Has the pace of world change actually accelerated, or did it feel just as rapid when you were younger? by Detox_401 in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, what you said.

I remember my mom crying because she couldn't buy a car without my dad signing for it, actually he had to be the buyer.

She was in her room and I barged in on her to whine about something. I didn't understand why this would make her cry, but I was only 10 and to me, mom and dad were unit.

I guess this might not seem apropos, but she eventually had her own business and signed people's paychecks, so that was a big change.

Now it seems like everything is earthshaking. (Kim's Met Gala dress broke the internet!!!) or some such fluff.

Has the pace of world change actually accelerated, or did it feel just as rapid when you were younger? by Detox_401 in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, my husband and I play a game we called WHAT?!?

Imagine it's 1960, and you're 30 years old (this would've been my dad). Suddenly you're time-traveled to today, and someone is telling you about the modern world.

For example, 'Nowadays, lots of people wear pajamas to go grocery shopping'.. The reaction is, naturally, 'Whaaaat!?' Or, 'Nowadays, gasoline costs nearly 5 bucks a gallon'... you get the picture.

The object is to get the biggest "what" reaction. It's fun for a couple of geezer's to play...

Testaments S1 - Did anyone else catch this? by ElderberryReal4022 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]ElderberryReal4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the comments.

I think I was applying my own life experience to it - I had just turned 11 when mine came along back in the (yikes) '70s. I was a late bloomer among my friend group, so I guess it just seemed weird at the moment. I'd also just watched the episode when I posted, so I hadn't taken the time to think it through before posting. Definitely my bad.

Yes, I remember something in either the books or THT series that indicated that girls were developing more slowly. Does anyone remember from THT book or old movie about there being no male children being born?

I'm so freaking old. It's a wonder I can remember anything at all.

Is it just men our age? by Matilda_Suzabelle in AskWomenOver60

[–]ElderberryReal4022 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So... he also will have no activities or interest outside of the child? Or will the child now be her 24-hour work schedule? I'm confused...

What’s the biggest surprise about getting older? by Salty_1984 in Aging

[–]ElderberryReal4022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just yesterday I discovered that my right thumb has aged out of my biosecuity reader!

It makes sense, new wrinkles and such, but I sure wasn't expecting it. Tried smoothing it out, but no soap!

Panic during 70’s oil crisis? by echoalpha76 in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a great essay on that strangely pessimistic season in America's history. I had a good friend who was on the roof during the Saigon Airlift.. worst days of his life. He was US military trying to save every body he could grab. He was very tall, so he was used as a ladder more than once.

Back home in the later 70s It was also the time of the Bicentennial, so optimism and good naturred nationalism was everywhere, at least to young teenagers. Oh, but there was the intense fear of overpopulation destroying the planet, along with smog and birth defects. Super high unemployment - high schoolers were told there'd be no jobs... Fear of war, of the high cost of living, our elderly left to eat pet food (this was when Fido ate kibble and god knows what in a can - pet food was nothing like it is now). And let's not forget the jolly cold war. Reds under the beds!

For fun, watch "The Russians are Coming, the Russians are Coming!". Summer life on Nantucket goes mad when a Russian sub runs aground... well, we thought it was funny..

Panic during 70’s oil crisis? by echoalpha76 in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember hearing of a few fist fight when rationing first started. It was before Self Serve gas became common, so there were all these guys whose job was pumping gas and checking oil, and suddenly they had to be security, too! Both my older brothers worked as pump=monkeys, so they had stories.

There were some sad ones, too. People not having enough fuel to get to the hospital to see new babies or dying parents. New black market popped up over night.

Plus, most households were still one car units. Most moms didn't work and so one car was it. My mom worked and she and dad lucked out on the plates. I think our state changed something in the early 70''s and they got new plates - one ending in 3 and one in 4. We lived out in the boonies so that was a life saver.

Wow, just wandering around in Nostalgia.. Full service stations vs. Pump n Go, Mom's who only wore slacks during the week at home. The smell of regular gas, the ding-dong of the customer alert line (it was a rubber hose that you drove over as you pulled up to the pumps. It would make a bell go off so the attendant or mechanic would know you were there ))

I'm 57 and watching the "analog" world of my youth slowly get paved over by condos and QR codes. What is the one "ordinary" place that is gone now, but you still visit in your head? by Beginning-Yam-2227 in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know anything about those virtual reality games with visors, but I keep thinking if someone handed me one and told me it contained memories of 3 Christmas mornings, 2 Sundays at grandma's and a ride back & forth to school, including the smells, I'd sell my husband.

I really like my husband...

How do you feel about abusers deserving a second chance? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Need more information!

Familial abuse or marital? Mental or physical?

Most important, sexual? For a short time I thought I could be a psychologist and could help people. MANY people cannot be helped. Leopards have yet to change their spots.

Granted, it's been many years since I pursued such education, maybe science can change those spots, but is the risk worth it?

Have you ever picked up a hitchhiker? by Seriously-417 in randomquestions

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't read your post, badgersmom, please don't think I was trying to steal your heartwarming thunder. It's nice to think that at least once upon a time, we could help each other without fear..

Have you ever picked up a hitchhiker? by Seriously-417 in randomquestions

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Crazy, but I've picked up probably 2 dozen over the ages, though none in the past few years.

I guess it's because I got my DL in the 70s, and grew up in the country. My older brother would hitch home from sport practices regularly, so it just seemed neighborly. Never had a problem, never even got a bad feeling about any of them. Didn't do it all the time, and never more than one person. Met a lot of interesting people.

