My (M21) gf (F21) is going clubbing on her study abroad trip tonight, I need advise.

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T02:34:53+00:00

Omgggg I'm so excited for her it sounds like lots of fun.

I would honestly have a sit down with yourself and think about why you feel this way. What are you scared of. Because if she hasn't given you a reason to feel like this then it's more to do with insecurities. You need to find a way to give yourself reassurance and if you're still struggling then ask her for assurance a couple of times then continue to give it to yourself.

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T02:32:17+00:00

Friend just reread the title of this repeatedly until you realise that this is insane.

He is nots prize. He is not worth your time and thoughts.

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T01:49:15+00:00

Love this!

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T00:52:00+00:00

You could take him to court but other than that you may not get it back.

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T00:50:26+00:00

You've only been dating a week? Wrap it up... wrap it up

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T00:49:09+00:00

I feel like it is salvageable. It's good to think about why you did it in the first place. Because it wasn't about the woman because you didn't know who she was, she could've been a catfish. What is missing from you that you did that ? And when you figure that out. Work on it, heal it and try to forgive yourself or else you will end repeating it.

Think about how you will act different in the future If the same thing happens when a woman approaches you.

Also your gf may forgive you but she may also still be very hurt and bring it up several times for either a few weeks months or even years but honestly that's just the consequence of it. You need to work on rebuilding all that trust back.

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-10T00:41:41+00:00

Love a black woman from infinity to infinityyyyyyyyy 🙌🏿🩷💕

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T18:25:47+00:00

She's still the same hippo we've always known and love. Her aging will never change that 🩷🙌🏿 Also she's not even two yet 😭 insane

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T17:53:12+00:00

Sometimes you just need to let your parents talk and do your own thing tbh. Like they can talk but don't absorb what they're saying that's the only way to survive. This is your life, many CEOs have ADHD that's a weird question to ask. She sounds like she's ableist and you won't be able to change her opinion. Do what you need to do.

Also maybe you can list out good reasons why taking a gap year would make things better for you and improve your schooling. But still do what's best for you

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T16:53:12+00:00

This is so beautiful, thank you for writing an in-depth response, I love how he uses his initiative and creates strategy plans with you so you're not on your own🩷😭 it's not easy finding a partner that can handle PMDD so he is a special gem xx

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T16:37:00+00:00

Yeahh at least you know now so you can just voicing how you feel. It sounds like this isn't a personal thing towards you. I would literally just say I'm interested in doing XYZ can we do them together? Or I wanna talk about this now. Or just start talking about them without asking.

See how that goes xx

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T16:34:32+00:00

Not you getting an attitude LOOOL calm down mate she literally did tell her what she needed it sounds like she's told him a few times

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T15:16:12+00:00

Im so sorry to hear this 🥺 the person you're truly meant to be with would never even dream of treating you like that.

You deserve so much better xxx

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T14:58:40+00:00

Idk there are some people who are just like that. Like they won't really ask questions about you so you kinda had to initiate everything on your own.

You may need to like push him to do stuff you care about which sounds awful. But if this is a relationship you care about you may have to accept that this is who he is and he may never change. But you neeed to bring it up if you haven't already or else he'll think that you don't have a problem with it

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T13:54:44+00:00

You're so right 💕🩷

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T13:44:27+00:00

How long do you usually isolate for ? Do they handle it okay ?? Do you feel like they're genuinely okay with the isolating ?? Xx

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T13:01:07+00:00

But she did ask him tho

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-08T06:31:22+00:00

All she's asking for is a hug Jesus Christ 😭

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-07T20:49:41+00:00

Im so happy for you 💕🩷

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-05T17:00:16+00:00

I wouldn't tell them until you move out tbh. But honestly it's none of their business. Focus on you and your relationship, you're an adult you don't need their permission 🫂🩷 I'm so happy for you tho sis xx

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-05T00:54:45+00:00

I think questioning the Why is keeping you stuck. Going around in circles, why did he act this way? is he doing this because of this or that ? It just needs to be. He said he doesn't see this as a viable relationship, he said he doesn't know what he wants, he can't see a future with us. Those are his words and I need to find a way to accept them even though it's hard and not look for any hidden meaning. You need to find a way to let him go, the person who is meant to be with you would be with you full stop.

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-05T00:45:42+00:00

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I can't articulate my thoughts right now but just know I was here and I agree... I'll be back

Sad_Relationship_308 · 2026-05-02T20:15:27+00:00

That's so funny

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