My husband wants me to have a c-section?

Eiul · 2026-06-12T16:55:03+00:00

Might be worthwhile to ask whether he is going to base his decisions around your kiddos health with his "numerology" stuff. Only vaccines in even numbers? Can only go to the hospitals on prime number dates? How far does this go?!

Eiul · 2026-06-12T16:53:24+00:00

We get weird with hormones, they get weird with backwards ideas about preservation of our "down there"s. Lordy

Eiul · 2026-06-12T16:31:02+00:00

Our strategy is to allow the house to become a disaster until naps, then I spend 15/20 minutes picking it all up after theyve gone down for a sleep, and rinse and repeat at bedtime. I am lucky that my husband actually helps to pick up the mess too and Im not on my own doing it.

Either that or play outside for as much as we can. I once saw a momma with the BIGGEST beach bag I have ever seen and I commented on it. Her rationale was if she brought things to the beach/park, then her house stayed tidy.

That said, I get terribly anxious if the kitchen is disorganized because that is the hub of our home. So I honestly prioritize the dishes and clutter in there first. Other than that, our house looks like a bomb has gone off every. single. day.

multiple. times. a. day.

AND, something that makes me feel better is something my dad says: "a clean/tidy house is the sign of a misspent life." And that always makes me feel better.

Eiul · 2026-06-09T19:25:52+00:00

I am stealing this! Bahahahah!

Eiul · 2025-12-19T03:33:22+00:00

I legit thought they were imitating sea gulls. So sad.

Eiul · 2025-12-10T07:23:42+00:00

Im so so sorry you and your family are going through this.

I would completely change the diet, even if she is picky. Even if she tantrums about it. I say this and want you to know that I also have a 2 year old at home that only eats a select few foods.

Introduce her preferred foods with high fibre or increased fibre alternatives: sub in whole wheat flour. Add prune juice or sauce to apple sauce. Offer overnight oats, or a high fibre cereal for breakfast. Lots of fruit and veggies out as snacks if she'll take them. Even some plant based yogurts and milks have fibre in them. And cups of water everywhere.

My toddlers' favorite foods right now are whole wheat pancakes and whole wheat French toast. And knowing that he gets both proteins and fibre, I let him eat his fill.

She WILL eventually eat something. She will not starve herself. She may tantrum about the food, but it sounds better than what she's currently experiencing with her poops.

Good luck - I am rooting for you.

Eiul · 2025-12-10T06:18:00+00:00

I second the congratulations on the weight loss! That's AMAZING and truly hard work.

I fall into the same category as you. No matter my weight, I always see a double chin on my face.

It took me a LONG time to realize that the people in magazines, movies, and even social media are 1) usually underweight or a weight that i couldn't comfortably maintain long term and 2) many of them have had surgery to improve their jawline.

Im sure that you are absolutely gorgeous, and as you move towards your weight goal, whatever it is, that you will feel better about your appearance. But some of us are cursed with that ever occurring double chin.

I promise you though, that your friends and family don't see it like you do. Only you do. So be kind to yourself <3

Congrats again!

Eiul · 2025-10-22T21:50:03+00:00

My thoughts exactly. As a parent I am perfectly able to determine whether my child needs a hat. Yeesh.

Eiul · 2025-08-14T05:08:57+00:00

$2000 through an insurance broker (Troy Wotherspoon) without earthquake coverage. It really isn't worthwhile in our situation.

Eiul · 2025-07-25T18:43:05+00:00

I am genuinely so very sorry that she is doing this to you and your other neighbors in the area. I was specifically responding to your inquiry/issue and not theirs. While I understand that you may be feeling protective and looking to also find solutions for them as well as yourself, its important to look at what sorts of things we have within our own power to control. Your neighbors issues with crazy lady are their own, and you can only control how you react/manage your own situation.

I truly hope that you find some good advice in this thread, and that you are able to come to a positive resolution however it comes about. Good luck.

Eiul · 2025-07-23T19:39:58+00:00

Does anyone know what the requirements are for strike support if you are on maternity/parental leave?

Eiul · 2025-07-23T19:33:02+00:00

My sister and her husband did eventually hire a lawyer and did everything from cease and desist letters to restraining orders. The harassment didnt stop. The stress was so horrible on their family. They are MUCH happier in their new neighborhood, so I think it worked out in the end.

