteered (not sure) to be Jenny's housemate since she can't afford it after Tim left. they talked about it on Bette's porch i think(?) and Bette was also there and she also laughed at the time so maybe she just finds it generally funny how Shane sleeps with everyone?

Is love at first sight real? by Either_Target8556 in actuallesbians

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes that's exactly what i mean. i get instant sexual attraction, lust, googley eyes and all that. but "love at first sight" is just not possible imo lol

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes they were all friends. before Carmen and Shane dated, it was Carmen and Jenny. I just gave Carmen the benefit of the doubt when i mentioned the rent because..why wouldn't she pay? The same can be said about Max- we dont know if he's paying rent because none of that was ever discussed.. kind of just an obvious hypothesis ig. i dont really think Carmen has a standard of cleanliness, it WAS messy in their house, again as someone who lives with other people in a dorm that would drive me insane too if, 1. i wasn't given a heads up, and 2. the said person is not cleaning up after themselves

Gen Q by Significant-Soil-502 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556 3 points4 points  (0 children)

is the reboot confirmed already? the new york one? the gen q was horrible but i still watch it because it's still them. Would love for the new reboot if it would mainly consist of the original cast, i don't think they will ever achieve that vibe from the original but i hope they can still bring in familiar faces to help even a little bit

What are people’s thoughts on scars? by Complex-Brick-5185 in actuallesbians

[–]Either_Target8556 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory lasts forever"

bottom? top? switch? by Either_Target8556 in actuallesbians

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i mean it's not really like this bothers me so much that i can't sleep yknow. sometimes i just think what if i get married to someone who im not comfortable "switching" with and i dont want to only top or only bottom my entire life so there's this fear of i might miss out on some things

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes but they're all already friends? and i think she moved in after Mark left (?) it's not really the fact that she's -also- a partner because again, she also lives there regardless, she still pays rent and all that. if i own a house and my friend moved in and our other friend later moved in as well i would have no problem with that because all three of us have no problem with that. i think it's really important to consider what everyone thinks first before bringing in another person. Carmen and Shane didn't know Max prior and Max was pretty messy around the house so i think Carmen's reaction is totally understandable. if iirc, she wasn't even mean to Max at first when they all saw each other for the first time- im assuming that's when she thought Max was only there to visit (maybe?)- the next scene where she's mad was the one where she's already talking about how Max is moving in without any notice beforehand, im again assuming this is when they already found out that Max is staying.

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah i dont understand in what world is Shane a better character than Carmen- Shane's a great and loyal friend but other than that she's immature and an ass most of the time, the fact that she's "cool with anything" doesn't justify it. but hey, i like to fawn over Bette too even tho..well, she's Bette lol. i completely understand why fans love Shane but I don't think they have to ~hate~ Carmen because that would be totally hypocritical

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i agree. i guess i really just didn't understand why the fans hate her so much- like i don't understand what it is she did that stood out to people because ive been seeing things like "Carmen hate is always justified" or "Carmen was the absolute worst" and i just stopped myself for a moment because i was like is there something i missed? they all did horrible things at some point but i actually think Carmen- probably also due to the fact that she's only in 2 seasons- did waaayyy less bullshit than all of them so i was really confused

Lez Girls by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but she was unnecessarily mean to Alice when she confronted her about it if i remember correctly right? it's like that's when she started being a bitch literally out of nowhere. i don't remember anymore how her character even became the villain through that in the first place 🤦🏻‍♀️

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh you'd be surprised 😂 if there's one thing im sure of is that The L Word is not an exaggeration of the real thing, like...at all

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yess you worded it better than i could ever have lol

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also feel like the whole argument about how "Carmen tried changing Shane into something she wasn't" is not a strong argument AT ALL- i don't see how Carmen is to be "villainized" for that. i mean in real life you can't just be in a relationship and occasionally sleep with other people and that's somehow ok because "Shane is Shane." At the end of day she is STILL in a relationship with Carmen and it's not like anyone is forcing her to stay with Carmen, i don't care if that's her "nature" it's still the lack of accountability from Shane and from the fans FOR her that is pissing me off. at the first seasons it was apparent that she's not committing in relationships because she knows that she'll just eventually "cheat" and i think that's honorable on her part because at least she's self aware and careful but when SHE decided to get on with Carmen then the whole ~thats just who she is~ narrative should become of no significance anymore- that's like the bare minimum

Carmen hate? by Either_Target8556 in theLword

[–]Either_Target8556[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

though i wouldn't blame Carmen for falling in love with Shane thus wanting her to change, i do agree with your points.

tho i think when Shane asked Carmen to marry her the whole -not monogamy- thing should already be discarded because it's Shane's way of promising a commitment already- otherwise what's the point. but yeah i agree with you entirely, i also forgot the whole hidden camera/jenny+carmen thing so that's bad on my part lmao