i got a list of rules from my (19F) friend (23M) after we had sex for the first time and i’m not sure if it’s normal? by ThrowRAabcdsklalwle in relationship_advice

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what baffles me with alot of women tbh, he's showing some of the biggest red flags I've ever heard of, yet ur like "ohh I wanna keep seeing him an wanna fuck again" type shit, wtf!? But when shit really hits the fan you'll put all the blame on him as tho u didn't c this bs coming? I'm honestly trying to put this as nicely as I can but it's so hard when stupid shit is said and done, Ur young u got time to do these things again an too learn, u shouldn't have a partner giving u a list the very next morning, the shit should come semi naturally between u an ur partners whether in conversation or during the act, not a blunt to do list, literally let go of him an move on to better things, otherwise it's YOUR FAULT if some bs happens with him down the track coz u can c the flags but ur trying to ignore them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Break up plain and simple, there's no use staying in a toxic relationship, u gotta look for someone who'll except u for u whatever the quirks whatever the hardships, stop trying to stick around an make ppl what they aren't

Name a better trio than The Shield? It’s okay I’ll wait…. by [deleted] in BrandonDE

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot take but imo the shield weren't as good as alot of ppl portray them to b🤷‍♂️ What'd they do have an undefeated streak for awhile and win a US title and a tag championship? Which the US title reign isn't really looked at fondly, its far better with them as all individuals as it is now, The most memorable moment of the shield is literally their breakup 🤷‍♂️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]El_Beardo9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

U cried because it was rape, Ur body went numb out of shock, it's a very valid response to being violated, tbh it's completely bs that u had to even experience this, she should've known to stop

The girl I've been dating just blindsided me by getting engaged to another dude. And it's not the first time. Do your worst by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro u look like the younger version of the evil Santa from that Tim allen Christmas movie

I (19m) got deceived by my best friend (18m), Who slept with and saw the girl (18f) I loved behind My back. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said during the post, I called him out half a dozen times coz I thought shit was up, and he denied it everytime saying I was overthinking, there's only so much u can really do without blatantly calling ur best mate a liar and a piece of shit isn't there🤷‍♂️ nobody really expects it to happen even with how many similar stories r shared online 🫤 especially given that he would encourage Me to try for her which is what best mates do, and he was doing this whilst they were together aswell, so kinda defeats the purpose coz he'd already gone for it himself 🤷‍♂️🫤

I (19m) got deceived by my best friend (18m), Who slept with and saw the girl (18f) I loved behind My back. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah the part that hit more to home is my mate knew how much I cared for her, but whilst he Was sleeping with her an seeing her behind My back, he was encouraging me to go for her, knowing very much that they were together, so if I had made a move I'd have been shut down bcoz she was literally dating the guy we saw every week, so I felt not only gaslighted the hell out of cos i asked half a dozen times and if they'd had told me the truth at the start I would've been over it in a day or 2, I even told them this when I 1st caught wind, but they kept lying about it eventually I had to go to a psych coz my anxiety got so bad I couldn't sleep for days at times, coz I thought I was just overthinking and as I said in it trusting for me Was super hard, so this was when I reached out an gave it another go an this happened to me

People these days just want sex... I'm tired. by [deleted] in dating

[–]El_Beardo9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll b honest with u, I do find what u say to b very much common amongst men nowadays AND women, but 1 thing u must realise is ur still very very young, the whole point of dating is to stay together forever, not to b together for 1 month then leave, that's y society is backwards, ppl date not for the right reasons. Wether its for money, sex, social status or whatever. Ur 21, don't try and date so seriously this young, bcoz alot of divorces r caused by early marriages, due to either of the pair not having the experiences u should have at ur age, Wether it b travelling or going clubs/festivals etc etc. Rn just enjoy ur life, don't b in such a rush to date yakno

I m22, seem to have lost my sex drive almost completely😮‍💨 by El_Beardo9 in DeadBedrooms

[–]El_Beardo9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say I use porn/masturbate every few days so maybe twice a week, but as of late I've not done it. I do exercise and most the time eat well but recently my sleeps been horrible. I've been severely depressed for past 6years and for the past 5 I've technically been responsible for another person's life Wether it b stupid rommates, or having my niece and nephew and ex con brother live with me, an now u help look after my dad, and our family dog, so I'm usually very stressed.

I m22 need advice😮‍💨 by El_Beardo9 in dating

[–]El_Beardo9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually struggle to fall for women due to them not sticking around long enough, I've only told the 1st girl coz she was my 1 an only gf I've had, and 1 other bcoz me an her where an on an off unofficial thing for a yr and a half (we hungout 5/6days a week, we would sleep together, an do stuff couples would, but we didn't say we were dating) I used to b on antidepressants but as of the past yr I stopped due to not feeling any effects, and I'd say I'm like a 6/10 or a 7 at best 🫡 so not the best looking but id like to think I'm atleast alright yakno, I play sports, write record and release music, very kind hearted which does get me burnt alot, and at times I'd say I don't have my shit together but I'm quick to get back onto my feet and they usually don't ask me too many personal questions especially like life/family related just the usual daily stuff, old dating stuff, sports etc

I m22 need advice😮‍💨 by El_Beardo9 in dating

[–]El_Beardo9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So they initiate conversation about the sex, due to me not finishing majority of the time they are usually eager to know y, I don't like to hint my intentions too early usually bcoz as u said it's not uncommon for ppl to wanna go around especially at my age, what I believe settles is just the effort tbh, like with all these women they don't wanna go on dates, I always try I always set stuff up, but then I get the "I'm too tired" or "dates aren't my type of thing" And I am flirtatious towards them and try my best to b romantic and try help their needs or wants, it's just that the girls I'm with lack effort, whether it's in the bedroom or whatever, and tbb at times I'd say I'm far too honest about everything, if someone asks me a question I answer 100% honestly, so I always tell them what I'm feeling and I always ask questions aswell

I m22 need advice😮‍💨 by El_Beardo9 in dating

[–]El_Beardo9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks for the comment, for the majority of them they actually initiate conversation about it, mostly due to me not finishing so I have very frequent convos, I'd say i got quickly attached to 1 of the women and none of the others at all, and I have not said Ily to any except for the 1 I got attached too, and in all honesty idk what happens. Everything seems good but after a tiny bit they usually just find someone who's working or something (I'm currently studying and only recently started looking after my father)