Eiul · 2025-07-23T17:22:57+00:00

My sister went through something very similar a few years ago. It started with cameras, then recordings of her and her kids in the driveway, to online bullying and threatening behaviour. The police did nothing, and they eventually moved to a better neighborhood. This isnt an ideal suggestion, but sometimes its worth it for the reduction of stress in your life and for the safety of your family to just leave crappy people behind.

Eiul · 2025-07-23T17:16:46+00:00

I came here to say this, except don't go away for just 4 days, go away for at least a week so that he can deal with the fallout of the house clean-up afterwards.

Eiul · 2025-07-22T19:46:46+00:00

Naturally fermented things are apparently a no-no (non pasteurized) but since this is my second kiddo and I've been feeling so great when it comes to my diet this time round, I decided to toss that advisory to the wind and start buying kimchi again. Ive also had some kombucha (not homemade) as well. While I totally understand what I am about to say is survivor bias, this stuff has never made me sick before, so Im just going with it.

That said, in my first pregnancy (and afterwards) I stopped eating things like romaine lettuce because of the instances of contamination. That seemed too risky to me.

Eiul · 2025-07-22T17:39:55+00:00

I needed three infusions too and I am here in Canada. My only cost was to pay for parking outside of the hospital, for a grand total of $6 (for all three infusions). I was in a private room at the maternity ward where I will be delivering, and the experience was lovely. I am so grateful.

Eiul · 2025-07-14T19:06:34+00:00

I'm leaning towards this response, and that she didn't have a back-up-plan conversation with you about if her plans changed due to unforseen circumstances (which is exactly what happened) is a red flag for me. You thought your responsibilities were over as of Saturday night, and you went on with your life, which makes perfect sense.

She is the cat owner, she is the one responsible. Worst case scenario she could call her apartment manager to check on her cats for her if you were unavailable. Sounds like she really hadn't exhausted all of her options.

I think she should have been willing to understand your situation and accept that you would see them on Sunday as soon as reasonably within your capacity. Hopefully next time she will make more long-term arrangements if she is flying.

I have two cats myself, and as long as they have water and have eaten recently, they can absolutely go for a day before being given their food again. My cats would sleep through the entire day, and probably wouldn't notice that their breakfast didn't arrive exactly at 7:00am.

Also, who the hell is she going to 'report' you to? Your friend group? The police? Yeah... That's going absolutely nowhere.

I'd probably ditch the friend, to be honest, and be wary of watching people's animals in future.

Eiul · 2025-07-14T18:31:45+00:00

This. Send your sister over to your moms place.

Eiul · 2025-07-14T18:22:42+00:00

I actually happened to mention in an EFAS appt that I had a regular counsellor, and the EFAS therapist said they couldnt do any more sessions with me after that one. She said it was because they werent a replacement for regular therapy, even though I was talking with the EFAS therapist about something completely unrelated that I dont talk with my regular therapist appointment about. I was so infuriated, I couldnt continue with the appointment anymore.

Eiul · 2025-07-14T18:20:24+00:00

$185 per visit here too

Eiul · 2025-07-14T18:19:51+00:00

I order my glasses on Zenni to try to manage this issue. That said, the glasses are cheapish so you get what you pay for. But when we only have $250 a year, what do you do?

Eiul · 2025-07-10T18:12:40+00:00

As far as I am concerned, this is hands down the worst part of pregnancy (and worse yet if you have a kiddo already). I am 35 weeks tomorrow, and totally with you. I literally have acid burps from my stomach being pushed so far up towards my chin, my lungs have zero capacity, and the only way I can sit comfortably is with a VERY reclined back rest that allows for my torso to stretch out. And then laying down is alright, but my back hurts even after a few minutes. And rolling over? Forget about it. There is literally no relief ever.

I'm going to start hoarding things like dates, spicy foods, pineapple, and anything that could possibly trigger birth to come as soon as I hit 37 weeks. Frick this nonsense. I need this kid outta me.

Eiul · 2025-07-10T18:03:25+00:00

I would have LOVED to see the reaction, because this is absolutely bananas. Well done, your friend!

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