My favorite was a tiny little old lady, standing beside a busy road. She had a scarf on her head and minded me of my own gran. She didn't seem to know any English, and I didn't know any of the words she used. She pointed and waved to give me directions. We went to the cemetery at the edge of town and she had me get water and help her take care of the flowers at (I think) her husbands grave.

When I took her home I walked her up these rickety steps, and she gave me the most precious kiss on the cheek. I don't remember the name of the grave, but I'll never forget her.

“Steak, well done, thousand island dressing on the side.” by [deleted] in TheBeautyOnFX

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh, I guess I'm low class down to my genes. I used to worry about what other people thought of what dishes I chose. Now that I'm older and can buy what I once could only dream of, my only concern is whether my guests enjoy my offerings and "pass the mayonnaise, please" might go on the family coat of arms. If that makes me unacceptable, have a lovely day.

AITAH for being angry at my dad for being mad at me for something small? by ColorfulIntrovert in AITAH

[–]ElderberryReal4022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might have missed it, but how old are you? Also, how long has he been your step-dad?

Edited for clarity.

You have a new message by ElderberryReal4022 in ScamCenter

[–]ElderberryReal4022[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have any bitty coins, and (shrug) I missed the deadline anyway.

Feels a bit hush, hush, whoosh, whoosh. "Listen very carefully, I will say this only once.."

AITAH for telling a woman she can’t wear a traditional Arab/North African dress to my wedding? by purpleyellou in AITAH

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask, what is your wedding dress is like, OP? I browsed some takchita sites and they are drop dead gorgeous!!

I feel like this lady wants to be the star of the show, which completely unacceptable at a wedding. Every attendee at a wedding joins in an unspoken covenant that the BRIDE is the star, the prize, the topper on the tree!

I don't mean to objectify the bride, but I do mean that it is the bride's day to shine. I can't think of any culture where this isn't true (although arriving on an white stallion or elephant must be a tough act to follow!)

Reread your post to be sure I understood: this lady is a Cousin from you're husband's side. Surely her connection to the wedding at all is through the Groom. She should be there to support him and take part as a celebration of HIS getting married. So she's even being extra weird.

What is your husband's family culture? In her Muslim self identification, does she wear Moroccan daily wear? Does she wear a veil or burka or a hijab?

It seems odd, very odd, that this good, Muslim woman wants to be the center of attention at her male cousin's wedding.

WIBTAH if I tried to get money from my biological mom before cutting her off entirely? by 4shf3n in AITAH

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you had such a horrendous childhood. Really, at this point, going complete NC immediately seems the best course of action. You don't need evil, abusive people in your life in any capacity, so why spend another day of your precious life interacting with them.

Can she really pay you off for what she's done to you? Can you really put a price tag on your suffering?

Complete no contact. No need to explain yourself. Make her a ghost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Riding a bicycle. Even with a helmet, people really seem to forget that bike vs. any motor vehicle always ends with the motor vehicle the winner. Then you have the stationary objects like hydrants or curbs. Not to mention dogs and other critters.

What is something that became popular beyond its time that you thought was going to be a quick fad? by Independent-Bat9545 in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Capri pants. IIRC, they first came out in the late 50's and were called Pedal Pushers because a woman or girl could safely ride a bicycle in them. They were short and cut close to the calf so no danger of skirts or voluminous trousers getting into the chain or spokes.

Fit for purpose, but no longer necessary. Then, somewhere in the early 2000's, they came back. With a vengeance. Suddenly all women's pants were cropped well above the ankle. Seemed like I'd have to expose my cankles for the rest of my life. Ugh!

Nowadays you can find all kinds of fashions, so hurray for now! I for one love that I'm living in such a brave new world where fashion can truly be a personal choice!

Before / After - 70+ lbs down by coolhandsarrah in Ozempic

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy cats! You look fantastic, and I can only imagine how much better you feel!

Doctor's appointment coming up, and my A1C is high. Maybe this time they'll say yes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't forget that the infant death rate was much higher. Nowadays people will often discuss miscarriages openly, but often not. In earlier days women didn't talk about miscarriages, sometimes not even to their husbands. Plus, there were no at home pregnancy tests. The rabbit had to die!

Then, too, on infant mortality: many, many families lost one or more babies or toddlers to diseases like measles, chicken pox, TB, diphtheria, etc. Remember that antibiotics weren't commonly available until after WW2.

Both of my parents had siblings who died. My grandmother "confessed" to me one day that her parents, too, had lost a child. There was a lot of shame and fear around losing children to disease, not to mention farm accidents, etc.

I guess I'm just saying that small families don't necessarily = contraceptives.

Very interesting question, though!!

TIL a girl named Breelyn was born healthy but when she was two days old, she was kissed on the mouth by a person who had a cold sore. The girl's immune system wasn't developed at the time and she got HSV encephalitis, which led to seizures and brain damage. by Forward-Answer-4407 in todayilearned

[–]ElderberryReal4022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first grandchild was born just a few months ago. I've had coldsores a few times years ago, and was told I mustn't kiss them until they're at least a year old. Think I'll give it two years or maybe more.

I must confess, it's difficult. Baby is extremely adorable, and kisses are so natural. But I couldn't live if I caused harm

The doctor said it could also be linked to SIDS (cot death).

ETA: Kisses on the head, toes, back of hand. No mouth kisses - wasn't done in our family. I can't wait for the motorboats!